As the saying goes, "No one speaks behind someone's back, and no one speaks in front of anyone." The meaning of this proverb is: Who doesn’t get gossiped about behind someone’s back, and who doesn’t talk about others in front of others? The problem of many people is that they do not criticize others face to face, but always like to talk about other people's shortcomings behind their backs.
In life, it is inevitable to be criticized by others, and it is inevitable to talk about others. This is the normal state of life, but when we are young we always want to distinguish between right and wrong. After a certain age, when we gradually look down on this, we are already old after retirement.
After retirement, we have gone through hard work and experience in the first half of our lives, dealing with familiar people and things, and we have already become familiar with it. However, in our post-retirement life, due to changes in the environment and living habits, sometimes when we get along with strangers, It is inevitable that there will be times when we can't stand it. We can't talk too much about , and we don't want to get angry. We only need to do these three things well, so that we can live our lives calmly.
Because of his quick words and words, he can express the fullness in his heart. As a result, interpersonal relationships become strained, and you even get yourself into unnecessary trouble. It's better to use instead and quietly resolve this knot, so that the rest of your life can be more relaxed and enjoyable.
Be calm and do not argue.
Mr. Yang Jiang once said: "When you see a person clearly without exposing it, you understand the meaning of the pattern; when you hate someone without falling out, you understand the importance of relief." In life, there are always things that can't stand, and there are also people who can't stand it.
Tea has only two gestures: ups and downs, and tea drinkers have only two actions: picking up and putting down. Life is like tea, calm when it sinks and indifferent when it floats. If you can hold it, you must also let it go.
Before retirement, we often had to fight for life, but after retirement, we have already seen through the world and learned to deal with it indifferently. When facing familiar or unfamiliar people around you, if you don't understand something you don't understand, just laugh it off. There is no need to argue about right and wrong in , which will not only make you sad but also add to the entanglement of words.
There is a law of interpersonal relationships: no matter which circle you go to, the general concept of meeting annoying people is the same. Even if you block this one, new ones will be added.
After retirement, we have quit the workplace, so we should live our lives quietly and don't waste time and energy on people and things that are not worth it, making ourselves uneasy and in a bad mood. Because the more you fight about , the more you will get yourself involved in unnecessary disputes. Some people don't need to care about it. Some things are not a big deal at all. The best choice is to take it lightly and not fight.
Whenever we meet someone we don’t like, if we choose to be calm and not argue, then we will win ourselves. We will not let our emotions burn inward, but we can do our own things with peace of mind. The right and wrong outside the window can be left to others. Yes, we just have to live our own lives.
Have some self-esteem and ignore
In life, 10% is destined by God, and the remaining 90% is written by yourself. There are many unhappy things in a person's life, and there are also many people who can't stand it. If you want to Arguing endlessly will make life very tiring. In fact, everyone has different cognitive levels and different views. No matter how long the argument lasts, the result will be in vain. It is better to keep the peace in your heart and live your own life.
After retirement, when faced with people and things that we can't stand, we just need to have self-respect, self-love, and self-improvement, and just ignore other people's affairs. In life, there are old people picking vegetables in the supermarket, putting the good ones in their pockets and picking out the bad ones. Many young people can't stand it, and there are also old people of the same age who can't stand it. If you say it, it will be a quarrel. If you don't say it, you will feel that such a person is really irritating.
There are also old people competing with young people for space to dance square dance. Many old people know that they are doing something wrong, but when faced with the leader of the square dance, they are angry and dare not speak out. They can only stand aside and watch. The most they say is Say "Forget it, let the young people play", and if it doesn't work, walk away quietly.
In life, some old people rely on their old age to show off their old age or are disrespectful to their old age.If one does not know how to respect oneself, behaves inappropriately, and commits many unethical and unethical behaviors, not only will people not be able to respect him, but he will even be disgusted and disgusted, and he will be looked down upon.
After we retire, when we encounter such people who cannot stand it, we should not mix with such people. It is wise to ignore them, because you don’t know when your good intentions will be criticized by such disrespectful people. The elderly have misinterpreted it and may even isolate you collectively.
The more we pay attention to some unworthy people, the more powerful they become. Only by ignoring them can we avoid trouble. When you try so hard to prove and respond, it becomes easier to get stuck. : Only by ignoring it will your emotions not be affected by others. When faced with people who cannot stand it, ignoring them and remaining silent is the most powerful way to fight back.
Be detached and don’t be angry.
Someone asked Yu Guangzhong, how should you deal with those people who find trouble with you every day and chase and scold you? Yu Guangzhong said that those who scold him every day prove that he cannot live without himself, but if he ignores them, it proves that he can live without him.
Writer Cai Lan was also asked the same question. He only answered in four words: "It's okay if you don't care." The tempering of life has already allowed us to see through and understand human nature and the impermanence of the world. We should retire after Afterwards, their mentality is peaceful and peaceful. However, some old people still have a competitive mentality, which is unacceptable and incomprehensible.
After retirement, we have long looked at everything and downplayed personal gains and losses, because the rest of our lives are short and precious. Some things are not fleeting. If you don’t bring them with you in life or death, nothing will be yours in the end, so is long overdue. See more clearly and live more detachedly .
But there are some people who like to take advantage of small things. One day they get groceries in the supermarket, tomorrow they get some food in the market, and the day after tomorrow they take away other people’s things from downstairs in the community, doing many things that undermine social morality.
In fact, when old people reach a certain age, they should learn to be more detached, more transparent, and live more clearly. They should not lose their dignity and bottom line for a little profit, which will not only make others disgusted, but also make life too tiring for themselves.
The remaining life after retirement is not long. We must learn to cherish time and live well. When we encounter people who stir up trouble, we should not argue, get angry, quarrel, or even fall out with such people, but use our limited time and energy. , use it in your favorite hobbies, improve your self-cultivation, and cultivate your body and mind with peace of mind. People and things that you don't like will become nothing as we gradually practice, and naturally they will not affect our mood. and life.
If you can’t stand someone, in the final analysis, it’s because you are not cultivated enough. After retirement, when we get along with others, when we meet someone we don't like, I just need to do well, be calm and not argue, be self-respectful and ignore it, and be detached and not angry, this is the best protection for myself.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
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