Everyone is an independent existence with different thoughts. It is difficult for us to change someone's mind. The only thing we can do is to change our own thoughts and practices.
When we were young, we always wanted to change the world and change other people's ideas. As we get older, we find that we cannot change the world or anyone. The only thing we can do is to adapt to this society and change ourselves to adapt to others.
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The kind of person we become will be the kind of person we hang out with. When I first came out of school to work, I felt that I had to work hard to make money. I had no education and no special skills, so I went to work with others. At that time When people from the north want to go to the south to work, they are usually introduced through an intermediary company, and they also have to pay a very high intermediary fee. I remember that at that time, it seemed that one person would cost a thousand yuan, but the one thousand yuan was much lower. A monthly salary, I remember that it was only more than 800 yuan a month to go to work.
Because the intermediary company hires people in a group, I thought it was quite good at the time. There were many people from the same hometown who were away from home, and with the familiar neighborhood children, I was not alone when I went out! But the idea was wonderful, but the reality was not. At that time, the neighbor’s children became a burden to me. Others were doing a good job and he was assigned to a pretty good workshop, but he felt dissatisfied.
At that time, the agency arranged for us, but he had already left. I called and arranged for him to move to another small factory. He quit after less than a month and felt it was too hard. (He comes from a divorced family. His father took him with him and he was accustomed to doing nothing since he was a child.) The problem is that he is familiar with me. He quits and comes to stay at my place. He sleeps in my bed all day long and cannot ignore his meals. , his father asked me to take more care of him when he came. He didn't listen even when I called his family. I had no choice but to resign and take him back. I didn't do anything when I went back. I slept all day long. When I had enough sleep, I got up and watched TV. If I had a little money, I would Surf the net.
His father was just a gatekeeper. Later, I kept working outside and rarely saw him. My parents told me to stay at home and not go out. His father had no choice but to go to the construction site in his free time. He was alive, because there was nothing wrong with looking at the door, and he stayed at home again. If he doesn't work, his father will only have to work hard to earn money. This is also related to the fact that his father has always spoiled him, and he is the only one to bear it.
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If someone does something wrong, if you can't convince them, you must stay away from them, otherwise they may change you, and you may even get bad habits.
When I used to work in the service industry, I worked two shifts. The work was quite easy. The busy hours were fixed every day, and most of the time I was free. Two of the foremen liked to gamble online. They started playing by themselves, and later I induced my colleagues to play together, and gradually I became addicted. One manager maxed out three or four credit cards in a month, and some lost hundreds of thousands. Others also followed suit. Fortunately, he was not addicted. I quickly withdrew, but the monthly salary paid by the two foremen was not enough to pay off last month's debt, so I wanted to take a gamble if I had some money. The other one was also a big player and gambled away the money from the cash register. In the end, the manager found out and was fired.
I have told them several times to stop playing. I know clearly that it is gambling, and you can only lose but not win, but they don’t listen. In fact, I was induced by them to play a few times, so I quickly stayed away from them and gave it to them. They say it's not good to have something to eat and have money, and they insist on gambling. They say they know it, but they just can't control their hands.
Only later did I slowly understand that there are many people and things that we cannot change, and even if we get close, we may suffer from them. Since you can't change, you must stay away. We can’t choose what bad things and bad people we encounter, but we can choose to stay away from them. What kind of environment you choose and what kind of people and things you surround yourself with will determine what you become.
