01: The ugliness of human nature
Many people in this world have some wrong outlooks on life such as bullying the weak, worshiping the strong who bully the weak, and appearance is justice. And people with these wrong outlooks on life do not get retribution as we imagine.
Many people have been wandering on the edge of law and morality, doing things that harm others and not benefit themselves. Many people have been adhering to the wrong ideas of materialism and do not take family, friendship, and love seriously.
In this world, there are not only good intentions, but also malicious intentions. As human beings, we cannot ignore the law of the jungle that exists in the world, nor can we ignore the ugliness in human nature.
Why do you say that?
I am an ordinary person. After graduating from college, I was deceived into a pyramid scheme by my girlfriend. I finally got out and my career improved, but I was tricked again and almost lost everything. Ordinary people like me can encounter such things, so will ordinary people like me also encounter the same or similar bad things?
For example, some kind-hearted people saw an old lady falling on the roadside and sent the old lady to the hospital out of good intentions. However, the old lady falsely accused the person who helped her and extorted the person who helped her.
For example, people who devote themselves to their families finally have a better life, but their partners betray them.
The malice that exists in the world can destroy people's self-confidence, courage, and happiness, and make people live in frustration and suffering. People who live in hardships and setbacks are considered weak in the eyes of many people.
We can see many people with a sense of justice online who stand up and speak out for people who have been treated unfairly. However, in real life, how many people can do this?
Many people would rather put their love on pet dogs and pet cats, but are unwilling to give a little love to help those lonely elderly people, disabled people, orphans in welfare homes, and children who cannot afford to go to school.
The world is cruel. As adults, we cannot ignore this cruelty. Because when friends are in a weak stage, almost no one is willing to lend a helping hand.
02: Bella’s case
If you want to live better in this cruel world and be looked down upon by others, friends must have the courage to face difficulties. But those who do not have this kind of courage will find it difficult to make the world fair to themselves.
Bella (pseudonym) is a female friend I met when I was working as an emotional counselor. She is a kind person, but also a weak person.
After Bella got married, in order to allow her husband to work peacefully, she quit her job and became a housewife. However, when Bella's husband's career gradually improved, Bella's husband betrayed her.
Bella was particularly desperate. She thought about divorce, but she had children. Bella also thought about finding a job and waiting until her job was stable and she could take care of her children before divorcing, but Bella could never find the courage to do this. thing.
Seeing Bella compromise, Bella's husband became even more unscrupulous and even brought someone outside the marriage home. Faced with the humiliation of people outside of marriage, Bella's husband remained indifferent and even joined forces with people outside of marriage to humiliate Bella.
Bella understood that her husband wanted to force her to divorce, but what if she knew her husband's intentions? Bella neither dared nor wanted to divorce.
Friends, after reading Bella’s story, what do you think? Bella, who is not looked down upon by others and is not living a good life, is the result of marrying a scumbag husband. However, if Bella can have the courage to face difficulties, can Bella make her life better?
From the ugly side of human nature, Bella, who lacks the courage to face difficulties, will be criticized by people around her even if she is divorced. Because Bella's bad mood and negative behavior will make the people around her feel more uncomfortable, and these people will subconsciously think that their misfortune is caused by being contaminated by Bella's aura.
Moreover, many people themselves are people who "don't take it too seriously". After learning that Bella was betrayed by her husband, these people may think that Bella's husband's betrayal must be due to something bad about Bella. Caused.
03: The courage to face difficulties
People's malice often comes from unfounded speculations and people's wrong outlook on life. If you want to put an end to people's malice, you must have the courage to face difficulties.
I particularly agree with this sentence. No disaster or misfortune can defeat ourselves. Only we can defeat ourselves. If people cannot overcome their inner fears and worries, they will lack the courage to face difficulties. People who lack this kind of courage dare not do anything except compromise and accept their fate.
The way to enhance the courage to face difficulties is not difficult. The key lies in whether friends are willing to change themselves.
Taking Bella as an example, if Bella learns that her husband is the kind of person who does not repent after betrayal, she can only pick up the courage to divorce decisively, and after the divorce, pick up the courage to overcome the difficulties in work and life. All kinds of problems, then Bella will definitely be able to build a new happy life instead of living in a painful and bad environment.
Try to do things that are beneficial to yourself, and you can accept them calmly regardless of the consequences. This is a necessary condition for the courage to face difficulties. Friends, can you do this?
