In a relationship, the more you try to please a person, the more likely the other person will make you feel heartbroken. Or at work, most people are always doing things against their will to please others. Use pleasing others to get the rewards you want. It is better to please yourself than to please others. Find something to please other than pleasing others, and indulge in it. When you do this to a certain extent, you will truly discover that the person you please the most should actually be yourself. We can't change the environment and people around us. Don't care what others think of us, and don't care whether the people around us care that we are still alive. We just need to let go of everything that is unpleasant, and we only cherish every day we are alive. No matter how hard it is, you have to bear it by yourself. No matter how tired you are, you know it. Only you can bear the hardship, tiredness and pain. You can only look away from everything, look down on the right and wrong of life, let go of everything and find the way of life you want. Let yourself find the joy of life on the road of life. People should be more selfish. When you are old, you cannot live just for others. You are nothing in the eyes of others. If you are useless, no one will care about you. Live in the moment. , live for yourself.
Zhou Guoping said: "Of all the responsibilities in the world, the most fundamental responsibility is to truly become yourself and live out your unique personality and value." In social relationships, we are ourselves first, and then when participating in social relationships , is a member of a social group. Someone said: "Pleasing is probably the most internally draining thing in the world. It not only wastes time and directs one inner drama after another in vain, but also chooses to be depressed at an age when you should improve yourself and do what you like. Losing the "self" you should have found is not worthwhile in terms of feelings and time. If you must choose to please, please be sure to please yourself. Pleasing others is a mental illness. Due to the lack of love from parents in childhood, Out of the instinct of self-preservation, a potential inferiority complex of seeking approval from others is formed. As a kind of inertia, it forms the personality in adulthood and becomes a kind of psychological defect that has no actual needs. I look down on you even more and make myself humbler. When you understand this truth, you find that you have wasted your good time, but you can't regain your dignity. Give up pleasing and live your life. People only live for themselves, as long as they feel comfortable. Do not violate public order and good customs, do not hinder others, and enjoy yourself.
Sima Qian said: "Every bustle in the world is for profit, and all the bustle in the world is for profit." "If a person is of "low value", then no matter how "lowly" or "humble" he is, sometimes it is in vain. Yang Jiang said: "We once looked forward to the recognition of the outside world so much, but we didn't know until the end , the world belongs to oneself and has nothing to do with others. "The sign of a person's immaturity is that he constantly aggrieves himself in order to gain the approval of others. We live in this world, and we are all independent individuals. No one cares, we are all acting, and we only need to earn money for profit. When you get money, don't care about anyone. People must have a conscience. There is no point in losing all conscience. Repay kindness. I have lived for half a century. Experience tells me that people who care too much about themselves will never get out of their lives. No matter how successful I am, the people around me who are somewhat capable and do well in their careers are not too self-centered. On the contrary, if they are too self-calculated, most of them will lose in the end, so I feel that the greater the feelings, the more they will gain. A line from "Who Makes the Call in My Youth": "You must understand the script of your life. It is not a sequel to your parents, not a prequel to your children, and not a sequel to your friends."
In life, don't please one person too much, but you should learn to love yourself first, and then love others. Feng Tang once said: "Only by daring to be yourself, daring to express yourself, and daring to please yourself can you survive in this chaotic world. Stand firm and live your own life. "You don't need to please others too much. You should devote most of your energy and time to cultivating yourself. Negative emotions between people are inevitable, and you must learn to deal with them correctly instead of blindly trying to please, Escape. To please others is to treat yourself badly. If you change a little, your life may be better. The life of a person with a pleaser personality is a tragedy. The old saying goes: "Those who flatter others seek to please themselves; A person who flatters a good person is a person who pleases others and seeks for himself. Both of them are wrong. "It means that you cannot blindly cater to others and lose yourself, nor can you just want to be happy for yourself without considering the feelings of others. Therefore, the best way to live in life is to please yourself first, and then please others. In a person's life, it always takes a period of time and a space to completely give yourself back to yourself, so that you can see clearly the path you came from and identify the path you will take in the future.
Instead of pleasing others, it is better to enrich yourself. , Only if you are excellent can you attract excellent people. If you are the sea, the rivers will come together; if you are the phoenix tree, the phoenix will come to live; but if you are garbage, it is better to please others than to please others. You should be alone in your own world, and let nature take its course in other people's world. When winter comes, the flowers and plants will wither. How many people will remember you, except your own family? Just be yourself and let it rain. As long as you don't get wet, no matter how the rivers overflow, only by keeping a certain distance between people can you have a certain sense of closeness. The lost past, the past that cannot be returned, cherish the time, cherish the relatives around you, those who once loved Live your life according to your own wishes, as long as you don't break the law and don't hurt others, this method is the most effective. Since no one cares that you are alive, then who else cares about you. Do you live out of your own self? The one who understands your own needs best is yourself, and the one who knows you best is yourself. This is not selfishness, but self-knowledge. It is about doing things for your own good. The sun and the moon move around, and the nameless Tao nourishes all things. I don’t know its name, but it is called Tao. People are just passers-by on the earth. They all come and go empty-handed. They are not even as good as an ant. The world is because of me. As for existence, when I am gone, everything has nothing to do with me. Everyone is the protagonist of everyone, and no one has anything to do with it. To reach the level of birds flying and fish leaping, people need to practice, need the economy as the foundation, need their own abilities, and need a good state of mind. , these are achieved through hard work and hard work, and are not easy. Most people are restricted by economic conditions and are bound by fate. There are too few people who do not have to make money and have no baggage, but it is right to free their minds and be bold. Sometimes, "I would rather be proud and lonely than be happy against my will." Everyone is acting, and the people who care about you are also acting. Everything is based on interests. Your life, death and pain have nothing to do with adults. If this is the case, why should you please others.
In this life, in addition to obtaining material satisfaction, people should also constantly improve themselves, enrich their hearts, and make themselves excellent and powerful.As an independent individual, you have an independent sense of personality. You live in this world with your kind heart and thoughts. When you cannot please everyone, you might as well learn to affirm yourself and encourage yourself. We only please ourselves. Try to be kind to yourself and live your life well every day. Be a positive person, have poetry in your heart, have a distant future in your eyes, go all out, leave no regrets, live hard, and have a bright smile. Forget, know how to be willing, in life, only by truly understanding the meaning of being willing can you be worthy of the calm and gentle determination between being willing to give up, not caring about it, not being greedy, and living the life you want in a down-to-earth manner.
