Someone asked on Zhihu: Why do people with high cognition make people feel indifferent?
Mo Yan has a soliloquy:
is slow, silent, and likes to be alone. He has a correct outlook on life, does not hold grudges, has a forgetful constitution, is more affectionate than you think, and is also colder than you think. The sentence
is quite touching.
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The more powerful a person is, the more he knows how to control his "mouth"
The more capable a person is in this world, the less he talks; the more powerful a person is, the less he talks; the more he is at the helm, the less he talks.
On the contrary, they are those half-hearted people who chatter non-stop.
You see, the more people drink leisurely at the wine table, the more they like to talk about the global situation and family and country affairs. The conversation was filled with excitement and indignation.
The more powerful a person is, the less likely he is to chat, and the less likely he is to get close to someone emotionally. Their focus is always on how far they can advance their goals.
Their time and energy are more valuable than our so-called feelings.
The poorer the person, the easier it is to be "emotionally kidnapped". You always think how others should be. If you don't help you or approach you, you are being indifferent.
Haha, it’s not.
There are only three things in the world, "other people's things, God's things, and your own things."
It’s not that people are not good at words, it’s just that they understand that they should talk less and do more.
Instead of chatting with people in circles, it is better to leave time to improve yourself.
As a person, the more he knows how to be silent, the more mature his mind will be, and he will become more and more distant from the social activities of eating, drinking and having fun outside.
In ancient times, Ziqin asked the teacher Mozi : "Is it helpful to talk more?"
Mozi replied:
"Shrimps, frogs and flies are constantly singing day and night, with dry mouth and tongue, but they don't listen. Today's view The rooster crows in the morning and night, and the world is shaken. What's the use of talking too much? "
It doesn't matter how much you say. What matters is knowing the timing and whether the words are valuable.
As the old saying goes: When the water is deep, you cannot speak, but when you are stable, you cannot speak.
Don’t speak out what others say is right or wrong; don’t speak out about falsehoods; don’t speak out about what others say; don’t speak out if you don’t believe in what others say.
Still water runs deep. The more treacherous a person is, the more low-key and unassuming he or she will be.
Nietzsche once said: Whoever shocks the world with his voice will remain silent for a long time.
A person’s strength starts from silence.
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The more powerful a person is, the more he knows how to reject others.
Writer Dazai Osamu said in " Disqualification in the World ":
"My misfortune lies precisely in my lack of ability to refuse. I am afraid that once I reject others, I will be in trouble with each other." It leaves a crack in my heart that will never heal. "
This is exactly the misfortune of many people.
In life, many people just accept all kinds of unwilling things because they can't forgive others and are embarrassed to refuse. In the end, they end up wronging themselves and fulfilling others, which only adds a lot of trouble to themselves.
Tsai Kangyong said: "Sometimes we have to be a cold person."
After the master painting Qi Baishi became famous, there was an endless stream of friends who came to ask for paintings.
The more famous Qi Baishi is, the more embarrassed he is to refuse others. Are you afraid that people will say that once you become famous, you will no longer recognize me and become indifferent?
can only do it, no one will be offended. As a result, I was tired both physically and mentally, and I fell seriously ill.
There is a kind of tiredness called inability to refuse.
He later reflected on himself and felt that life cannot be like this, and he must learn to refuse unreasonable requests.
So, after recovering from a serious illness, he posted a picture with a clearly marked price.
"Selling paintings regardless of friendship is a shame for a gentleman. Please pay according to the rules. Flowers plus insects and birds, each plus ten yuan, wisteria plus bees, twenty dollars each; once the painting has been out, go back and patch up the insects. No. If you go back and add a title to a painting that has already been made, you should not respond. "
" "Indifference" once, but there are more people asking for paintings. Moreover, once you learn to say no, you will have fewer troubles around you.
Harvard University once conducted a survey:
If a person learns to refuse reasonably, he can reduce more than 90% of unnecessary troubles, and can also reduce a lot of waste of personal time and energy.
There is a line in " Only Thirty ":
"A person who does not know how to refuse, all your acceptance is cheap."
Know how to refuse, which may seem indifferent to others, but it is transparent to yourself. .
Once you have the courage to say "no" to unnecessary things, you will find that your life will be different from now on.
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The more powerful a person is, the more he knows how to seek for himself at the expense of others.
My husband once had a close friend who had been in the business world for many years and now has a huge fortune.
The good friends who used to be together often get together, but he, a close friend, rarely attends gatherings and doesn't keep in touch often.
Their brothers lamented, this person, once he has money, he changes his mind.
My husband once drank with a friend of his, and while he was still drunk, he opened up and asked him this question. Brother
said something from the bottom of his heart: Others only see my outward appearance, but in the past 20 years of hard work, I have lost, suffered, and been cornered. Through the ups and downs, I have witnessed the cruelty of human nature.
He said, the closer you are to human nature, the farther away you will be from people.
No one cared about my helplessness and collapse, and no one cared about the process. Others only looked at the results. It's no use relying on anyone but yourself.
Over the past 20 years, I have developed a strong heart!
Only those with a strong heart can take the initiative in life and make themselves invincible in the end.
Once people see through the world, they will become indifferent. It is not that they lose the ability to get along with others, but that they lose the interest in making fun of others.
does not care about the opinions of others, nor does he care about whether he will gain or lose. He just listens to his heart and focuses more on himself.
I have experienced a lot in life, and when I reach a certain stage, I know how to let go of others, how to make subtractions in life, and how to seek self-interest at the expense of others.
Seek everything inward.
When a person's heart becomes stronger, his behavior will become "indifferent", because nothing can easily arouse their emotions.
can enjoy the better and take its time with the bad.
I am unfazed by favor and disgrace, watching the flowers blooming and falling in front of the court; I have no intention of leaving or leaving, just following the clouds rolling in the sky.
Conclusion:
Life, three thousand prosperity, I only take one scoop.
A powerful person,
is more affectionate than you think, and also colder than you think.
Author: Ziqian Shangshang, this article was first published by Ziqian Shangshang, focusing on the law of attraction, warm to the sun, and go up.
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