There is a line in my favorite movie "The Grandmaster": "People who practice martial arts have three realms: see themselves, see the world, and see all living beings." In fact, a person's temper cultivation also has the same three realms: see himself and observe his heart. And th

Author: Insight pumpkin

I don’t know what to forgive, but I sincerely feel that everything in the world can be forgiven.

There is a line in the movie "The Grandmaster " that I like very much:

"People who practice martial arts have three realms: see themselves, see the world, and see all living beings."

In fact, a person's temper cultivation also has such three realms:

See yourself, observe your original mind and become more open-minded;

See the heaven and earth, see the universe and tolerate differences;

See all living beings, read all things, and be compassionate.

There are hills and valleys in the chest, and there is no storm in the eyes. The scenery is everywhere, and the warm sun is everywhere.

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• See yourself and become strong inside.

There was a lion who was constantly provoked by a little mouse, but did not move at all.

Other animals were very puzzled and asked it: "You are the king of beasts, are you still afraid of mice?"

The lion replied: "I'm not afraid of it. It's just that if I get angry with it, it will only appear narrow-minded. But this mouse will win the honor of challenging the king of beasts. "

The weak are as angry as fire, and the strong are as calm as water.

Because there is a vast ocean in my heart, no matter how little wind or waves I make, I can't make waves in my heart.

Although Lincoln was the president of a country, he came from a lower class background, and his father was a shoemaker.

During his first inaugural address in the year he became the new President of the United States, a senator sneered in public:

"Mr. Lincoln, before you start your speech, I want you to remember that you are the son of a shoemaker."

’s provocation was full of gunpowder, and the crowd fell silent for a moment, like the calm before the storm.

Lincoln responded calmly:

"I am very grateful to you for reminding me of my father, who has passed away.

I will definitely remember your advice. I will always be the son of a shoemaker. And I know that I Being a president can never be as good as my father being a shoemaker."

Writer He Quanfeng said that whether it is insults, criticisms, attacks, gains or losses, successes or failures, for a person who is broad-minded and has a lot of wisdom, he will do the best. The heart is like a big lake. If you throw a torch into it, it will soon go out; if you throw in a bag of salt, it will soon be diluted.

People with a small capacity can be tempted by any disturbance or trivial matter;

People with a large capacity can stabilize their emotions and control their temper when encountering big things.

They have lofty pursuits and their hearts are strong enough, so the right and wrong in the outside world is just a grain of sand in their shoes.

Someone asked Yu Guangzhong : "How should you deal with those people who find trouble with you every day and chase you and scold you?"

Yu Guangzhong said: "He scolds me every day, which proves that he cannot live without me, and my ignoring him proves that I Your life can be lived without him. "

When you introspect everything and be firm in your heart, all criticisms from others will help you cultivate yourself better and achieve yourself.

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• sees the world and tolerates differences.

When a person is limited to one area of ​​the world and cannot see the distant world, he can only be trapped in his existing life experience.

Any lifestyle that is different from his is difficult for him to understand, and he refutes any views that are contrary to his knowledge.

So nothing I look at is pleasing to my eyes, nothing I do is satisfactory, and I often feel irritable and unhappy.

And those who have deep experience, have seen flowers wither and bloom, and walked through great rivers, can understand the differences, and their tempers are often gentle and gentle.

Lu Xun and Lin Yutang were once close friends.

Later, the political situation was turbulent. Lin Yutang had an easy-going personality and used soft writing styles to express his dissatisfaction with reality in a tortuous way. Lu Xun was fierce and fierce, using words as daggers and transformed into a literary warrior.

Differences in ideas led to the two drifting apart, and they never cooperated again.

In 1936, Lu Xun died of tuberculosis. Lin Yutang was very sad when he heard about it and wrote:

"Lu Xun and I got along twice, and we were estranged twice. I always respect Lu Xun... Generally speaking, seeing things in conflict with each other is a sign of separation and union." "

Even if they parted ways in the end, they understood each other's choices and did not break up, maintaining the dignity of a gentlemanly relationship.

A person who has seen the world is not intolerant and can respect people who are different from him.

Sima Guang and Wang Anshi of the Northern Song Dynasty, one was a conservative and the other was a reformist, and they had different political views and tit for tat.

When Sima Guang was ousted, Wang Anshi said to the emperor, "His character, ability, and literature are extraordinary."

Later, Wang Anshi came to power, but because his reforms touched the interests of those in power, there were numerous impeachments, and the emperor had no choice but to remove him. Re-enable Sima Guang.

When everyone pushed him down, Sima Guang spoke up for Wang Anshi in front of the emperor: "He has an open mind and has the style of an ancient gentleman."

People who have seen the world are not extreme and can tolerate different views from his.

In ancient my country, the "grand tour culture" was highly praised for a long time.

After a long period of roaming, I walked a lot of roads and saw a lot of scenery. Naturally, I have the mentality of "the mountains and rivers are in foreign lands, the wind, the moon and the sky are the same".

communicates and interacts with different people and appreciates the differentiated lifestyles, and then we have a pattern of "generosity and compatibility, and all things can be taken care of".

When your mind is open, there will be nothing that you cannot tolerate, and no one that you cannot tolerate. When the

pattern is enlarged, you will no longer be cynical and can accept the imperfections of life.

Just as Buddhism says: Get rid of self-attachment and prejudice, and all things will be accessible to the heart, boundless and limitless.

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• See all living beings and understand forgiveness.

Someone on the Internet asked: What does it mean to have seen the world? An answer that

agreed with very much said: If you have ability, you will understand humility; if you have wealth, you will understand thrift; if you have status, you will understand weakness.

Already aware of the vastness of the universe, I still pity the green grass and trees.

People who have seen the world are not without anger, but they are compassionate because they have experienced it.

Mu Xin has been in jail three times in his life.

The first time was in 1957, when several policemen took him away on the grounds of "planning illegal immigration."

In fact, he was framed by his classmates. Those people failed to smuggle into the country, so they got the unsociable Mu Xin as his back.

In prison, he learned the news of his mother's death and cried uncontrollably.

Half a year later, Mu Xin was released because there was no evidence, but he understood that many things in his life could no longer be restored.

The second time was in 1966, when Mu Xin was 39 years old.

An official openly laughed at the German poet Heine at a meeting. Mu Xin stood up angrily and cursed: "You are also screaming at Heine!"

As a result, he was sentenced to 18 years in prison.

was locked up in a dark and damp air-raid shelter, drank sewage, ate sour steamed buns and pickles, had three of his fingers broken, and was surrounded by rats and flies all day long.

Late at night when no one was around, he secretly hid his pen and ink and wrote a 650,000-word "Prison Notes". There is no accusation or condemnation in the full text of

, but only thoughts and perceptions about art, aesthetics and music.

The third time, Mu Xin was 50 years old and was imprisoned for another 2 years.

When he was released from prison, Mu Xin was smiling, his back was extremely straight, he was clean and elegant.

Liang Wendao once saw a photo of Mu Xin when he was in his 50s and exclaimed:

"This does not look like a person who has been in prison. What a strange, strange person."

Because of Mu Xin's face in the photo, There is no trace of complaint or suffering.

He was unjustly imprisoned several times. During the ridiculous period of more than ten years, he never complained about others, and wrote a memoir of his suffering with only one sentence:

"I don’t know what to forgive, but I sincerely feel that everything in the world can be forgiven."

People in the world are treacherous, and he saw it clearly. , which is why he underestimated it.

Because he has seen through human nature, he forgives human nature.

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I really like a passage written by Yu Qiuyu in " Mountain Residence Notes ":

Maturity is a kind of calmness that no longer needs to observe the words and expressions of others, an atmosphere that finally stops complaining and asking around;

a kind of ignoring A noisy smile, a kind of indifference that washes away extreme;

A kind of solidity that needs no publicity, a kind of height that can see far away but not steep.

People who have seen the world stand tall, see far, and have a strong heart. All the bad things in life are insignificant.

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