Li Wenli and his wife had two "excited" last night. These two excitements were one big and one small. The excitement was that the old couple secretly prepared for a month. They thought of going to Beijing to see their three-year-old grandson. The large packages of local specialties and the clothes they woven for their grandson were simply "sea" ( Dalian dialect means a lot). All things embodies the hard work of the old couple. Thinking of seeing their eldest grandson, what is the mood? "Excited" Yes, the son replied to the phone and did not hesitate like he did in the previous few times, but instead directly banned them from visiting their grandson. "What's so good about it?" Li Wenli and his wife's heart immediately fell into the ice hole, and the burning desire was instantly poured into cold water, and they were dizzy for a while. "It seems impossible to visit my grandson from now on."
The wife cried and complained to Li Wenli: "This is called repaid one by one, it's a sin." Li Wenli knew that she was in the wrong and regretted it: "Who thought that she would learn to do such a thing? Is it my fault?"
The two of them were "excited" and shed tears, mixed with indescribable helplessness, regret, sadness, and even Li Wenli shivered.
So, it is normal for grandparents who are thousands of miles apart to visit their grandchildren. They should be happy to welcome family happiness. Why has it turned out to be a refusal from their son? Moreover, this rejection is so natural, calm, and it's okay. Why did Li Wenli, who was so magically regretful?
Intuitive, often confusing eyes
Li Wenli is a worker in the city machinery factory. She is strong and like a tomboy. When she was young, she often competed with her male colleagues in the workshop team. She is also humble and studious and knows good welding skills. Although he is not pretty, he is youthful and energetic and lively. Soon, a master in the same workshop fell in love with him and her. The master is three years older than her, honest and hardworking, handsome, and skilled. Li Wenli was very satisfied, so the two established a romantic relationship and lived together. After living together, Li Wenli lived a life of a couple and soon became pregnant. In the 1980s, society was not very open. For women who were pregnant before marriage, there were often many people poking their fingers behind their backs, which linked this woman with an incorrect style.
Li Wenli's belly grew bigger day by day. In order to cover people's ears and eyes and avoid people's words, she used a big cloth strap to tie her belly hard, wore fat clothes, and talk less to avoid attracting others' attention. She even said that she was obese and had gained flesh even if she drank cold water.
Li Wenli and her fiancé did not dare to tell her family, so she made a decision in private that she would secretly give birth to the child and then put it at the gate of the welfare home. . . Just when they were frightened by the birth of their children, an accident happened. Li Wenli was stupid and unable to dodge. She was knocked down by an iron pile in the workshop and was unconscious and was immediately sent to the hospital for emergency treatment. Naturally, the secret of being pregnant for several months is exposed. But the child died, too.
While recuperating, Li Wenli was taken to her hometown by her boyfriend. In her boyfriend's hometown, the mother-in-law, who learned about the inside story, took water and delivered food, just like a daughter. Moreover, at this point, the two elderly people planned a wedding for Li Wenli and her boyfriend. For this reason, my boyfriend's house also sold a few cows.
Soon, Li Wenli became pregnant again. At this time, the second brother-in-law, who was a soldier, had a nurse working in the town's health center. Because the woman was not in the military's condition, their small family could only be placed next to her parents, and was about to get married and started to make furniture. Looking at the beautiful furniture, Li Wenli gradually became unbalanced: "Why is it so sloppy when I get married? There are only a few quilts?" It seems that my parents-in-law are too partial and treat me as rags and are willing to invest in my second son. This is obviously a persimmon that is specialized in picking soft-pulling. Seeing that I am not an unmarried girl, I just pick up the bargain to save money and let me get married in a hurry? "She had a grudge against her parents-in-law from the bottom of her heart.
Punishment revenge is terrible
After the son was born, Li Wenli walked out of her in-laws' house with her son in her arms, and did not let her son step into her grandparents' house again. However, she kept coming to her parents-in-law's house in spring, summer, autumn and winter, but she always had nothing to do when she came and had a full backpack when she left. What are the fruits, peaches, new vegetables, pork, chickens and ducks? As long as the old man raises the farmland that can be picked, she will do whatever she wants to be a porter.
During the holidays, she never took her son back to her grandparents' house. The old man wanted to see his grandson and specifically told her to take it back next time, but she still had a waste of time. She always had various reasons to make excuses: "Xiaohao (son's nickname) was taken away by his second aunt."
Other brothers and sisters came back to celebrate the New Year and accompanied her in-laws in their seventies, and they bought many gifts. The two of them were very embarrassed and pulled a station wagon with folded empty pockets inside, which seemed to be filled with many things that respect the elderly. In fact, these pockets come in handy before leaving, and take whatever they see is useful.
If someone asks me, how are you doing? Li Wenli also knew that it was not good to eat and drink, so she made up the reason: "Originally, her husband paid a bonus of 300 yuan at the end of the year, and took it home and put it in a cabinet. For some reason, she lost it. She suspected that Ma’s friend asked her to play mahjong that day and asked someone to steal it. Look, this matter cannot be said yet." She looked heartbroken. In the first year, everyone was really sympathetic, but for three consecutive years, it was the same version, and the money she had in her family was lost. People began to know it.
The brothers and sisters are unwilling to expose her. They know that their brother is afraid of her and just maintain their marriage.
Once, Li Wenli's youngest brother-in-law was seriously ill and was admitted to the city hospital. Her mother-in-law came to the hospital to visit and take care of her son. He temporarily moved into the home of Li Wenli, the eldest son. The mother-in-law hadn't seen her eldest grandson for several years and was very happy and played with him. Suddenly, the child turned the radio switch wide, and the sudden sound scared her grandson and fell off the cabinet. Fortunately, the son took action in time and the grandson was not thrown. Li Wenli thinks that her mother-in-law cares about her grandson, just like when her husband married her and her in-laws were unlucky. She held a gun and rod and scolded her mother-in-law, which made her cry and leave her house and live at her daughter's house twenty miles away.
Li Wenli and her in-laws "have got into trouble". After she got sick, her living income decreased, and she attributed the reason for her poverty to her in-laws' bias. Many of her mother-in-law's family members live in the city. Li Wenli often goes to these relatives' homes and complains, directly declaring that her in-laws deserve to be tired, and she will not raise her family when she is old.
Moreover, since childhood, she has always warned her son to have a promising future and be able to grow, and not let others look down on you. Others’ care and love for you are false, and it is better for parents to have it than they have.
Every winter and summer vacation, her son proposes to go to the countryside of grandparents’ homes to have fun. She firmly disagrees and tells her grandparents that she is biased and does not take his eldest grandson seriously at all. Infiltrate your son with your in-laws.
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Li Wenli's son has excellent academic performance since childhood and is tall and tall, which makes Li Wenli happy. However, this child is quieter than a girl, as if he is silent about family affection. My son also asked her why, over the years, people from grandma’s family always come to the house and don’t see people from grandparents and father’s family come to the house? Li Wenli's answer was to complain. And the son who already has some thinking ability said: "From the personality of his father, he should have the inheritance of being born in his grandparents. His father is honest and capable, and not good at talking. Why does his mother always scold his father?" Every time this time, Li Wenli scolds his son: "What do you know? A phoenix with hair plucked is not as good as a chicken. Mom is bullied everywhere in this life. You must have a future in this life. Let them see!" Her resentment came again.
In a blink of an eye, Li Wenli's son was admitted to university. In fact, Li Wenli's son was fine for his children to go to school. However, in order to take this opportunity to make a fortune, she turned her eyes, pretended to be poor and miserable, and called her relatives to borrow money.
The husband's family saw that their descendants were promising, and before Li Wenli could borrow money, they took out gifts to show their support. At this time, their parents-in-law were already in their 70s and had lost their ability to work. They squeezed out 2,000 yuan from the coffin board as a fee to support their grandson in college.
On the night when Li Wenli came to her in-laws' house, he and her husband sat outside to enjoy the cool air and heard their in-laws whisper. My father-in-law said, "I'm sick, maybe I'll leave one day, I'll leave, you can start to struggle with the things at home. The house is like, if you are willing to live, you will live for two years. You are timid and afraid of living alone, so you move to your old daughter's house. I think the old son-in-law is very good." The mother-in-law said,
"There is nothing valuable at home. The furniture belongs to the second wife. Let her take it away. That was what her brother paid for. How to deal with it? The second wife will find a way for herself." .
Li Wenli knew that the second brother had only one brother, his parents died early, and the two sisters depended on each other for their lives. It turned out that these beautiful furniture were the furniture her brother gave to her sister when she was not allowed, but her younger brother was sorry and gave the money to her sister. She also kept it as a souvenir.
However, Li Wenli may have become accustomed to her heart, and she still feels that her parents-in-law's heart is biased towards the second and third brothers, but she is not concerned about herself and her husband. Even this time, her parents-in-law never sponsored other grandchildren, but only sponsored her son alone, and she felt dissatisfied.
However, why did her son, who has always been proud, refuse to visit her grandson? Looking back. My experience is the same as my mother-in-law back then. Except for the full moon, my grandson will never see me again. Every time I call and ask about my grandson’s situation, I don’t care about it and ask me if I miss my grandson. I go to my son’s house to see it, but my son will never let me see it. This is equivalent to cutting off the relationship between grandfather and grandson. Destroy the life of family happiness.
graduated from a doctorate, has good emotional intelligence and IQ, and has a high annual salary. Why did his son "naturally" copy this "decisive"? There is a kind of revenge, called cultivating rejection of family affection, cruel and clever .
Li Wenli looked at the pile of gifts in front of her that she could not give out, savoring the bitterness of rejected family affection, and thinking foolishly. . .
Author’s later story:
Mother is the “teacher” who achieves children. The mother’s mind, demeanor, behavior, and treatment of things, how to see the world, how to treat others, over time, subtly, without wasting any waste or evaporation, completely poured into the children’s lives. On their growth and future, like millions of seeds, slowly fermenting, growing trees of various personalities, trees of emotions, strong trees to meet difficulties, or trees of depression and sluggishness. No, fantasy is spared, the foundation you have made will surely bear fruit from your children. Just like this article, the slim and careful Li Wenli punished her in-laws by refusing her in-laws to visit her son. She did not expect that this kind of bad deed was perfectly inherited by her doctoral son, and she became a rejected household. Is the way of heaven reincarnation? How sad, I deserve it.
