Recently, I almost broke up my home for a "outsider". It made me feel unconscious when I went to work and finally got through Saturday. I plan to take my daughter out for a break. Early in the morning, I received a call from my father-in-law in my hometown, asking my husband to pick up my nephew to live in my family. I couldn't help but have a fight with my husband again.
My story is really outrageous, no one believes it if you tell it. My husband Zhou Cheng is 35 years old this year and I am the same year as me. We are both college students from rural areas. We have our own home in our urban area of Dazhou and . Life is just as good.
My husband has a younger brother who is 5 years younger than him. He has been in the society after graduating from junior high school. He has been floating outside for so many years. When he was 23 years old, he brought back a Guangxi girl and gave birth to a son.
Even if he became a father, he did not take on more responsibilities. Because my family doesn’t have a mother-in-law, if I take care of the children, my sister-in-law has to take care of herself, so she can’t go to work and earn money. But my brother-in-law can't make money, but spending money is like flowing water. I often can’t live my life at home. My husband and I had just gotten married at that time and bought our own house with a loan. I have to pay back my loan every month and I have to help his unsatisfied younger brother. And his father's living expenses are paid by his husband.
As the saying goes, "Backing mountains and mountains fall, relying on the sea and sea wither, relying on others is never a long-term solution." After I gave birth to a daughter, our economy became tense and we couldn't afford much money to help them. Because of money, my brother-in-law and his wife often quarreled and had conflicts. Sometimes I admire my sister-in-law for being able to live with my brother-in-law for so many years.
Finally, anomalous love will end sooner or later, just waiting for the day when one side wakes up.
Just this year, my nephew is going to elementary school. Because my hometown is too far from the school, it is inconvenient to pick up and drop off the child. My sister-in-law thought about renting a house near the school to facilitate the child's school. Many parents in their hometown do this. But my brother-in-law couldn't afford the money. During the quarrel, he even beat his sister-in-law. Finally, my sister-in-law was desperate for this man. Filed for divorce.
my brother-in-law doesn't care. He leaves after throwing away the jar and threatens to take his son away, and he can't support him. My sister-in-law hasn't said whether to take the child away. My father-in-law jumped out and pulled his grandson. He said that his grandson belongs to his old Zhou family and must stay in the Zhou family.
My brother-in-law also started arguing with my father-in-law, saying that he would not raise him, and he could not even afford to raise his own children. But my father-in-law said that we would raise it for me and my husband, because we don’t have a son anyway.
As he said that, he called me to tell me about this. I gave my husband the order to let my child come to my house when school starts. From now on, the child will live in my house and we will raise him as his own son.
After listening to my father-in-law's words, my mind was buzzing like a bomb. My husband was stupid, too. It is too big to make a decision. He went to persuade his brother-in-law not to divorce.
, but I was helpless, my sister-in-law had decided to leave. Leaving early. The child stays in his hometown.
father-in-law and brother-in-law call every day to urge their husband to pick up the child. I suppressed him and didn't let him go. Why do we have to get involved in other people’s affairs? They have parents and mothers, and the law does not require them to raise their nephews!
I don’t let my husband pick him up, “Why should I raise a child for others?” My husband said to me, “Why are you so sympathetic? The child has no mother anymore. How pitiful. We are not going to be a companion with our daughter when we pick him up. The child is so raised very well. As an aunt, you are kind-hearted, and he will remember your goodness.” He really doesn’t hurt his back when he stands standing. He has never taken care of his daughter since he was a child, so he feels easy to raise a child.
"Zhoucheng, how stupid are you? You have never taken care of your children. You have seen others take care of them. You don't have to spend energy and money on what kind of food, clothing and clothing are used. I won't talk about how much you eat. You must not wash clothes every day, and you cannot teach them every day when you study. Do you have to be responsible for your safety? Remember, this is someone else's child. If you raise well, you will have no credit. If you make any mistakes, you will be fully responsible. Don't talk about brothers at that time, you will become enemies." Although you are angry, you still can't help but want to persuade him, hoping that he can listen.
is helpless. People are determined to be a good person, and they also say that my wife's opinion is petty.
Because of this mess, I seriously affected my mood. I finally waited for Saturday and planned to take my daughter out to relax. When my father-in-law heard that he called his husband to pick him up again, his husband agreed. I was so angry that I had a fight with her again. I took my daughter out.
Watching her daughter picking strawberry happily in strawberry , laughing constantly. The depression in my heart was also wiped out. After finally relaxing, my husband suddenly called me. I didn't answer. Since he said that the child was easy to take care of, he would take care of himself. I would never care.
The next afternoon I drove back with my daughter. The moment I opened the door, even though I was mentally prepared, I was still shocked by the scene in front of me.
I saw the snack packaging bags and snack crumbs in the living room. The sofa cover I carefully selected was pulled to the ground. The light gray sofa was covered with messy patterns of watercolor strokes. My daughter threw a box of new watercolor pens everywhere. My nephew curled up on the sofa and ate chocolate in his shoes, saliva flowed onto the sofa, looking extremely enjoyable. He also held his daughter's beloved little white rabbit doll in one hand.
My daughter saw that her beloved little white rabbit was being held by someone else, and immediately ran over and pulled it hard, shouting, "My, it's mine, I'll give it back to me." Before I could even pull my daughter, the two started fighting. At first glance, my nephew was a veteran of fighting. He pulled his daughter's hair hard and cursed. The daughter burst into tears in pain and cried constantly.
I hurried over and told my nephew to let go. That was my sister. But my nephew said that my daughter deserves to be beaten if she stole his stuff. He also spoke dirty words. I was so angry that I picked up the broom next to me and beat it. He was not convinced and wanted to fight back and hit me. Finally, I was frightened by the anger I exuded and honest.
My husband is back (I just went to buy cheese sticks for his baby nephew), and my nephew also complained that I beat him. Just when my husband was about to ask me for a crime. I threw the hair that was pulled off my daughter's head at him, "Your nephew did a good job, your heart is tilted to the Pacific Ocean. Can't you see your daughter crying too?" I was extremely disappointed with him.
Looking at the messy feet in the living room. I hugged my daughter into the room. I quickly packed up a box of luggage and planned to take my daughter to my sister's house for a temporary stay. My brother-in-law rarely comes back when she works in other places. It was very convenient for me to stay. I'm afraid that my daughter will have no foothold in this home, and this boy is too strong. He is completely a little scoundrel, and he has obtained his father's true teachings. Never let my daughter stay in the same place with him.
When I went out, I said to Zhou Cheng, "You go and check the surveillance camera and you will know how capable your nephew is. You deserve to be your brother's son. You have dared to attack elders since you were a child. I can't say anything about scolding your daughter. I feel sorry for your daughter. I don't dare to let her stay with such people. Your uncle and nephew have to live with each other."
After saying that, regardless of my husband's shouting, I took my daughter to pull the box and walked out of the house.
There is always no shortage of selfish people in this world. They only think about themselves when doing anything. The younger brother-in-law is so selfish that he doesn’t even raise his own son. My father-in-law is so selfish that he only cares about his little grandson. My husband’s selfishness lies in his self-righteous responsibility.
The third day after I came to my sister's house, I received a call from my husband in the evening, asking me to take my daughter home. He said that he had sent my nephew back. No matter how I ask. He told me about the past few days.
It turned out that the day after we left, my husband found a custodian class for my nephew to send it to him on Monday. Unexpectedly, it was delivered in the morning. After lunch, the teacher called my husband to pick him up and deal with the problem.
The nephew broke a girl's head because of robbing something. The parents refused to let go and made a big fuss. My husband apologized and lost money to settle the matter (he was embarrassed to call me). I taught my nephew a lesson because I was angry. As a result, my nephew called his father and grandfather to cry.The old man didn't care about right or wrong, he only knew how to protect his grandson. He scolded my husband and said that he was not attentive to his nephew and beat him just one day. I scold my husband for being heartless.
My brother-in-law didn't say a good thing to him either. People who don’t raise their own sons know that they feel sorry for their son at this time. My husband blames him for not beating his son. We need to educate ourselves well.
Honey said that his mood was really as uncomfortable as eating a fly. He is the one who is thankless to work. At that moment, he deeply felt that what his wife said was right. "If someone else's children are raised, you will not make any contribution. If something goes wrong, you will be your enemy."
And after two days of contact, he also knew that this child is not naive and kind like ordinary children. He has more hearts than anyone else, his mouth is not clean, and even speaks to him. He is a little scoundrel, and he is comparable to his father. It has no confidence that it can teach such a child well. It’s better to send it back. It’s best if the child’s mother can take it away. If it’s too late, we can pay some money. But I really can't take it to my own home to raise it.
I am very glad that my husband finally figured it out. I also understand one truth. Don’t say what’s unreasonable. When he hits a nail, he will know that it hurts. Don’t persuade anyone who can’t persuade him. When he hits the wall, he will know that he is wrong.
