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I am Lao Zhang, and I am 68 years old this year.
Before retirement, I was a small leader of a local company. Once upon a time, I was also a glorious person.
My wife and I have always been in love and have a daughter. After my daughter graduated from college, she stayed in the provincial capital to work, and we even bought a house for her.
helped my daughter and brought her little granddaughter to 3 years old. My wife and I thought to enjoy life and go out for a trip in the future. Wherever you go, you will stay for a while when you see the scenery is good.
However, we planned it well, but my wife's body suddenly had problems. After a check, it was advanced breast cancer.
Although the operation was performed, my wife still couldn't hold on.
, from discovery to death, it took only more than 8 months. During that time, I was really tormented and my daughter was even more tormented.
After my wife passed away, I chose to live alone in my hometown. Although my daughter repeatedly asked me to live with them in the provincial capital, they had different living habits, and my daughter's mother-in-law was there, which was really inconvenient.
I returned to my hometown, and I was surrounded by familiar old friends. I could chat and play chess together, and my mood was a little relaxed.
is just a person's life, which is quite inconvenient. I just make do with it when I eat, I don't want to do it, and I don't have the motivation to do it.
Not long after, I got sick and was hospitalized. I don't want to tell my daughter that she is pregnant with her second child.
The week I was in the hospital, I hired a nursing worker for myself.
The caregiver Xiao Huang is very good and takes good care of me.
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When I was discharged from the hospital, I was already very familiar with Xiao Huang and she knew everything about my situation. She felt sorry for me and was afraid that I wouldn't cook. Later, she tried to take the time to come to my house to help with cooking while she was resting. And Xiao Huang makes a lot of money at one time, and she stocked up a lot of dumplings she made in the refrigerator.
Xiao Huang said that I can eat the dishes she cooks. Dumplings and wontons are ready to eat them.
For this reason, she will also supervise me. Whenever she has time, she will call me to ask if I have eaten.
I am a big man. She cooks everything at home before my wife passed away. After she passed away, I realized that I was really not good at tidying up housework. Every time Xiao Huang comes over, he will help me clean it up.
To be honest, I was very sorry for someone who helped me like this, so I offered to give her 1,000 yuan a month, but Xiao Huang didn't even accept it.
Why don’t I be moved by such a good person?
As I get along, I also understand Xiao Huang more and more. She has a son who is in college and her husband died in an accident in a car accident. It has been seven or eight years.
She works as a nursing worker in the hospital and also earns tuition and living expenses for her son.
To be honest, I admire her very much because I see optimism and tenacity in her.
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When my daughter was in confinement, I had gastroenteritis again.
At that time, I really didn't know who to look for. I also have a sister and a younger brother who are all helping my children take care of their children in other places, and I am the only one in my hometown.
Everyone is busy and each has their own things to do.
There was no way later, so I could only call Xiao Huang with shamelessness. This time Xiao Huang sent me to the hospital.
is just right. She had a rest for those two days. She originally planned to go to the provincial capital to see her son, but I was sick and she could only take care of me.
This time I stayed in the hospital for a week, and the nurse was still Xiao Huang, but I felt different about her.
Yes, I was thinking about it.
I have always taken good care of it and look ten years younger than my actual age.
The monthly pension is more than 7,000 yuan, and there is not much expense. There is still 500,000 in the bank card.
This 500,000 was left to me when my wife passed away. She made some money in business in the early years and had more than one million in her hand. Before my death, my wife distributed the money to me and my daughter.
She said, this is my money, my daughter has a life, I have my own life, I have some money in my hands, it is always good.
What my wife said makes sense, I didn't refuse.
pair, there is still a house for rent at home, and there is a rent of nearly 2,000 yuan per month. I also collect this money.
Now, I basically spend very little on my own. I think Xiao Huang can be less hard and give her my pension every month.
thought about it for several days, and when I was discharged from the hospital, I was still embarrassed to speak to Xiao Huang. After all, I am already a bad old man. Xiao Huang is so younger than me, she has a better life.
One month after being discharged from the hospital, Xiao Huang took the initiative to mention that if I don’t dislike it, we will live together.
I know Xiao Huang admires me a little, after all, I used to be a cultural person.
struggled for two days and I agreed. After
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, I went to the provincial capital to see my grandson and took the initiative to mention this to my daughter. Unexpectedly, she objected very much.
My daughter said, I am so old, why are you trying to do it?
I told my daughter all my difficulties, but she didn't expect that she disdained her and said that I must have been deceived. If I feel lonely, I can come to the provincial capital to live with her, otherwise I can buy me any good things from others.
None of us convinced each other, so we naturally did not reach an agreement in the end.
After I went back, I still followed the original plan and told Xiao Huang that I can’t treat her badly when I got married. I want to give her a 100,000 betrothal gift.
The next day, I also went to apply for a card and gave the 100,000 yuan card to Xiao Huang. When I gave her a card, I could see that she was a little surprised. Maybe she thought I was just talking.
But I don’t want to feel wronged because she is so good to me and she is worth it.
Just when Xiao Huang and I were discussing that we would go to get the certificate after a few days, my daughter suddenly came back and took away the household registration book and the real estate certificate. She said she was afraid that I would be obsessed with it.
My daughter said, if I get the certificate, she won’t know how much trouble she will be in the future.
I was so angry that I had a big fight on the phone. I told her that I could transfer the other rented house to her name now. Isn’t she just afraid that Xiao Huang will think about our house? Is this how she feels at ease?
Unexpectedly, my daughter still disagreed. She said, I was not so kind to her mother before.
At that time, I was busy with work and probably ignored my wife. Now I am retired, so I have a lot of time, which is normal.
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Neither my daughter convinced anyone, so in the end I could only ask my son-in-law to help reconcile. The son-in-law said that if he helped me, he would scold me.
I also know that my daughter was spoiled by me.
Xiao Huang said that in a few days of vacation, her son will come back and she will take me to see her son. As for the evidence, if my daughter disagrees, we will not receive it.
The more she does, the more guilt I feel.
To be honest, with Xiao Huang's care, my physical and mental state has improved a lot, and I feel that I have fun living. Unfortunately, my daughter doesn't understand. She always feels that Xiao Huang is thinking about our little property.
Actually, as far as I know, Xiao Huang’s husband died, and there was a lot of compensation at that time, but she didn’t move and saved it for her son.
The money she has in her hands is much more than mine. I am just that little thing, I’m not in good health, I’m a bad old man, what else can I think of?
There are so many people in the small town that I don’t want Xiao Huang to be embarrassed, so I want to get a marriage certificate with her openly.
What should I do? I also hope everyone can give me some ideas.
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suggest that Uncle Zhang communicate well with his daughter. The daughter does not understand the uncle's loneliness and loneliness, and does not understand his helplessness after he gets sick. I don’t understand even more. His father’s heart does not want to disturb his daughter’s life.
Some people say that the adopted children are just for the sake of getting old, are there anyone taking care of them? However, many elderly people are now seeing more and more clearly that their children have their own lives. If their children are flying kites, they can't bear it and are unwilling to pull them down, just hope they can be more promising.
This is the heart of parents.
Therefore, many parents learn to report good news to their children only but not bad news when they get old. What they are afraid of is that they are worried and what they are afraid of is that they affect their work.
Uncle Zhang can ask his daughter what she is worried about? If it is property, you can transfer the house to her first. Other aspects can also be discussed.
Isn’t Xiao Huang taking care of him so young? Isn’t it better to find a nanny? There is someone who takes care of Uncle Lao Zhang so that his daughter can work with confidence, and Xiao Huang has to balance her mentally.
Even if you talk about your relationship again, you must also negotiate the economy.
Uncle Zhang’s daughter, you can have a good talk with them, make an agreement, or askUncle Zhang to notarize in advance.
interests have been reached, and everything else is easy to deal with, right?
What do you think about this? Do you agree to Uncle Zhang marry Xiao Huang?
