. Today, we suddenly met Teacher Yang again. For five years, we have met unexpectedly on the road, and we said hello and left in a hurry. Never stopped and chatted seriously.
This morning, when she and her old colleague Qin Ruan played together until half past ten, they were about to go home to prepare lunch for her paralyzed wife, we met again. She said it was still early, so she started chatting with me.
She first asked my daughter if it was good. I said it was very good. I got married and had a happy life after marriage. I gave birth to a son half a year ago. I found the video of my grandson. It was white and fat, lively and cute. She praised while watching: "It's so cute, it's so good, give birth to another one."
I was infected by her happy look and laughed out loud.
Next, she asked my parents if they were fine. I said they were gone. She expressed her regret because my parents were the same age as her, and she was still so active, and I was glad for her.
I asked her, "Aunt Yang, didn't you go to Changchun five years ago? She said she settled in Changchun with her son and didn't plan to come back. You asked me to sell the house, but you came back not long after, and I kept wondering! Why didn't you stay in Changchun?"
She said, "Oh!" and said, "Don't mention it, my son is gone."
I subconsciously "Ah!" He asked anxiously, "What's going on? It's so unexpected."
She said, "My tears have just been shed. I didn't want to mention this sad thing anymore. Today I will briefly talk about it! Five years ago, when we went to Changchun, he was already very ill. I took care of them for two months and he left."
was originally going to Changchun to reunite with his son happily, but he didn't think it was a difference between yin and yang? What a painful blow to send a white-haired man to a black-haired man!
His son has always been her pride. He studied in France and started a business after returning to China. It was fine at first, but later he failed repeatedly. He was depressed because of this and always felt that he had no face to face his family and could not raise his head in front of his wife and son. So he wandered alone all year round, nearly 50 years old, and ended up in depression.
This is a tragedy, which is a tragedy for a person and a family. I have been thinking for a long time and feel that such a tragedy is directly caused by family education .
There are two types of children's excellence. One is the energy burst out by the child itself. This energy makes the child perform outstandingly in all aspects. This is true excellence. Only such excellence will have a bright future. Another kind of excellence is forced by parents. The parents are strong in character and are eager to make their children stand out. They push their children upwards. In the end, they may be pushed to the altar. However, the child is not a god after all, and does not have divine power and cannot burst out the energy like the universe. Once he loses the help of his parents, his true form will be revealed. If an ordinary person falls from the altar, the result will be "not breaking out in the dark, and he will die in the dark."
Teacher Yang is beautiful, versatile, and superior to others everywhere. Her husband is also a famous handsome guy. How can their children be worse than others? Therefore, the torment in my heart is unimaginable from childhood to adulthood.
Entrepreneurship is not learning. Even if you are a top student, you are successful in your studies, but you may not succeed in starting a business. However, for Teacher Yang, her son will succeed no matter what he does, and he will not fail. This has become a constancy. Once this constancy is broken, she can't stand it, and her son can't stand it, so it's not surprising that his son is always escaping, and it is not surprising that a tragedy will occur in the end.
Therefore, it is important for people to know themselves and understand themselves. You must choose the path that suits
. This is the most basic guarantee for family happiness and personal happiness.
