Life is like a play, and play is like life. Sometimes, people’s experiences are more legendary than movies. Sometimes, it feels like a dream, but it's not a dream.
Let’s continue to listen to other people’s stories:
Until my ex-husband came to see me, my husband didn’t know that I was married
, my name is Kangdi. In a very poor mountain village in Gansu Province.
One day last month, I suddenly received a call from Liu Dajun. He said he missed me and said that he was working in my city and asked if I could meet?
I almost threw the phone on the ground when I heard it. I was afraid Song Feng would hear it, so I hung up and set the phone number just now to reject it.
When my daughter Xiaoyu was doing homework in the bedroom, his son was playing games, and her husband Song Feng was cooking for us in the kitchen.
After I hung up the phone, my heart throbbed. I was afraid that this happy life in front of me would suddenly disappear.
I don’t know how Liu Dajun knew my phone number? What is the purpose of his call? Did he come to make trouble when he heard that I am doing well now?
That night, I spent the night in restlessness and speculation.
spent the next second day, the third day... the fifth day... I thought he would not call again, but he changed another two weeks ago. The number is calling.
At that time, I happened to be walking alone on the road,I asked angrily what he wanted to do? He said: "No...what else, just...just...just want to meet...meeting!"
I was very impatient to hear Liu Dajun stammering and I told him I didn’t have time. If he calls me like this again, let his wife know.
did not think about him, but said: "I...no wife, she...she divorced me..."
When I heard this, I knew that some things must be met and told him clearly, otherwise he would still Will fight again. So I made an appointment with him, and agreed to meet on time at two o'clock in the afternoon three days later.
two
Three days came soon, and I met Liu Dajun at the appointed place.
Liu Dajun is wearing a military green cotton coat. He is still as thin as before, his face is not very good, and his hair is messed up by the wind. Seeing me, he seemed very excited. He approached me a few steps and then said: "Zhao...Zhaodi, you get fat, and people become...beautiful!"
Seeing him like this, my heart feels soft. , I don't feel so disgusted with him anymore.
thought that he might not have eaten yet, so he led him to a stir-fry restaurant and ordered two bowls of rice and a few home-cooked dishes for him to talk while eating.
The fate of Liu Dajun and I is a long story. Liu Dajun and I have not seen each other for more than ten years. Liu Dajun is my ex-husband and the son-in-law hired by my family.
Speaking of this, many people may laugh at it. There are nine daughters in my family, which is not a few who died and gave away halfway through.
In order to give birth to a son, as far as I can remember, my mother spent most of the time hiding in Tibet. My family was originally the poorest family in the village, but even the only two broken wooden doors. The person in charge of family planning was removed,The reason is that they can't catch my mother, so they can only use the door to vent their anger.
Even so, my mother did not give birth to a son in the end. For this reason, our family has been discriminated against and ridiculed by the villagers since childhood.
No one in Murakami will look at our family. Our sisters are not being bullied by the naughty children and then beaten and scolded by their family.
It’s good for us not to cry at this time. When we cry, we are not sympathetic to others, but humiliation again.
Regarding these, we will not tell our parents when we go home, because we know in our hearts that even if we say it, it’s useless. My parents don’t dare to care. My parents also fight.
three
Fortunately, although poor, my dad also allows our sisters to read some books, and I am more fortunate than a few sisters, because I I dropped out of school after finishing the first year of junior high school.
When I was 16 years old, the four sisters above were all married. Only me and four younger sisters were left in the family. The four younger sisters were much younger than me. At that time, some of them were in elementary school and some were still in school. Language.
I became the main worker in the family. My dad is old and thin, so he doesn't have much energy to work. My mother was sick all over because of having too many children and couldn't go to the ground.
So, as an underage, I have become an adult. He is proficient in arable land, farming and weeding. Not only that, we grow plastic greenhouses in our village, including eggplants, peppers, cucumbers beans, etc.
Whenever picking, my parents can only help picking, the next thing: one person struggles to fill the bag, wait for three or four in the middle of the next day,One person desperately carried seven or eight bags of vegetables to the bus, and then one person waited for the buyer at the vegetable market...
When I was almost 18 years old, some people in Murakami saw me better than others. Men can do it. They all ran to my house to help the children of their relatives propose marriage to my parents. It was normal to propose marriage, but because my family is poor, I was introduced to either the lame, the blind or the disabled, but my dad tactfully refused. NS.
Liu Dajun entered my house at this time and became the door-to-door son-in-law.
My dad has always had this heart, and it happened that the matchmaker said about it. He said that there was nothing wrong with his family, and his family was in the mountains. Many brothers couldn't afford to marry a wife and I didn't think there were too many poor children in my family.
When my dad heard this without thinking about it, he immediately agreed, and asked the matchmaker to show him another day.
After the matchmaker left, I blamed my dad for not discussing this kind of thing with me, but my dad said, "Thank you, our family is the most sensible. This is the reason why I want to keep you, just our family. This condition is pretty good that people are willing to come. How can we choose?"
I said to my dad: "Who said that people can't choose if they are poor, and I don't lack arms and legs?"
My dad started to reason with me earnestly. He said, "You know what you are like to propose to you before? People who are in good conditions don't want you, and those who are in poor conditions will find those with fewer children. Let's talk about it. , A son-in-law and half a son, if you do this, I will have some confidence in front of people in the future, and Murakami will not make irresponsible remarks..."
four
Listening to my dad, I can't talk back anymore, what my dad said was actually true.
The man my eldest sister married is a bit silly, the second sister married with scars on her face and looks very ugly. The family is as poor as mine. The third sister married an old man whose son is about to marry a wife, and the fourth sister married very bad,Probably this is the sorrow of the poor, and even the matchmakers who propose marriage are more realistic.
When the matchmaker brought Liu Dajun to my house a few days later, my dad liked it at first sight. As for my mother, she doesn't have any say in my family. My dad decides everything in the family, so I don't know what she thinks, but she seemed very happy that day.
Liu Dajun is very tall, about 1.8 meters, thin, and looks very honest. Apart from stammering, he has no shortcomings in other aspects.
Compared to those introduced by matchmakers, I don't hate Liu Dajun, but I don't like it. Maybe it's not just because of his stuttering. I always think he is a bit of a bitch.
But because there is no choice, I have to admit it. A month later, under the witness of a matchmaker and a few village officials, he joined my family, and we also had a simple but formal wedding.
At the beginning, Dajun Liu was indeed very real. He helped me work in the field, was filial to my parents, and was kind to my younger sisters. Our family gets along very well.
But three years later, he slowly changed. First, we slept in the morning and didn't go to work in the field. We quarreled about it. After that, I talked back to my parents at every turn and scolded and cried my sisters from time to time.
I asked him why, but at first he refused to say. I was so anxious that I told me that because the people in the village laughed at him secretly, saying that I could not give birth to a child, and that he was helping my dad to raise the child.
As soon as I heard this, I couldn't speak. Yes, this is indeed my shortcoming about having children, and it is also something I don't want to mention.
For unknown reasons, I have been married to Liu Dajun for three years, and I just can't get pregnant.
In addition to having no money to go to the big hospital, all the village doctors around have seen it,The medicine I took for this added up to a lot, but it didn't work at all.
Later my dad heard that an old doctor who was a dozen or so villages away from my home took care of this disease and led me there. When I came back, I followed the prescription prescribed by the doctor and took Chinese medicine for almost half a year, but it still didn't work.
Even if Liu Dajun doesn't say it, I also know who as a man doesn't want his own children?
Liu Dajun said that I was a little ashamed, and I felt very sorry for him.
five
The New Year will begin soon.
As usual, my dad sent me and Liu Dajun to pay a New Year greeting to my mother-in-law and father-in-law in the first year of the new year.
After sitting in the car for almost a day, I finally got to my mother-in-law's house, but when everyone was sitting together for dinner, my mother-in-law suddenly said to me, "Hope you and the army will go out to work after the end of the year, otherwise In the case of your family, when is it heady like a bottomless pit?”
I didn’t speak at first, but later my father-in-law and Liu Dajun’s brothers started to complain about the number of children in my family, saying this Going down will drag me and Liu Dajun to death.
The more I listen to this, the more uncomfortable I feel. There are so many children in my family, but I haven't concealed it from them. Besides, my father and mother are not in good health. If I don't care about them, what should my sisters do?
I told everyone what I was thinking in my heart, and I told them that I would never leave my parents and a few sisters behind.
Maybe I would refute it. My mother-in-law’s chopsticks were thrown away, and then stood up and pointed at me to the faces of several women and screamed: "If you want to die, I won’t stop it, but don’t get tired. My son.Everyone knows that when you buy a hen, you will get a chicken, but you can't even have a baby. My son didn’t come to feed your family..."
At this time, instead of persuading him, Liu Dajun accused me of his mother-in-law: "Just...yes, my mother said...that's right, I'm not feeding. ...Live... from your family. "
Everyone on the table looked at me in unison. I shed my tears and lowered my head to say nothing. As the saying goes, "I don't hit someone in the face, and I don't make a short curse." "But regardless of the circumstances of my family or my own reasons, anything that comes out of someone else’s mouth is a shortcoming.
I was really sad at the time, but this sadness has nothing to do with self-esteem, because I have nothing to do with it. Capital has self-esteem.
At that time, it was actually more than 2000 years. It is ridiculous that other people's families are well-fed and well-off, but my family often lacks food.
Especially during the New Year, my dad and I were buying new year goods. Look at others’ faces and borrow money everywhere, but my sisters can’t take care of themselves, let alone help.
I can’t even afford a pair of shoes for ten dollars. I always wear what I make by myself. Cloth shoes.
In this kind of environment, the word "self-esteem" is really the most useless in front of me. I cried at the time, maybe because I couldn't fight my destiny!
六_ p2p
On the second day of the new year, Liu Dajun stayed at his house for the New Year. I changed the car several times before returning to my house.
When I arrived at my house, it was getting dark. My dad was sitting in the pit and drinking. My mother made pots of tea. My sisters were playing in the yard. When he saw me entering the house, he opened his eyes in surprise and asked me: "Why come back so early, how about the army? "
I pretended to smile and said that Liu Dajun was going to be with their relatives and couldn't come back temporarily, and I was not used to sleep at night at Liu Dajun's house, so I rushed back.
When my dad was relieved, he smiled and said, "I'm relieved, I thought you were in conflict." After speaking, he thought of something wrong, and frowned and complained. I came and said that I would stay a few more days if I was not used to it. It would be too rash and rude to come back, and it would make my mother-in-law and father-in-law unhappy.
I didn't answer the conversation, I just listened. Thinking of what happened last night, I still feel sad, but I can't say it.
In someone else’s house, I may be as old as me or a child, but I am the pillar of my family. I have to do my best to support my parents and my sisters. How can I have any right to complain or complain in front of my parents? Things like grievances.
After the fifteenth year of the year, Liu Dajun came back. He suddenly told my dad that he was going to work in the city, and my dad agreed with it. My dad meant that it was enough to have me at home, and Liu Dajun could make more money for the family if he went out to work.
I can't pierce Liu Dajun in front of my dad. I also agreed with a wry smile, but I really feel sorry for my dad in my heart. I feel sorry that my dad is too stupid, because he doesn't have a son, because he wants a son too much, so he really regards Liu Dajun as his son.
And he didn't know that the reason why Liu Dajun wanted to go out to work was actually discussed with his family these days, and the purpose was to get rid of the drag of him, my mother and several younger sisters.
I guessed it was correct. Since Liu Dajun went out to work, I haven't sent a penny to my family again, and I have never heard from Liu Dajun.
Until autumn, my fourth sister, a friend who worked in the city, came back. She told me that the fourth sister had seen Liu Dajun near the train station in the city a few days ago. At that time, Liu Dajun was with a The girl was hanging out, and the two looked very close holding hands.
My fourth sister was anxious when she heard this. She secretly went to the city to find Liu Dajun in a car without telling me.
And I didn't know what happened, Liu Dajun also pretended that nothing happened.
Until one night when I went to bed, I asked Liu Dajun what he had been doing in the city for the past year, why didn't he get back a penny?
Liu Dajun was a little flustered by my question, he was anxious to say that he accidentally lost the money.
Liu Dajun explained that the more suspicious I was, I asked him how he lost it? Where did you lose it? He couldn't even answer a word.
When I was sure he was lying, I was very angry and immediately quarreled with him, who thought he would tell everything in a hurry.
seven
He said that he was working on the construction site, and once there was a power outage on the construction site, he took a rest. He was really bored, so he went to hang out near the train station. When he passed by a small shampoo shop At that time, a girl was enthusiastically pulled into the store to wash her hair, and the two of them had a chat while washing.
While chatting, the girl said that she liked Liu Dajun at first sight, and if she didn't dislike it, she could be a friend. Liu Dajun was very happy when he heard this, and immediately agreed "umh".
After washing her hair, Liu Dajun asked the girl how much money? The girl laughed and said she was a relative of Liu Dajun, how could she collect money.
Liu Dajun was very grateful to the girl and took the initiative to invite the girl to dinner.
While eating, the girl cried suddenly, Liu Dajun asked the girl what's wrong? The girl said that no one had ever treated Liu Dajun so well to her when she grew up. She said that she was very pitiful without a father and mother since she was a child, and that she liked Liu Dajun very much and wanted to be nice to him.
Liu Dajun was happy when the girl said so and forgot everything. He didn't go to work on the construction site for a few days.I entangled with that girl and kissed me every day, and all the money I had earned on the construction site in a few days was spent on that girl.
After listening to Liu Dajun's words, looking at Liu Dajun's stupidity, I forced myself to calm down, and I asked him where the girl is now? He told me that he had gone home early.
I told him that he was deceived, but he said unhappily: "Don't you, no...no...yes, people are better than...you love...me..."
me Not getting angry, put on his clothes and picked up the broomstick on the ground and hit Liu Dajun hard, and while beating, he cried and scolded him: "You stupid, you stupid, how can someone love you? I love you, people are swindling you money because you have a problem with your brain, so they cheat..."
My out-of-control behavior attracted my parents, and my dad snatched the broom in my hand. After listening to my sad cry, I thought he would speak to me. Who would think he sighed and persuaded me to say: "Career, man, it will be clean after washing..."
My mother who talked less also pulled me out of the house. She stood in the yard and quietly said to me: "Zhaodi, your dad is right. No one makes mistakes. The army is also given by the bad woman. You lied, you can just curse, but don’t force the army to do anything."
Just like that, the matter of Liu Dajun was settled by my parents with a few words, and they seemed indifferent. of.
And me, the surface looks calm, but I can’t get past this hurdle in my heart. When I see Liu Dajun, I think of his scene with other women. It feels very disgusting. I don’t. Talk to him and don't let him touch me.
Eight
One day after this incident, when I was picking up dry wood sticks from the burning pit on the mountain, I suddenly had the idea of committing suicide. I really wanted to jump from the highest point of the mountain for a hundred.
I sit on the cliff,Recalling the twenty-odd years from me to the present, I suddenly hated my dad a little bit. I can't figure out why he just had to give birth to so many children? Why is he incapable of raising him and drags me down?
To tell the truth, it was he who caused our sister to be ridiculed and despised by others. It was he who made me suffer from the humiliation since I was a child and I can't even find any joy.
Born in this kind of family, I don't need to guess what I will live in the future.
I am tired of this kind of life, I am tired, I can't see any hope.
I think if you die like this, it will be a good thing. I can't say that I can have a good baby in my next life. Even if I close my eyes, it will be better than my family.
But at this moment a voice suddenly awakened me, "Chaodi, what are you doing there? How dangerous!"
I turned my head and saw that it was Laiwang, the sheep herd of our village, he Then he said: "I just went up the mountain and met your dad. He said that he saw you and asked you to come down the mountain. The beans you picked are still lying in the ground."
Listening to what Laiwang said, I was just I found out that sadly, I didn't even have the capital to die.
I think again if I really die, what will my family do?
They are so pitiful, so look down on and bullied by others, if I die, how will they live?
Thinking of this, I had to give up the previous idea, and hurriedly bundle up the firewood and go home before rushing to the ground to pull the beans.
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In a blink of an eye, on the twenty-eighth day of the twelfth lunar month, I remember very clearly that other people's households were busy buying various items for the New Year, and my family was worried about spending money from relatives to buy gifts during the New Year.
My dad said to me: "Zhaodi,Our family has no money this year, and no money has been made on vegetables, or your mother’s relatives should not leave. You will go to the Dajun’s house on the first day of the new year and wait until you come back to talk about other things. "
When I heard this, I didn't know where I was so angry at the time. I said to my dad without a good face: "Okay, give me the money for the car and the gift. I will go to the army's house tomorrow." "
On the first day of the new year, Liu Dajun and I went to the county by car first, because we had to change cars to and from his house. While waiting for the car, I asked him to buy gifts first, and I hurried to sit The car to the provincial capital.
In this way, I escaped from my house. I never imagined that my destiny has changed my whole life because of this escape.
九
Because I have never traveled far, the provincial capital is unaccompanied, and I only have a dozen dollars left in my bag. After I got off the train, I stood at the station in a daze and did not know where to go?
After a while, seeing that the people who got off with me were almost finished walking, I quickly followed a woman's ass and walked out. She looked back at me and probably saw my embarrassment and asked me where I was going.
I am embarrassed and do not know how to answer, how do I know where it is?
Seeing that I don’t speak, she continues to move forward, I hurried to catch up and ask her: "Sister, where can I work part-time? ?
She stopped and looked at me again, and then asked me to go to a larger restaurant to apply for a waiter.
According to her suggestion, I found a waiter very smoothly that day Work, and then I realized that I was lucky, and it happened to catch up with the gap where many employees in the restaurant took leave to go home and lacked people.
After being a waiter for two weeks,The lady boss saw that I was tall and good-looking, so she asked me to be in a class for welcoming guests who had gone home for the New Year.
Song Feng and I met at this time. Song Feng's sister and brother-in-law are regular customers in our restaurant. They have a lot of money in making water by themselves, and Song Feng also works with them.
Song Feng is actively pursuing me, and I also have a good impression of Song Feng. Song Feng is very good in everything except being shorter than me.
Faced with such a man, I can't refuse, and I don't want to refuse. I know that he is my life-saving straw. As long as there is any hope of changing my destiny, I am willing to take the risk and try.
Whether it is vanity or anything else, in short, I concealed the fact that I was married from him, and it didn't take long for us to live together.
The time of happiness always flies quickly, and Song Feng and I have lived for two years. In the past two years, I also secretly sent money to my family from time to time, but the addresses I wrote were all wrong. I was afraid that my family would find them, and I was even more afraid that Liu Dajun would find them.
Even so, but I never thought that I would marry Song Summit, but fate is often not controlled by people.
One night when we were eating, I felt nauseous. I vomited for a while but couldn't vomit anything. I thought I had a cold.
But the situation became more and more serious in the next few days. Song Feng smiled and said that I might be pregnant. I didn’t say it but thought in my heart that it would never be possible. I knew I couldn’t give birth. .
But Song Feng doesn't know this. He bought the test paper and let me try it happily. I don't want to discourage his enthusiasm. I just want to show it to him.
When the test results came out, I couldn't believe my own eyes, I always felt that I was dreaming! Oh my God, I actually got pregnant,It turns out I can have children, I can have children! I cried with excitement.
ten
After the joy, I began to carefully plan my future, because I have a child so I feel that I have confidence.
I secretly returned home by myself. I dare not tell Song Feng about my return home, otherwise he would not be assured that I would travel alone.
Until I got home, I called to tell him that I was home. I told him a white lie. Song Feng is a very simple and kind person, he believed it.
I only found out after I got home that Liu Dajun had returned to his house shortly after I left, and he hadn't even been here for the New Year.
This is a good thing for me. After I told my dad about my situation, my dad was silent for a long time. He knew that there was no way to save the situation and had to agree with me.
That is to tell me about my pregnancy without telling anyone, including others in my family, and then give Liu Dajun some compensation and we will quickly go through the divorce procedures.
There may have been arrangements in the midst of it. After receiving the tens of thousands of dollars from me, Liu Dajun's family happily agreed to divorce me. In their view, this is the best of both worlds. You can not have me, and you can use the money to re-marry Liu Dajun a daughter-in-law.
And I soon married Song Feng smoothly in his hometown. In the second year, my son was born, and in the fourth year, my daughter was born.
Now, whenever our family drove back to my house, the people in the village no longer despised me, but admired and praised me, praised me for my ability, praised me for being good to my parents, and praised that I was able to bear and support me. I raised several younger sisters.
Every time, I laughed and said nothing. They were right. I always give money to my family, and I will give it in front of Song Feng.The face carrying Song Feng will also be given.
My family's life is even better than some of them. My two youngest sisters are now teachers in elementary school, and my parents will not worry about money for at least their lifetime.
eleven
I am very fortunate that I am so lucky. I look at Liu Dajun who is still bowing his head to eat. I feel sympathy in my heart.
I heard about him. The wife he married later divorced him after discovering that it was actually Liu Dajun who was infertile. His parents also passed away two years ago. Now he is alone. .
I gave him a thousand dollars to buy some clothes, but he didn’t want it. He said, "Recruit...recruit, as long as you...live...well...it’s okay, I don’t...don’t "
I put the money on the table, I told him to stop calling me, I told him otherwise my husband will misunderstand, he agreed.
Back home, Song Feng and the children are there, and a few people are busy doing their own things as usual.
The next day Song Feng drove the children to school. I was about to go out, but Song Feng was back again.
He took out his phone and suddenly found the photo I gave Liu Dajun the money yesterday. I froze in place and didn't know how to explain it.
I know everything is over! Completely finished! I've been worried for so many years, what should come is still here.
However, I found that I was not so scared anymore.
Since I have this secret in my heart for more than ten years, I have never been at ease.I feel like a thief every day, and even dreaming at night that Song Feng knew that I was married and wanted to divorce me.
This is already the case, I simply told Song Feng all the previous things in one breath.
After listening to my explanation, Song Feng severely smashed the new iPhone that was just replaced a few days ago on the ground. I saw the veins in his neck bulging, and his painful and angry expression made I dare not say one more thing.
He cursed at me: "Go away, liar! You fucking make me sick! It's disgusting!"
After scolding him, he slammed everything he could touch with both hands. thing.
Song Feng has always had a good temper, and he indulges me in every way. I understand his current mood, I am not angry with him at all, I just don't know how to make up.
After losing his temper, Song Feng slammed the door and went out, looking at the messy house and the glass fragments in the same place. I told myself: "Kang Zhaodi, don't be sad, everything has a cause and effect. God is very kind to you." It’s good, you know it.”
twelve
In the evening, the son and daughter arrived home one after another. Song Feng still did not come back by twelve o’clock, and his phone broke, I don’t know. where is he.
He loves two children very much. He is more used to two children than I am. If he goes home earlier.
This point has not been returned. I also know what is waiting for me. I am ready for divorce.
Song Feng didn't come back until the afternoon of the fourth day, and I felt at ease when I saw others doing well.
These nights I am worried that Song Feng hasn't slept very much. I am afraid that he will have some accidents or do stupid things while driving.
I want to call his sister but I don’t have the courage,Can only wait anxiously.
The son and daughter kept asking where his father was? I don't know how to prevaricate.
"Have you eaten?" Song Feng looked very haggard. He must have not slept as well as me these nights. I asked distressedly.
He looked at me and nodded. Although I was very reluctant, he still took the initiative to say to him: "Husband, I know I am sorry for you. After our divorce, I don’t want anything. My son will follow you. My daughter asked me to bring..."
I can’t tell the rest. I think Song Feng should understand my breakdown and sadness. The child is everything to me. If I don’t have a child, I might not be able to live a day. Go down.
Song Feng only spoke after hearing what I said. He said: "I was too impulsive that day, don't take it to your heart. I thought about it for a few nights, and I can't blame you all, don't you say" I am born to be useful" Well, my role is probably to save you. We are all old and old, and I have been tricked by you from a young man to this age. I care about what's the use. But I don’t I suffer, thank you for giving birth to two lovely tricks for me. This year is coming soon, and when next year, I will ask someone to find him a light job..."
Listening to Song Feng's words, I have always Suddenly, the suppressed emotions couldn't collapse, and I started sobbing in front of him like a child.
Song Feng wiped my tears with his hands and told me that this matter is over, don't let his family know.
He said that I was absent-minded in the past few days. I didn't even hear him talking to me. He didn't worry about letting Xiao Du in the store follow me.
Song Feng said that no matter what happens in the future, I can't hide it from him.
Listening to Song Feng’s words, I think I’m lucky,I found a very rare husband.
This year, due to the epidemic, our business is not very good. Song Feng went to the day before yesterday and said that he would take this opportunity to wait for a while and he would take my children and me to the countryside to relax.
I found that after this incident, I lost my mind and my mood was much happier and relaxed. The relationship between Song Feng and I was better than before.
From now on, I will use the rest of my life to make up for my debt to Song Feng.
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