Introduction:
In the world of many women, feelings are ranked very importantly. Plus also ranks in a very important position. Even though some women have not found the man they love, they still desire to have one. I want to get married and have children, and have my own family happiness. I hope that the two of them can live well. In the end, there will be personal pain and personal support. The author himself is not an unmarriage activist. After all, getting married is easier than being single. Individuals cooperate with each other and warm each other. Even if there is no earth-shattering love, if both parties can work together and support each other, it will be easier for everyone than living alone. Even if you live in a group, it is more comfortable and comfortable than being single.
After all, men and women are not the same. Men do not care about feelings when they get married and have children. A man can distinguish love and sex clearly. A woman who does not love at all can have a good relationship with her, all for venting Tools, so men will still choose to get married after all. Any woman who inherits his clan and takes care of the housework is a vested interest for him. Even if a woman does not feel the man before marriage, she will yearn for the man's love after marriage, even if he does not love herself. , I also longed that he could be moved slowly by his kindness to him, and in turn would treat himself better.
However, there are some men whose hearts are harder than stone, colder than the ice of Antarctica, extremely selfish, extremely despicable. These people only consider themselves when they get married and never consider their wives. If you encounter such a man unfortunately, I think you still choose to stop the loss in time, don’t yearn for your own efforts, to be touched by him, don’t think that you are kind to her unconditionally, and that he can treat yourself in return. better.
There are some men who are white-eyed wolves after all, and they will eventually be the viper that Mr. Dong Guo encountered. You paid for him, or even saved his life. He in turn wants to eat you, or bite you. .
Some people can do this, but the so-called shameless people are invincible. Some men choose to get married. One aspect is that there is a woman to help him solve his biological needs, and a woman is free to be his nanny, take care of his housework, take care of his own daily diet, and meet his needs for reproduction. He gave birth to children. Many men's marriages do not focus on love, but only on interests.
talk to people, Xiaoqing, 38 years old
, for example, some of the so-called Phoenix men from the countryside can do the best. My colleague Xiaoqing is a good example. Xiaoqing’s father was originally the leader of a certain unit, and he has certain The right to speak, Xiaoqing is also considered a long and slender sign. Among the many suitors, there is a man from the countryside who is tall and handsome and hardworking. In the work unit, everyone knows that he is desperate and willing to do everything. Good at communicating and know how to understand the minds of others.
He doesn’t care about Xiaoqing as much as other suitors. Instead, he feels attentive to Xiaoqing. Xiaoqing is also attracted by his differences and slowly pays attention to this man. At a certain critical moment, the man said that he also likes Xiaoqing. Qing, and caring for her, after the two confirmed their relationship, they talked sweetly to her and obeyed. Xiao Qing and the man are affectionate, and it is not the monarch that does not marry.
Despite the opposition of Xiaoqing's parents, Xiaoqing still chose this man without hesitation.
In the first few years of marriage, Xiaoqing felt very happy. Her husband was really good, very considerate and attentive. When she was pregnant, I heard that other men would not take care of his wife, but Xiaoqing’s husband cared for her. Ready, all kinds of inquiries, all kinds of care. In the evening, he would often give her a basin to wash her feet. When Xiaoqing's child was born, he immediately held his wife's hand and said that his wife had worked hard. In confinement, he always gets up, changes the baby's diapers, and keeps Xiao Qing asleep, which makes Xiao Qing very moved.
Xiaoqing told his father that he hadn't missed his eyes and that this man was really good to him. Xiaoqing's parents also dispelled their worries about their son-in-law. Before, they were afraid that men valued their own family status. Since the birth of his grandson, his father-in-law has been getting better and better for his son-in-law, and he gradually promoted him to a section chief. But the good times didn't last long. Three years later, Xiaoqing's father was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
The son-in-law's attitude towards the father-in-law and Xiaoqing suddenly took a 180-degree turn.
He no longer appears in front of his father-in-law often, even during the period when his father-in-law was sick and discharged from the hospital to recuperate at home, he never appearedOnce, the attitude towards Xiaoqing was a 180-degree turn. The appearance of his distressed wife was completely gone. He was very indifferent to his wife, and even spoke harshly at each other, and he was extremely impatient.
After being left out in the cold, Xiaoqing couldn't help but ask him if he really wanted his father to promote him?
Phoenix man is not polite and blunt: If your father can help me get a promotion, do you want you to look like a pig? You don't look in the mirror. What is worthy of me?
At the beginning, Xiaoqing thought that her husband was just angry, but the face of her mother-in-law's family also became very ugly. The good old mother-in-law's image was gone forever, and she blamed her daughter-in-law to blame. Xiaoqing could see this clearly. The face of a family.
Not long after Xiaoqing’s father passed away, the Phoenix man asked Xiaoqing for divorce. Xiaoqing didn’t think much about it at first, knowing that the Phoenix man she met didn’t really love herself. She also felt that way. Marriage is meaningless, and I agree to divorce. But I didn't expect to find out when the property was divided. It turned out that when my husband took advantage of taking care of his father and had no time to do so, he forged several loan contracts, saying that his business had failed and borrowed a lot of money. At the time of the divorce, the house was divided, and the house was sold and the debt was paid back. There was little left. Xiao Qingzi received tens of thousands of yuan. The custody of
son is also gone, saying that his son grows better with his mother. Xiaoqing thought that this man had some conscience at last, he didn't leave money for him, at least he didn't fight with him for the custody of his son. It would be a comfort to keep his son by his side.
However, I did not expect to see his ex-husband holding a girl in his hands after three months, this girl is the daughter of a certain chief. Men were pursuing how diligent they were to themselves, and now they are doing the same trick for this girl.
Xiaoqing is completely dead, and he can be regarded as admiring this man. There is such a despicable man in this world, shameless to the extreme! For his own promotion, he wants to pursue higher achievements and pursues the current girl, even if he doesn't even want his own son, because if he takes his son, it will definitely affect his pursuit of the current director's daughter.
Some men are truly selfish, like the Phoenix man in the article. His marriage is only to achieve a certain purpose for himself. Once this purpose is not achieved, whether a woman is dead or alive has nothing to do with him. He has never No heartache. Z3z
tells people, Sister Li, 46 years old,
also has some men. He is very straightforward. He is poor and has no abilities. When his wife is married, she feels that she deserves to suffer hardships with herself. I certainly can't give her a good life, but sometimes a woman doesn't necessarily need you to give me such good things. She just wants to give her some daily warmth and recognition, should it be possible? However, this is not the case for many men. His marriage definitely only wants to benefit from the woman, and does not want to care about the woman's needs.
Sister Zhang said in a cry that she was married to her husband and devoted herself to the family, but she never got any warmth from her husband. At first, because my family was poor, I wanted to share the burden for my family. The child was born and confinement was taken care of by himself, because the confinement was not done properly, the wind was blowing, and the child went out to work more than 20 days after the birth. I was so tired that my waist was sore and my back was so painful that I couldn't straighten my waist. When it rained, I felt even more painful.
Once, when she squatted down, her waist hurt so much that she couldn't stand up. She stretched out her hand and said to the man on the side, "My waist hurts and I can't get up. Can you pull me?" Not only did the man not stretch out his hand, he even said disdainfully from the side: It's really useless, like an old woman at a young age, it will only drag me down! You can't get up with back pain, can't you hold it up? If I'm not by your side, are you planning to never get up?
From that moment, Zhang Jie knew that no matter how hard she worked, she would never warm up this man's heart. How selfish is this man? He doesn't even want to give you your care and help. He feels that all your hard work is yours and you should be. How could he think that it was because you wanted to share the burden for him and didn't have a good confinement. He only knew that a woman would give birth to a child. How could you be so hypocritical?
In his eyes, you are not only not a good wife, but also his burden. He can't see your contribution at all. He just thinks that you are not doing enough.Better still, he never thinks about what he can give you, he will only see what he can't get from you.
Fortunately, Ms. Zhang stopped the loss in time and filed for a divorce with her husband. Now that she has been divorced for a few years, Ms. Zhang feels relieved. She no longer devotes herself wholeheartedly to one person, but frustrated again and again. Now my personal life is relaxed and comfortable.
Conclusion: The women in
marriage will each have their own luck and misfortune. Most women are able to support each other and spend the rest of their lives together. However, in the unlikely event that you really encounter a superb, don't consume yourself in your marriage, waste your life, and make your life so sad, stop the loss in time is the last word.
I don’t advocate casual divorce, and I don’t think it’s good not to marry. After all, I think a man still has a certain use value. At least he can bring you a formal legitimate child. If he can still Taking the salary home and helping you raise your children is also a good partner. As long as you get rid of him from your heart, don't regard his joys and sorrows as your own joys and sorrows, treat him as a pure cash machine and raise your child.
Generally speaking, 99% of a child’s heart will be towards the mother. You have a natural advantage in hairdressing. Women are especially able to deal with the relationship between children. So with children, your old life will have spiritual comfort. With dependence, men are no longer needed. Don't yearn for a man's care at this time. If he is shameless, let him be shameless. I only want children and I only want myself.
In this case, no matter what your marriage is, you will not be in that state of disappointment and loss, and you will be able to live well. For women, you should do more for yourself when facing the best men.
