Is the childhood shadow theory true?
In our study and life, we always hear some psychologists or read some articles saying that childhood has a great impact on our lives. What's more, they directly say that our current situation is due to our childhood experiences. Therefore, some people blame their unfortunate experiences on their childhood, and their disliked and difficult-to-change characters, such as low self-esteem, arrogance, cowardice, etc., all blamed on their parents. Some people say that their parents often beat themselves when they were young, which caused their current cowardly character. Others say that their parents often beat themselves when they were young, making them prone to violence, etc. Anyway, there are many blames for the shadow of childhood, but if we try to analyze it, we will find that there are many contradictory points.
First, why do children born to the same parents have different personalities when they grow up? Second, two people with similar personalities have completely different personalities and education methods from their parents. Third, the same group of children who have been raised in orphanages since birth have very different personalities and achievements.
In fact, what really affects our destiny is ourselves. Character determines destiny. In fact, everyone's character, the so-called talent, is different. Just like children born in cold weather, their ability to withstand stress is stronger than that of people in other seasons. It is recognized that people with stronger willpower, such as Capricorn, Scorpio, etc.; Sagittarius may have a hotter heart than other constellations. (These are just examples, not all zodiac signs).
Friends who have planted trees may be more aware of this phenomenon. When the same seeds are planted, the trees that grow, and even the fruits, have different shapes, just like it is difficult to find two identical leaves.
"We are different because we are inherently different." It may sound profound and like nonsense, but it is the truth. I think of what a high school classmate said in the past. It is very appropriate: "Don't think about what you will become in a few years, what you are now, and what you will be in the future. No matter how your identity changes, you are still who you are now."
Nowadays, many people deduce results based on results. I saw something said by a senior education expert some time ago, which roughly means: You should not expect someone who has experienced difficulties to understand you, because they will not sympathize with you. This sentence is either true or false. Some people say that after experiencing difficulties, they will become hard-hearted; some people are people who have experienced difficulties. Because they have experienced it, they can empathize, understand and sympathize with the difficulties of others. Therefore, no matter what you experience, different people have different understandings and different choices. Even if you experience the same situation thousands of times, you will still make the same choice. It has nothing to do with your age. Age can only change the way you face things, but it cannot change your situation and choices.
Therefore, your current situation has nothing to do with your childhood, because if this is the case, the young you can blame your childhood, and the old you can also blame the young you, but in the end, it is just because you are you, regardless of time and space.
To put it bluntly, your childhood will be like that because you yourself, what kind of person you are, was decided the moment you were born.
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