As high school students enter late puberty, their independence awareness increases, and individuals gradually become connected with the family and society. Individuals are completing the goal of individual separation, separated from their parents and seeking psychological belongings from their peers.
In high school, as academic pressure increases, accompanied by various expectations of parents and school, and the unbalanced physical and mental development, it is easy to experience interpersonal maladaptation. In the process of interpersonal relationship adjustment, interpersonal anxiety arises is related to the interaction between parents and children.
study shows that parents' psychological control of this negative parenting method will cause internalization and attacks, discipline violations and other externalization problems such as social anxiety, avoidance, etc. Social anxiety is usually considered a personality problem, and is shy, introverted, etc.
Ignoring social anxiety has a negative impact on middle school students. Middle school students who have been in social anxiety for a long time are not conducive to the healthy development of mental health and will also hinder the healthy development of socialization such as their study and life.
Comprehensive domestic and foreign research, it causes social anxiety including internal and external factors, and the first environment for individual socialization affects the quality of social interaction among adolescents. Parents’ control over children limits the development of children’s independent will.
More studies by domestic and foreign scholars have shown that parents' psychological control hinders the development of mental health in adolescents, while there are fewer research on related mechanisms of action.
Bowen believes that individuals with good self-differentiation can balance emotions with rational ability and reduce interpersonal maladaptation, so whether parents' psychological control of external factors will affect social anxiety through the internal factors of self-differentiation of high school students.
This article starts to study the mechanism of their effect on the influence of parents in controlling the parenting style on high school students from the perspective of differentiation of high school students, which is conducive to high school students to alleviate the negative effects of parents on them from their own perspective.
1. The relationship between psychological control, social anxiety and self-differentiation of parents of high school students
Analysis of the relationship between psychological control and social anxiety
High school students' psychological control and various dimensions are significantly related to the total score of social anxiety and various dimensions of social anxiety. Parental psychological control leads to social anxiety among high school students, that is, the higher the level of psychological control of parents, the more likely high school students to develop anxiety in social occasions, affecting interpersonal relationships. The results of
study are consistent with Wang et al.'s view that parents' psychological control is a negative aspect of control, and that adolescents under different cultural backgrounds will negatively predict the individual psychological development of adolescents.
indicates that high psychological control will lead to internal and external problems such as anxiety and withdrawal among high school students, proving that parents' psychological control is not conducive to the psychological development of children.
This excessive interference with the child's growth space of parents leads to high school students being unable to let go in social situations, which can easily lead to withdrawal and avoidance. According to the social connection theory, the low social connection of parents' psychological control over high school students triggers anxiety in social situations.
Parents' psychological control to withdraw care and cause guilt may directly cause negative emotional feelings in adolescents, and being in negative emotions for a long time will lead to impairment of self-healing function. This negative emotion is suppressed, so teenagers not only have to hide their true emotional experiences in their hearts, but also deal with other effects of this negative emotion. This internal and external conflict causes teenagers to deny themselves and others, thus showing independent, rejection and withdrawal in social interactions.
Analysis of the relationship between parents' psychological control and self-differentiation of high school students
In this study, parents' control and psychological control of high school students have significant effects on the self-differentiation of high school students and the four sub-dimensional predictions, indicating that high-level psychological control of parents leads to low-level self-differentiation of high school students, which is prone to bad emotions, and shows extreme attitudes towards intimacy, leading to poor interpersonal relationships.
verifies that parents' psychological control hinders the development of the separation of high school students' psychology and parents' individualization.
is influenced by parents by being too dependent on others, is too emotional in social interpersonal interaction situations, is prone to excitement, lacks coping skills, and experiences more anxiety. In order to avoid this negative emotion, avoidance strategies are often adopted, which is a vicious cycle, which aggravates high school students' poor adaptation in social interactions.
Analysis of the relationship between self-differentiation and social anxiety of high school students
In the study group, the degree of differentiation of high school students was negatively predicted their anxiety in interpersonal communication. Individuals with high scores are more flexible in dealing with interpersonal relationships and rarely experience this negative emotions. Individuals with low scores are more dull in dealing with interpersonal conflicts and are deeply troubled by emotions.
is the same as Peleg's research results. Highly differentiated individuals also have low levels of social anxiety and are not prone to physiological symptoms. Individuals with high emotional responses are susceptible to other people's reactions due to emotional instability. During the interactions between people, the degree of anxiety is high.
Individuals with high self-position follow their own feelings and will not be easily affected by external factors and stick to their own opinions. People with high emotional severity dimension scores are prone to take a evasive attitude in anxious social interaction situations to avoid being hurt.
and others fusion dimension involves intimate relationships with others. High-level self-differentiated individuals maintain appropriate distance when interacting with others and have clear self-boundaries. On the contrary, they either rely too much or avoid it. This extreme pattern of getting along causes interpersonal communication difficulties and social obstacles.
Individuals with low self-differentiation care about the praise of the outside world, pursue the recognition of others, and show flattering characters in interpersonal communication, hiding their true thoughts. Over time, social anxiety may arise in order to please others and go against their own wishes.
Emotional severance refers to the individual who takes an escape method when dealing with problems because he is afraid of losing his true self. However, the substantive problems are not solved, but instead make the individual more vulnerable when dealing with the same problems. Low-differentiated individuals take evasion measures to avoid being hurt, which increases their social anxiety levels.
Self-differentiation mediating effect between parents' psychological control and social anxiety of high school students discussion
Research results show that parents' psychological control causes high school students to care about other people's negative evaluations during social interaction and avoid interpersonal communication, and hinder the psychological separation between high school students and parents.
and self-differentiation has a significant indirect effect between parents' psychological control and social anxiety among high school students. In line with Chang, K.M's study on the partial or complete mediating effect of self-differentiation between parental psychological control and youth psychological and behavioral problems.
High school students' psychological control by affecting the self-differentiation level of high school students, reducing the strategies of high school students to cope with social anxiety, and thus affecting the internal and external problems of high school students, causing social maladaptation.
Parent psychological control This negative parenting method hinders the normal psychological development process of high school students, and excessive protection of children leads to problems such as social anxiety avoidance in the process of socialization.
When parents have a high level of psychological control, high school students have low self-differentiation and their emotions are easily affected by the outside world. They use avoidance to deal with problems and have poor interpersonal relationships, so as to experience more social anxiety.
discusses this negative parenting method that leads to low self-differentiation and high social anxiety levels for high school students, which in turn helps parents recognize the negative effects of bad parenting styles on children. How to alleviate the social anxiety of high school students can be considered from the two aspects of parents' psychological control and self-differentiation.
From the perspective of parental upbringing style, parents should consciously reduce their psychological control over high school students, give high school students space for free exploration, and reduce excessive participation in children's life behavior.
allows children to have their own independent ideas. When the child has different opinions from his/her own opinions, he/she should not use words to arouse the child’s guilt and cancel the care for the child, so that the child feels that the love of parents is given on the basis of listening to parents’ words. At the same time, do not force children to obey their expectations in a way that is oppressive, and ignore the development of their children's self-will.Research results such as
Smetana show that parents' interference in high school students' private fields, which teenagers believe is their psychological control. Therefore, parents can start from this aspect to reduce interference to their private sphere.
From the perspective of high school students themselves, Bowen believes that the level of self-differentiation is initially established in early adulthood and can change with the environment.
So high school students can improve their self-differentiation level by understanding their family functions, how to deal with anxiety within family members, or learning how to face misfortunes in life, and reduce the impact of parents' negative parenting methods.
2. Research Conclusion
There are obvious differences in male and female high school students' perception of parents' psychological control. The psychological control level of boys is higher than that of girls; both fathers and mothers have a higher degree of control over boys than girls.
First year of high school and unclassified subjects feel that students are at a higher level of control from their parents. There are differences in the psychological control of parents with different parenting attitudes, and the educational method of children who feel the authoritarian attitude of their parents is the highest.
There is no significant difference in psychological control among fathers with different education levels, while mothers with low education levels have higher psychological control. There is no significant difference between the degree of psychological control of parents and whether they are only children.
In this study group, boys had a good degree of differentiation compared with girls. There is no obvious difference between whether or not or whether or not. My self-differentiated emotional response dimensions have significant grade differences, and my emotional response scores in the third grade are low, and I am prone to emotional reactions.
In this study, there was no significant difference between the degree of anxiety among high school students in interpersonal communication and the gender, whether they were only child, grade, and subject of high school students. The degree of differentiation of high school students has a significant indirect effect between parents' psychological control and interpersonal anxiety.
Parent psychological control directly leads to social anxiety, and can also indirectly affect the interpersonal anxiety level of high school students by affecting the degree of differentiation of their children. Provide a theoretical basis for high school students to reduce social anxiety. You can start from the family and internal and external factors to understand the causes of social anxiety, which is conducive to high school students to adopt effective coping strategies to reduce social anxiety.
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