However, in elementary and junior high school, her academic performance is very good. I tell you: Children with psychological problems are basically children with good learning, while children with poor learning are not prone to psychological problems.

There was a girl from the first year of high school who took a break from school. However, in elementary and junior high school, her academic performance is very good.

I tell you: Children with psychological problems are basically children with good learning, while children with poor learning are not prone to psychological problems.

I have an interesting summary: children with bad personality and good learning are likely to go to mental hospitals; children with bad personality and bad learning are likely to go to courts. Entering the court does not work in the court, but accepting trial in the court, and then going to prison after the trial.

Children with very bad learning and a mess are prone to crime; children with very good learning and very bad personality are prone to going to mental hospitals . Both extremes are unhealthy manifestations!

This girl is very good at studying, very strong, very eager for perfection, and has very high requirements for herself. She has a grand plan to prepare to take the best medical university in China and then become a doctor.

Unexpectedly, after entering high school, she was under great pressure to study. She suddenly felt that she could not handle it, as if she had been hollowed out, and her energy was no longer enough.

She was anxious, under great pressure, and had insomnia. At the beginning, she thought: I can’t sleep well, so I don’t sleep anymore, so I use the evening to study. Her parents said, "This is not OK, right?" "What's wrong? The third update is light and the fifth update is when a man sets his ambitions, and the daughter sets his ambitions! "

Her parents don't have much education and don't understand, so they just ask their daughter to study like this. They thought that their daughter would improve their academic performance after working hard like this.

The child stays up late every night to do his homework and study, but his academic performance is still not up. What's worse is that due to lack of sleep at night, she lie on the table to sleep during class during the day. Even if she doesn't sleep, she can't concentrate, feel panic, feel irritable and uncomfortable, and feel uncomfortable all over her body.

Use the calmness of the night to exchange for irritability and restlessness during the day. Is this a big deal? In the end, she couldn't stand it anymore and proposed to take a break from school.

The parents did not accept it at first, but found that the child was holding a knife or circle to plan his arms and skin. My parents were scared and afraid that she would commit suicide. After the teacher found out, he quickly asked her to take it back.

Nowadays schools are afraid of taking responsibility. When they see that their children have this tendency to commit suicide or self-harm, the school becomes nervous because if a child commits suicide, parents will find trouble for the school, and Education administrative department also needs to find trouble for it. If someone sues him, the school will cause great trouble and the school will ask him to take him back for treatment as soon as possible.

But this child and the child’s parents think that her problem is caused by learning pressure. If there is not too much learning pressure, the child will have no problem.

It sounds like they have a basis for speaking, because the child stopped studying after he got home and his emotional state gradually improved.

The parents told the teacher: "My child is ready and can go to school." Because at the beginning, I didn't take a leave of absence from school, but I took sick leave. After went to school, the child quickly moved into an abnormal state, which was even more serious than before. I couldn't listen to it in class at all, and my mind was blank when I was doing my homework. As soon as I walked into the campus, I felt uncomfortable all over. This was uncomfortable and that was uncomfortable, so I went home again.

After I came back, I was recuperating for a while and my mood was better again.The parents said, "My child can go to school." The teacher said, "No, you forgot the lesson from the last time?" "Yes, you can't let my child go to school!"

So the class resumed. But after going there, the cultural courses could not keep up at all. After a lot of pressure, all the original symptoms emerged.

At this time, parents will find a psychologist to provide psychological counseling for their children, which is to relieve stress. After tutoring for a year, the child looked relatively stable, so he returned to school.

After returning to school, I went to the first year of high school again. I only went to the first year of high school for only two weeks, but I really couldn't hold on. In class, there was a severe panic attack in . The panic attack made people feel a sense of dying and very uncomfortable.

The child has taken a leave of absence again, and it is now the second time he has taken a leave of absence. Parents started to ask their children for psychological counseling again, and the counselors tutored their children, but they still believed that the pressure was caused by excessive pressure.

Then I will talk about it here, will excessive and lasting learning pressure make people sick ? This question must not be answered with simple answers to meet people's needs. If you say you can, someone will question it; if you say you can't, someone will also question it.

This key depends on your individual's own ability to withstand pressure, ability to transfer pressure, ability to deal with pressure, etc.

I will do a brief analysis here: people mainly rely on two major mechanisms to deal with stress, one is the biological mechanism and the other is the spiritual mechanism.

BiomechanismMainly depends on whether the activity advantages of serotonin in the central nervous system is outstanding. If your serotonin advantage is outstanding, people can effectively switch left and right.

Because the human left brain feels pressure, but the right brain cannot feel pressure. If a person feels a lot of pressure, he has to switch to the right brain. This is mainly the function of serotonin, which will help us switch the functions of the left and right brains.

When I use my left brain, I feel stressed, and when I go to my right brain, I feel relaxed and happy. But if there is something wrong with your serotonin system, you can't switch effectively. You can't use your right brain, you can only use your left brain, and you will feel more and more Alexander and you will not be able to bear it in the end!

So serotonin is called the "depressant substance" in the brain. We deal with stress, emotional hurt, bad mood after frustration, and regulate motivation all rely on serotonin. It depends on whether your serum has advantages. Those serotonin that have no advantage, not stress becomes stress when you see it, this is the biological mechanism.

However, people still have complex spiritual mechanisms, and the spiritual mechanism is also called psychological mechanism . If you have a good mental regulation mechanism, you can resolve stress or change stress, which mainly depends on cognitive adjustment.

I am an example myself. When I was in junior high school, I still learned mathematics very well. In my class, I studied mathematics and Chinese very well. Chinese has always been the first and math is among the top ones. I especially like to do math problems. But after I got to high school, I couldn't understand the first class of mathematics at all.

I am under a lot of pressure. I can't understand the class and can't do my homework at all. Doing my homework is simply too painful for me. When I think of math homework, I feel extremely stressed and very anxious.

What should I do in the end? what to do?

At that time, there was no theory of making up for it. Who would give you a make up for it? I just thought about it and then made a decision: I gave up on math and stopped learning! What to do with homework? Copy homework! I copied my deskmate. My deskmate is short, with a little slanted eyes, a very stubborn temper, and a sloppy person. But he is good at math, at least he is better than me.

I copied all my math homework for two years in high school. I gave up on math, right? I thought: During the college entrance examination, I will use other subjects to make up for it. I will make up for it in Chinese, politics, history, and geography, and the total score will not be low. I just need not apply for mathematics majors.

In college, my academic performance was not very good. I spent my main time pursuing girls, and then read extracurricular books, mainly reading foreign literary works. I didn’t study hard, and my grades were not good either. The teachers didn’t like me, and my classmates looked down on me.

But I was not under much pressure at this time. I didn’t learn some classes at all. I learned them when I wanted to learn them, but stopped learning them if I didn’t want to. Some textbooks were sent to the final exam. I didn’t even move them. I threw them on the bookshelf, and I didn’t even open them. I didn’t listen to them in class, so I went to read extracurricular books.

But I have a belief in my heart that makes me feel free from pressure: I want to surpass you in the total amount of knowledge, I want to surpass you in the flexibility of understanding knowledge, and I want to surpass you in the degree of confidence. We will wrestle the wrestle in the future, and now we will not wrestle with you. We will wrestle the wrestle in ten years. I am confident that I can surpass them.

If you get the grades, your immediate reaction is: I am not as good as others, I am not as good as others now, and I am not as good as others in the future, then that's all, and you must be sick. should be: I admit defeat now, and I will be a hero in the future!

If you are under great pressure, you can't do it now, and you believe that you can't do it in the future. You can accept what you are now, but you must believe that your future is OK, and you will be stressed, and then there will be no pressure to hope for the future! You must find your own advantages at this time.

Bad learning does not mean that life is bad , Life does not only include learning. Can't learn book knowledge well, extracurricular knowledge may not be poor. Even if the total amount of knowledge is not as good as them and the exam results are not as good as them, but your mind is more flexible than them, and your unique qualities will also make you successful!

Life has its own happiness, why just look at academic performance? The hope for the future and future achievements are not entirely determined by the test scores at that time.

But some children, because they cannot see this and cannot recognize this, once they have a high pressure on their studies and their academic performance is not satisfactory, they will collapse from the inside. This is because there is something wrong with their spiritual transformation. We can convert it into another hobby.

I think pressure may not necessarily become motivation, but in the face of pressure, we can adjust our strategy and adjust our concepts: Give up what should be given up, and transfer what should be transferred!

Give up now does not necessarily mean giving up the future. has a lot of pressure to learn, and the child who has problems finally gave up on the present, cannot see the present achievements, nor can he see the hope for the future. This is the key.

Learning stress itself will not cause depression, but that there is a problem in the transformation of your mental mechanism, which causes you to be depressed, or that there is a problem in the mechanism of your biological operation, especially the problem in the serotonin system, which causes you to be depressed.

has nothing to do with learning pressure yarn. It is just a superficial phenomenon, not the essence, but the essence still lies in the two major mechanisms!

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Wang Guorong, a psychologist, independent scholar, writer, the founder of China's holistic psychotherapy, and the first person in China's evidence-based psychotherapy. He was the chief academic consultant of the Psychologist Magazine and a senior psychotherapist at Shanghai Boai Hospital . He is one of the most powerful and talented psychologists in China.

has published more than ten influential psychology monographs. Among them, " Breakthrough Treatment of Student Psychological Problems " was listed as a collection of books by hundreds of domestic universities such as Peking University , Tsinghua University , Tsinghua University , "50 Psychological Treatment and Adjustment Methods" won the Most Popular Book Award for Readers in the China College Press Alliance, "10 Most Important Relationships in Life" was listed as a series of books by China Culture Press, and "Shaking Hands with Depression" won the Most Popular Professional Book Award for Readers.