From a psychological perspective, the emergence of prejudice comes from the incomplete understanding of a thing. Things are always multifaceted, and you just happen to see the worst side of it.
The negative sense that this side causes you will also prevent you from observing other aspects of it, such as its good aspects, so a misunderstanding arises. If the misunderstanding is not resolved and accumulated over a long period of time, it will eventually turn into inherent prejudice.
Part 1
But in real life, in addition to the misunderstanding caused by accident, it is actually artificial deliberate - perhaps it is not because of seeing the bad side, but because of prejudice itself, it can bring him satisfaction . In the movie "Handle Django ", the white people in the south knew at first that black people were no different from them except for their skin color, but they obviously would rather understand them as slaves, because on the one hand, this can satisfy their noble vanity, and on the other hand, they need 0-cost labor to create value for them.
movies are fiction, but human nature is always so similar.
Do you think the so-called experts on the Internet really don’t know the suffering of the people at the bottom? Do you think the spectators of " Let the Bullets Fly " really don't know that Liuzi only ate one bowl of jelly? Do you think that people who demote you to nothing really can’t see any of you?
No, they just don't want to see it. for some purpose, they acknowledge the existence of prejudice.
When I just graduated, I cared about the outside world's evaluation of me. Once the feedback I gave me is not good, I will be sad for a long time.
When I was scolded by my leader, beaten by the interviewer, and excluded by my colleagues, I felt guilty. I would blame myself and torture myself with reflection. There is no reason, everything is my fault, and complaining is even more unforgivable.
Under the influence of this "sense of guilt", I couldn't feel a trace of happiness, and the air seemed to have become a prison. I was exhausted every day, and I was less and less able to find the meaning of my existence. For this world, I might just be the redundant one.
I also tried to change others' perceptions of me, but that only adds to my worries after all. Once prejudice arises, almost all struggles will be of no use, and there is no so-called remedy at all.
It’s like if you quarrel with your leader in person, he will lose face. He said it was okay, but he had already sentenced you to death in his heart, and there would be ten thousand ways to torture you next.
This has nothing to do with right or wrong, but in his consciousness, you must never offend or resist him. You are just his accessory, this is his prejudice against you.
Or you went to a sweatshop and you are an assembly line worker. Then the boss’s definition of you is just one of the many cattle and horses. If you look at you for one more second, it will be a waste of his life.
If you work diligently, work meticulously and seriously, and produce far more than other cattle and horses, he will think you deserve the title of cattle and horse, and it is worthy of further encouragement, so he awarded you a "cattle and horse representative".
If you are well versed in the world, remember the preferences of leaders, and praise them just right, your identity will change from a cow and a horse to a good dog. He will reward you with a whip and let you whip his cows and horses so that they can do more work.
But no matter how you perform, he will never allow you to go to the table, because from the beginning, he did not recognize your equality with him, and this is his prejudice.
This prejudice is no longer deeply penetrated into the bone marrow, but is integrated into genes. So no matter how much value you create for him, once you are a little bit unlucky, you will be hit by a heavy object and be disabled. As long as he can do it, he will definitely abandon you with peace of mind.
is ironic. Only when it comes to responsibility aside will he be so attentive to you.
Part 2
Of course, each of us is equal, but you can't expect everyone to think so.
Sometimes the conflict arises, not a misunderstanding, nor is it a misunderstanding, but a malicious misinterpretation of one party to the other party.
So whether you execute A, B, or C schemes, there are most likely only two results: either the bias deepens or other biases are generated.
You turn a blind eye to their rejection, they will say that they have a bad attitude; if you fight back, they will get evidence that you are a bad person; if you want to please, they will say that you are hypocritical and have ulterior motives.
Because you didn't take you seriously, everything you did is wrong.
In this era, we are really unfriendly to self-blame personality.
Especially his family background, he can only rely on his own young people after graduation, and always has inconsistent fantasies about society, even if what he expects may be "being able to live the life he wants through hard work."
Especially if you have no choice but to go to a small private enterprise, then this "work" may have to be double quotes .
You are likely to encounter bad leaders and bad colleagues. In order to prove that they have little value left and for the humble and pitiful self-esteem, they will try their best to suppress you. Because they can bully you are the innocent and innocent you who have just left society, so you will exert more and more demands that cannot be met by others.
If you are very difficult to deal with, shameless and irritable, cheating, and cruel and ruthless, then none of these will happen, and no one will suppress you.
Unfortunately, most young people who have just graduated do not have this "excellent quality". Everyone was a little sheep at the beginning, but later they were slaughtered too much, so they were forced to be smooth, with no more light in their eyes and no longer easily trusting anyone, so they were labeled as "old fried dough sticks", so another prejudice began again.
Indeed, the workplace does not welcome the heart of glass and needs to resist pressure. This is true, but objective pressure and bad intentions have never been the same thing. It is actually difficult to distinguish between self-blame personality. They only reflect on themselves and blame themselves.
"Your ability is not good."
"You have a problem with your work attitude, look at others..."
"Only I am willing to take in waste like you. If someone else had starved to death." You may have heard of such words as
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Many people can see it more easily, smile it and forget it completely in the next second. But if they can't do it, they will always take it to heart and reflect on where their problems lie.
any accusation and suppression must be multiplied by N multiples on them.
Many people superficially think that they cannot withstand pressure, but I want to say that the fact is just the opposite. It is precisely because of the psychological strength that they are different from ordinary people that they can live all the way here. If you were not of this kind of personality, it would be difficult to understand. The feeling of taking all the faults in the world on yourself is as if there is always a voice conveying in your ears: you shouldn't be alive.
-Yes, if they go to a very bad environment, they will be stuck between depression and survival instinct. If you lean towards the former, you will die happily; if you lean towards the latter, you will suffer endless pain.
They are not that they don’t care about life, they are also afraid of death, but compared with what they bear in their hearts, death seems to become worthless.
So we can see that in reality, many young people choose to end their lives without hesitation.
They dared not fight back against prejudice and false malice, but just kept it blindly until the balloon exploded.
Some people don’t feel this pain because they never think they are wrong. They are the creators of pain. Because of prejudice, they will only blindly ask others to reflect and let others bear the price.
so The person who is wrong is not you, but the joys and sorrows between people and they are not connected.
When you grow up, you must learn not to care too much about others. Every time someone else evaluates you, it will have more or less purpose, and no one will treat you well for no reason.
Just throw it aside for those bad things you encounter in life. Don’t use limited time to torture your fragile mood. If you are destined to be unable to be happy, then all pursuits will lose their meaning.
Don’t want to change other people’s prejudice, just like you can’t make a arrogant person no longer arrogant, unless he hits a big tree and loses his mind, but that’s not your credit. With that idea, isn’t you another kind of arrogance and prejudice?
Part 3
From now on, work, sleep, read, write, and make your life look better.
If some people have some things, let them drift away with the wind and be a forgetful person every day. All worries and all people with strange diseases such as prejudice have nothing to do with you at this moment.
So, don’t blame yourself anymore, don’t be influenced by those who are not worth your time to waste. Prejudice is theirs, but happiness is yours.
Let go of the irrelevant thoughts, we are really excellent.
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