There is a classic line in the movie "The Godfather": A person who can see through the essence of things in half a second, and a person who can't see through the essence of things in his entire life is destined to have completely different destinies.
Financial writer Ou Sheng once said: "Behind any complex thing, there are concise rules that can be explained in one sentence or a few sentences. These rules are the essence."
Those who cannot understand the essence of things will achieve half the result with twice the effort.
Those who understand the essence of things will achieve twice the result with half the effort.
01 Kimchi effect
people are the sons of the environment, and the best ones are
We all know this phenomenon:
Soak the same vegetables in different water for a period of time, and then cook them, and the taste is different.
This is what psychology calls the "ketchup effect". The "dyeing" of the
environment determines the final result.
There are psychology and zoologists who have done such an experiment.
Two rooms with many mirrors embedded in the walls, separated by a glass in the middle, and then a orangutan was placed in each room.
Two orangutans have one thing in common, both of them are very docile.
When they entered the room, they saw the other side of the glass and many "companions" in the mirror welcomed them, and they quickly got together and had a very harmonious relationship.
Three days later, the expert released one of the docile orangutans and replaced it with the other with a irritable orangutan.
As a result, the originally docile orangutan was instantly angered by the irritable orangutan.
They begin to chase and fight endlessly.
The ancients said: "The wool grows in hemp, and it will be straight without holding it. The white sand is in the nirvana, and it will be black with it."
This is true for animals, and so for humans.
person, most of them are the products of the environment. A good environment makes it easier to achieve a good life.
In ancient times, there was "Meng's mother moved three times". A good humanistic environment is crucial to the growth of children.
There are currently Northwestern Polytechnical University 4 girls born in the same dormitory in the same 2000s. They study together, participate in competitions, and solve study problems together... In 4 years, they have collectively maintained and won more than 50 awards in total.
people are the sons of the environment.
"Follow the best people you know" is the best way to take off in life.
02 Half-way effect
Learn to decompose goals so that you can achieve twice the result with half the effort
Have you ever encountered such a situation in life?
want to learn a musical instrument, but I haven’t started for a week, so I gave up in a blink of an eye;
want to lose weight through exercise, but there is no obvious effect for a month, so I simply enter the "lying flat" mode;
want to learn to write, but I haven’t achieved results for three months, so I’ve given up writing since then.
wants to do a lot of things, but most of them give up halfway.
This is what psychology calls the "half-way effect". There are many reasons why
leads to half-way effect, such as doubting the target, eagerness to achieve success, weak willpower, etc.
But in fact, the reason why most people give up halfway in life is mainly because even if they work hard, they still don’t see hope to achieve their goals. Is there any way to solve this problem in
?
answer is yes. Learn to break down goals.
Someone did such an experiment and he organized two groups of people to march towards the same village.
The first group of people, the organizers told them how far they were, but there were no milestones or signs on the road, they just provided guides.
They felt tired and took a break. During the third break, someone asked the guide how far it was. When they learned that the journey was not yet halfway, many people became interested in retreating, and then they complained all the way.
The second group of people, although there was no guide, the organizers not only told them the name and distance of the village, but also placed resting points with miles for everyone along the way.
This group of people sees a specific mileage every time they arrive at a rest point, and it feels like they have passed a level, and they are as excited as upgrading to fight monsters.
After they had a rest, they couldn't wait to run to the next place. In this atmosphere, they quickly reached the finish line and in the end they only took half of the time in the first group.
"Decompose the target" can reduce the difficulty of achieving the target in stages.
In the process of achieving the goal, make the footprints of progress clearly visible.
American physicist Fermi also proposed: When facing a huge goal, you have no idea how to start, break it down into several secondary goals, find the answer to the secondary questions, and then step by step approach the answer to the overall question.
It is true that one step is what people want.
However, hasteness is not achieved.
In the journey of life, we might as well be more wise and less impetuous.
Only by learning to break down goals can you achieve twice the result with half the effort.
03 Habit effect
Develop good habits, habits determine life
In Behavioral psychology , a phenomenon that takes at least 21 days to form a person's new habits or ideas, is called the 21-day effect , also known as the habit effect.
means that a person's actions or thoughts, if repeated for 21 days, will become a habitual action or thought. In other words, if any thing is repeated too many times, it will become a habit.
I have heard of this story:
The father and son live in the mountains all year round, and every day they drive a ox cart down the mountain to sell firewood.
The mountain road is dangerous and there are many curves. When my son is about to turn, he will loudly remind his father: "Dad, it's turning!"
Once, my father did not go down the mountain due to illness, and his son drove alone.
Unexpectedly, when the turn, the cow would not turn anyway.
The son tried his best, but the cow just didn't move.
Just as his son was in a desperate situation, he suddenly thought of a solution. He saw that there was no one everywhere, so he approached the bull's ear and shouted loudly, "Dad, it's a turn!" The bull moved in response.
In this example, although the cow is an animal, its behavior is obviously in line with the "habit effect".
As long as the same thing is repeated for a long time, it will inevitably form a habit.
There is data that says: in a person's behavior in a day, only about 5% is non-habitual, while the remaining 95% are habitual.
Habits determine life.
Whatever you do repeatedly will become what kind of person you will become.
Someone once asked, why do successful people always seem to succeed, and those who fail almost always fail?
Some social psychologists have given an analysis:
"There is nothing else, the word 'habit' is at work. If a person is used to running every morning every day, he will run for decades; if a person is used to being lazy, he will walk around with nothing to do; if a person is used to being diligent, he will overcome all difficulties like Ashin from Japan, and thus be invincible. The same is true for success."
Feng Tang once said: "The development of habits is more important than innate. Those who can quit their bad habits are basically people who can accomplish things."
So, let's quit bad habits and cultivate good habits.
Once good habits are formed, they will become our lifelong wealth.
04
Find the rules and grasp the essence
As the saying goes, "The way is not far away from people."
The so-called "the way of heaven" means that all things in the world follow certain objective laws and natural laws.
Kimchi effect: People are the sons of the environment, and they are with the excellent ones;
Halfway effect: Only by learning to decompose goals can you achieve twice the result with half the effort;
Habit effect: Develop good habits, habits determine life.
law is inherent and essentially necessary.
Find the rules and grasp the essence.
In this way, life can go with the flow and move forward steadily...
Author profile: A Bai Reading, freelance writer. Use calligraphy as your companion and pen as your friend.
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