The following content comes from the short video account of «Huang Shiming Psychology»: "People who are often anxious are often people who are far away from themselves. They often give excessive attention to others. For example, parents who focus too much on their children; paren

The following content comes from the short video number of « Huang Shiming Psychology»:

"People who are often anxious are often people who stay away from themselves.

They often give their eyes too much to others. For example, parents who focus too much on their children; put too much attention on their partners and colleagues.

Try to use their conscious mind to control the changes in external impermanence, and then anxiety will arise.

Stay away from the center of your body, over-derive it, and hand it over. So anxiety arises.

All anxiety is a message, you need to return to yourself a little more. You need to take back the attention of over-invested to others.

So how to return to yourself? Here I will ask a question, If you don’t hand over all yourself to others, what are you most worried about?

Let’s experience it here, that answer What is it?

Maybe it's because I don't like me, and I'm worried that others think I don't have the ability and value.

Where is the most likely place in the body to feel these sounds?

Maybe it's in the heart, maybe it's in the dantian, and then bring the connection to that fragile place. Say to it: I see you. Now I'll give you a home in my body. Give you a place to rest.

Once we return to ourselves, from our bodies In the heart, if we enter this world and into relationships, then we will not over-extend all of ourselves. Excessive extension of

will cause anxiety.

will over-contract inward and become depression.

So we need to find a sweet balance between ourselves and the world. Connect ourselves and enter the world. "

The above words touched me very much. I am the one who often handed over myself without knowing it. When you hand over yourself but fail to get the ideal reward, that kind of regret, that kind of psychological imbalance, and that kind of gritting teeth also happen often.

"If you don't give yourself all to others, what are you most worried about?"

My answer to this question is, if I only give it to others, I might as well die. I can only give, not ask for it. My society is afraid because I don’t want to pay more.

In essence, I am like my father, coming and going naked. I and the world do not owe each other. I enjoyed giving it, but I couldn't get it.

I enjoy being a victim. I can't be a acquirer.

Even when facing such a powerful object, I still put all my strength into it. I want to give it to you. As long as I have a breath, I will be the one who gives.

So on the surface I was very dissatisfied, my parents could not do anything for me. But at the same time, I feel very relaxed and don’t need to be particularly grateful to them.

At the same time, the same is true when facing my husband. Why do I feel relaxed around my husband is because he does not control my life and death.

But in front of my boss, I was very reserved because my boss could determine my destiny, to a certain extent.

Now, although I don’t think it’s a healthy idea to face people who are much stronger than myself.

But working hard to repay others is not a bad thing. It can also be regarded as a source of motivation. Come on, boy!

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