It is easy to cause misunderstandings between people. For example, if you think I have social phobia, it is the biggest misunderstanding of me. "Don't want to socialize" and "not good at socializing" are two different things, let alone social phobia. To be honest, I am actually v

It is easy to cause misunderstandings between people. For example, if you think I have social phobia, it is the biggest misunderstanding of me. "Don't want to socialize" and "not good at socializing" are two different things, let alone social phobia.

, to be honest, I am actually very good at socializing. But, in my opinion, socializing is boring.

Because, as soon as the other party spoke, I knew what he was thinking. If I say a few more words, I will basically know what kind of person it is.

At this time, I feel very bored. Because, I already know what he wants to say next. In this case, if I continue to listen, I will inevitably feel anxious.

Because, I feel that time is wasted, and it is wasted on boring listening. This makes me feel hopeless and feel that life is humiliating me, and I compromise.

I have not compromised on life. In the past ten years, I have been enduring and compromising, and I am simply accommodating the whole world. Until one day, I asked myself, "What did you get?"

It was at that moment that I realized: when you accommodate the whole world, you have nothing.

So, I calmed down and thought-

For the first time in the past decade, I thought quietly. I found that over the past decade, I have been so busy that I have not even had time to think. To put it in detail, I probably ignored time.

I spent my most precious time on the strangest people in exchange for a meager income and a dispensable sense of existence. I abandoned myself and the people I was closest to.

At that moment, I suddenly realized: there is not much time left.

I should leave the little time left for myself and at the same time make some spare part of it to accompany my family. This is the most important thing in life and the meaning of life.

So, I'm back here. I told myself that if I didn't have to, I wouldn't go anywhere. This life is here and spend the rest of your life peacefully in the ordinary.

Although I was ready to enter a socially-free state as soon as I came back, I was inevitably greeted by my relatives and friends. Fortunately, I have more free time, which allows me to answer their questions with ease, otherwise I will inevitably be tormented to the point of neurasthenia.

The questions they asked were just a few: Why did they come back suddenly? Are you planning to do something? Will you make money?

This feeling is not good at all, and it seems to be no different from blind dates. When I tell them that there is no intention, they often look incredible on their faces.

When I told them that they were just coming back to rest, a worried look appeared on their faces, and then they asked me: "Are you sick? Or is something wrong?"

I really want to tell them: I am healthier than ever. But I didn't speak after all, just shook my head slightly, and then said a little tiredly-I was just tired.

They obviously don’t believe what I’m talking about. After all, I’m only 30 years old and I’m very young, how could I be tired? They would definitely think that something had happened to me, otherwise they wouldn't have come back so suddenly.

After I had a period of idle time, suddenly one day, a sister who was considerate and was OK suddenly came and said she suspected that her child was suffering from depression . This inevitably surprised me: "No! How could he be depressed?"

So we started chatting. But as I talked, I felt something was wrong. It turned out that after a long circle, she was suspecting that I was suffering from depression.

The reason why she is so suspicious is because my behavior is very much like recuperation or something.

When a person suffers from depression, psychologists usually recommend getting along with their family, reading more books, and writing diaries and running every day. These behaviors are very consistent with my current living conditions.

Although her suspicion is reasonable and well-founded, I was still a little amused and couldn't speak for a long time.

In order to dispel her doubts, I had to say to her, "Only people with low IQ will be depressed!"

In order to prevent other relatives and friends from harassing me again, I had to question her, "Do you know why a person suffers from depression?"

Seeing her shake her head, I said to her seriously, "Because the psychologist suspected that she had depression, so she also thought she suffered from depression. My family began to worry about anxiety, and then relatives and friends came to express condolences. Under the shadow of tension, anxiety, worry, and fear, she finally confirmed that she suffered from depression. So she became depressed, the kind that could not be cured. After all, this thing is , It is not a disease, but a serious psychological suggestion! "

Seeing her a little stunned, I continued to say to her: "Running is for physical and mental health, long-distance running is to exercise willpower, accompanying your family is to enjoy happiness, reading books is to enrich yourself, writing is purely for interests and hobbies, all of which is to please the spirit!"

I also want to tell her: matter can only bring happiness, which is very short-lived. If you want to maintain this happiness, you have to constantly seek different material stimuli. When all the stimuli fails, you will become numb, and a huge void will form in your heart that can never be filled, and even if you spend your whole life, it will be useless. True happiness comes from inner satisfaction, spiritual fulfillment and pleasure, and is endless and will never disappear.

But, I didn't say it. If I really said that, she would definitely tell others: She is not suffering from depression, but crazy.

If this is true, the misunderstanding will be deeper, and it is the kind that cannot be explained clearly.