Why? Uh, because from a human cognitive perspective, if you first meet someone and how you get along with this person, you will think that this is what I should get along with this person. This person is such a person. So what does it mean to speak first?
Speaking first means I will take the initiative to establish a relationship with you, and then speaking will be passive. Come and establish a relationship with me. So when speaking first on wedding night, that person is the one who actively wants to contact the other party when a certain relationship is first established, and the other party who actively wants to establish a relationship with the other party. Then this means that in this relationship, he is the party who needs to establish contact with others more, that is, the party who seems to be asking the other party to establish a relationship, and the party who has needs. So since that's the case, he is also a weak side.
so let's go back to the custom we just mentioned. Speaking to the other party first on the wedding night means that when he first establishes a relationship, he puts himself on the demand side, or on the side that has the demands on the other party, and on the weak side. In this way, the initial relationship he may have established with the other party is a relatively weak relationship.
This is actually the same as the one who quarreled with the two people, and whoever talked first, whoever talked first, whoever talked first, was the relatively weak side in the relationship between these two people. This is the same as this.
And if we start like this, then we can easily establish a psychological understanding, saying, it seems that the relationship between us two should be weak, because I speak first, and it is easy to develop such a subconscious fixation. This kind of fixation will also lead to the first talk in the relationship between the two people after marriage, and there will be a little bit of inertial weakness.
Of course, I am talking about this today, just to analyze the psychology principles in it, not to tell you that you should not talk to the other party first on the wedding night, because we are now, but on the day of marriage, the two of them don’t know how much they said, but this is actually meaningless. And on the other hand, why do you have to make yourself a strong partner? Why bother to care about who is stronger and who is weak? Are they all your own family? meat rotted in the pot. OK, today I will talk to you a few casually, see you next time.
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