To be honest, I am also an "old" consultant who has been practicing for some years. I am not particularly experienced, but I am also "inexperienced". But some words still make me feel like my blood pressure is rising.
For the physical and mental health of me and other consultants, please don’t say these words! Please!
1. The secret to psychological counselors "breaking defense"
1. "Don't talk about those useless things, just tell me, will you divorce this marriage?"
tell you? OK, then can you guarantee that you don’t come to me if you regret it?
This is a very important and very personal decision. We can discuss with you, weigh the pros and cons, sort out the complex influencing factors and hidden motivations behind it, so that you can make more favorable decisions, but you really have no right or ability to bear your future life.
All the functions of psychological counseling do not include the solution to real problems!
2, "I see that people say that the package is good, why can't you do it?"
I dare to say it. The question is, do you dare to believe it?
Anyone who says "wrap it well", "wrap it well", "wrap it well", or they are either hiding routines behind it, or they are purely liars. Where was the last time you saw something similar? Anyway, I'm on a telephone pole on the side of the road.
Of course, although we cannot make an absolute guarantee in terms of effect, we still dare to make such guarantees in terms of hard work and responsibility!
3, "I like you very much, can I do it for nothing?"
It's a coincidence. I also like you very much, is it okay to increase the price of points? The setting of
charges is one of the principles of consultation. It not only ensures that the consultant can get a reward that meets his abilities and efforts, but also ensures that the client can pay enough attention and cooperate with the consultation, so as to better ensure the effectiveness of the consultation.
One was bought and the other was picked up for free. Which one is more distressed if you lose it?
And to be honest, consultants also need to make a living, and our training and subsequent growth require a lot of investment.
Can you really expect a group of people who love to generate electricity to support a huge industry and provide you with high-quality psychological services?
Capitalists burst into tears after seeing it!
4, "I actually have something I haven't told you..."
Do you know when I am most afraid of hearing this?
any! what! hour! Wait!
Because as soon as this is said, things often start to become difficult.
is not necessarily because of how complicated this matter itself is, but it often means that previous analysis and plan need to be pushed back and forth, and most of the previous efforts have been wasted - the direction may be wrong!
For example, we had been consulting for several months based on anxiety, and you suddenly told me that you were actually diagnosed with schizophrenia , but you were not willing to take medicine. I didn’t tell me that I was afraid of scaring me and not willing to consult you...
What? Now I’m scaring me, okay! I feel sorry for you for the past few months and the consultation fee!
In hospitals, we often say not to " avoid medical treatment ", and the same is true in psychological counseling. We have received strict ethical training. Please tell us your true situation boldly and don’t delay the solution of the problem.
2. There are matching problems with psychological counseling that you really need to ask. It is not just the consultants who have their own genre orientations, but I believe that in your mind there is also a tendency toward different theories, explanations and solutions.
For example, I am a consultant who is good at hypnosis, and you are very disgusted with hypnosis. This question will help you obtain key information in advance and make early decisions about whether to start subsequent consultations with me.
In addition, this question helps you understand the level of the consultant.If you answer this question stumblingly and vaguely, it means that he either does not understand your troubles or does not have the confidence to solve it. Consultants like
may not be worthy of your belief.
Of course, novices have them in any industry, and they must also need sufficient practical experience to grow.
So, if your consultant acknowledges this to you and tells you that he will always keep in touch with his supervisor, please try to believe him - even if he can't handle it, there is a "big guy" behind him!
2, "Is our conversation completely confidential?"
In most cases, yes. Only in two cases will our consultation content be known to third parties.
One, involves confidentiality exceptions.
This is a provision of ethical rules and laws. In the case of life at stake (whether you or others) or illegal or illegal crimes, we need to inform specific objects of the relevant situation to prevent any harm as much as possible.
For example, when you have a very high risk of suicide.
Of course, we will let you know before breaking the confidentiality exception and do our best to get your consent.
Secondly, it needs to be supervised or discussed with others.
As mentioned earlier, when consultants encounter cases that they are difficult to deal with or have doubts, they need to seek help from supervisors, which inevitably requires informing the supervisor of the consultation content.
Also, when a consultant believes that a case has high value for publication or discussion, the content of the consultation needs to be published within a certain range.
Of course, before doing this, we will hide the key information that can recognize you, and will definitely get your permission.
is not a simple oral license, but a well-documented license (such as written authorization, chat history, etc.). Otherwise, it is equivalent to infringement of you. You can complain to us through industry associations, professional platforms and other channels, and in some cases, you can also protect your rights through legal means.
3, "What do I need to do? What do I need to pay?"
Psychological counseling cannot be "shave your head and pick it up". In addition to the counselor, you also need to pay. The first thing to do is to do is
. The first thing to do is to do is time and money .
consultation cannot be achieved overnight. The formation of psychological problems often has deep roots and the stubborn logic behind them. If a problem that has lasted for more than ten or twenty years is solved, it will take several months, right?
says, "Sickness comes like a mountain falling, and illness goes like a thread pulling out." The mountain has been falling for so many years, isn't it too much for me to suck these threads for a few months? Is it always reasonable for me to order wages?
In addition to this, the efforts you need also include a series of matters in the consultation interval.
For example, in the most typical cognitive behavioral therapy, we need you to complete a series of "homework" .
These parts are indeed a bit time-consuming and labor-intensive, especially at the beginning stage. But its existence can at least increase the effectiveness of consultation several times, and even directly determine whether the consultation is effective.
Different schools, different consulting plans, and different consulting providers may assign different "homework" differently. Understanding these in advance will help you plan time and prepare mentally and truly devote yourself to efficiently solving problems.
4. "What stage is our consultation now?"
Consultation is not an endless process, nor is it a "chat". It is a well-targeted, structured and highly professional talk.
In the consultation plan, we will divide the consultation into different stages according to the nature of the problem and your demands.
Although we cannot clearly predict the number and time required for each stage, we will always pay attention to the progress of the current consultation.
Understanding the current stage will help you grasp your own situation more, and it will also help you feedback your true feelings to the consultant and help the consultant make timely evaluations and adjustments.
In addition, when you ask this question, you are also examining the consultant's grasp of the consulting progress and his attitude towards the consultation.
If he can't answer, he will either not be good at learning or just be a slut.
If he is still unwilling to find a supervisor or even thinks you are troublesome, please stop the loss in time! How about
? Have you understood all the above questions? Be a "prepared" visitor and you will have a better consulting experience.
Moreover, our consultants can also lose a few hairs...
Author: Lin Cong
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First release: Yidianling Psychology
Focus on psychological growth, love you warmly and forcefully
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