Recently, People's Daily Health Client, " Health Times " and others jointly released the "2022 National Depression Blue Book" (hereinafter referred to as the "Blue Book"). There is a shocking set of data: the prevalence of depression among teenagers has reached 15-20%, close to adults; patients with depression under the age of 18 account for 30% of the total number, 50% of the depression patients are students, 41% have been off school due to depression; 77% and 69% of the student patients are prone to depression in interpersonal and family relationships; 63% of the student patients feel strict/control, neglect/lack of care and conflict/domestic violence in their families; although half of the depression students will ask for help through friends' conversations, parents' communication or other channels, 46% of the students do not seek any help, and nearly 30% of the students have never thought of seeking help from professional psychologists. The "mental internal friction" of minors needs to be seen urgently. What is "mental internal friction" What is "mental internal friction"? Simply put, it is like driving with both feet on the brakes and accelerator, continuously consuming energy while constantly pulling, and the car still stagnates and cannot reach the end of the pursuit. When internal friction exists for a long time, it makes people feel tired. This fatigue is not caused by physical fatigue, but a state caused by the individual's psychological loss. For example, when some children face a teacher's question in class, they will experience a huge pull in their hearts. One inner voice says that they should raise their hand to answer the question; the other inner voice refuses to answer the question because they are afraid of answering the wrong answer. or some children are already prepared for something, but they still feel pain, anxiety, fear, irritability and pressure due to the unknown difficulties of this matter. Under these emotional pressures, they are worried about whether they really want to do this, hesitate and hesitate. There are also children who encounter something, and the two villains in their brains start fighting and start to fight internally. Others use 100% concentration to do one thing, but they first consume 50% of their internal energy, so their mobility will naturally be much lower. In the long run, internal energy will also cause anxiety and mental fatigue. Why do children have "mental internal friction" Social and economic development are rapidly developing, and pressure on adults is growing rapidly under "high competition". Minors are in such an environment, facing academic " intra-volume ", high expectations of parents, peer comparison, information intrusion, social suppression... In their world, pressure is not necessarily inferior to adults. Unable to integrate into the collective, being excluded by the "small circle", campus bullying , breaking up love... These at a loss in interpersonal relationships have made minors deeply trapped in the "internal friction" of self-doubt and low sense of identity. In modern families, most parents attach great importance to the upbringing of minors and have higher expectations for their growth indicators and academic development. Many parents' anxiety "hate without steel", excessive criticism, excessive interference and control of desires, imposing their own ideas on their children, and lack of care, etc., may make minors unable to feel the recognition and attention from their families, and they are often surrounded and troubled by "uselessness". With the continuous development of Internet technology, a large amount of information has poured in. Some bad information, vulgar culture, and wrong ideas grow around minors like weeds. They cannot distinguish and analyze them when their minds are immature. The online games of the "virtual world", the short videos of "low-level happiness", the literature of "devotional culture", and the culture of "fan circle"... also make it impossible for minors to clarify virtuality and reality. The world around minors is very different, and these socio-cultural factors are also affecting their values and sense of happiness. Under heavy pressure, some children say that they feel uncomfortable when they talk about going to school, they feel uncomfortable all over; they are alienated from their family and friends, and refuse to communicate frankly; they are too anxious or worried; they often feel that they are meaningless in life, they have no motivation to learn to do things, and they always say that they are tired... Many people think that their behavior is "lying down", "rebellious" and "spicy". In fact, these are actually "software signals" sent by minors. They long to be "seen" and need guidance and help urgently. Children's "mental internal friction" needs to be seen In the TV series " Basic Law of Genius ", Pei Zhi, a mathematical genius played by Zhang Xincheng, can shuttle between two parallel worlds. In both worlds, he has the same personality, the same talent, and the same love of mathematics. His opportunities from childhood to adulthood are similar. However, Pei Zhi from Strawberry World suffered from mental illness, gave up learning mathematics, and became a third-rate boxer, accompanying pain; while Pei Zhi from Cheese World has been studying mathematics in depth. In his twenties, he completed mathematical problems that could change global development with his master, becoming one of the best mathematicians in the world. This is because Pei Zhi healed his spiritual internal friction in the cheese world. Children's "mental internal friction" needs to be seen, and parents should provide timely and effective solutions to better help them grow upward. Some parents may ask, how should we help children reduce mental internal friction? The answer is simple, we need to be a "good object". The so-called "good object" is simply to put it simply, we must always love, see, support, and empathize with children. 
And in our behavior and feedback, children feel that they are good enough and everything is accepted, so that they will not reject themselves in their hearts and compete with themselves and the outside world. Then, they will use their love to give back to us this "good object".
What supports children to reduce internal consumption is never cold words from parents, but the warm, joyful and loving moments in memory. It is precisely because my heart is full of love and warmth that I am not afraid of hardship and difficulties. And such a child is the happiest child.
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Yuhehai Education is an institution focusing on psychological counseling for adolescents. Over the past 7 years, it has provided high-quality services to more than 35,000 families. The exclusively developed "concentric circles and family education ecosystem" has been upgraded to the sixth generation; the "581 dual-system dynamic adjustment method" based on "concentric circles" has received high praise from a large number of parents.
The predecessor of Yuhehai Education was the "Fish and Hai Psychological Exchange Group" established in 2015. The eight co-sponsors are leaders in the education industry, primary and secondary school teachers, college teachers, hospital psychiatrists, and psychological counseling industry experts. The studio was later established and it was operated in 2019. The research center is located in Beijing and the operation center is set up in Zhengzhou.
Yuhehai Education has always attached great importance to product research and development. Its subsidiary [Yuhehai Family Education Research Center] holds regular product seminars, and the seminars have reached hundreds of sessions. At the same time, the center cooperated with universities and invited many professors of psychology and doctoral students from universities to serve as researchers.
Yuhehai Education was earlier exploring the "offline + online" guidance model, and became a pioneer in the "full process online consultation" in the field of adolescent psychology in March 2020. Online guidance services launched due to the sudden outbreak of the epidemic are very popular due to their privacy, convenience and efficiency. They have unique advantages and have achieved significantly better guidance than offline guidance.
◎Adhere to refined services.In 2020, Yuhehai launched the "2020-2025 Fine Refinement Project", proposing that before 2025, "only serve 3,000 families per year."
◎Persist in action with warmth. In 2016, "Yuhehai Charity" was established. Over the past six years, "Yuhehai Charity" has affected more than 1,000 families and has reached more than 10,000 children in total.
◎Continuously output original content. Up to now, various media platforms under Yuhehai Education have published more than 200 original youth psychology popular science articles, 90 Zhihu answers, and 30 science popular science videos, with a total reading volume exceeding one million.
