She was abandoned on the streets of Wuhan a few months after she was born. Fortunately, she was adopted by an American woman and treated her like her biological daughter, giving her all her life to study.

If I had known you would have let go, I would rather not have been there.

This sentence is what the abandoned child feels after he knows the truth!

She was abandoned on the streets of Wuhan a few months after she was born. Fortunately, she was adopted by an American woman and treated her like her biological daughter, giving her all her life to study. When she finally got admitted to the prestigious university, Yale University, she insisted on setting foot on China's hometown many times to find her biological parents.

Someone advised her: Why bother to find the cruel person who abandoned you? Your adoptive mother is so kind to you, wouldn’t it be enough to respect her adoptive mother?

She said: I want to find my roots, thank my biological parents for bringing me to this world, and letting me feel the beauty...

But people questioned: Without the foster mother's hard work and twenty years of hard work, can you have the wonderful life today?

She said: I am grateful to my adoptive mother, but I want to hug my biological parents...

What kind of a transnational true story that has lasted for more than 20 years?

Has the girl found her biological parents? Will there be a gap between her and her adoptive mother because of her insistence on finding relatives?

Let’s review the story of “abandoned girl” Jenna Cook insists on not abandoning her relatives.

Report on girls looking for relatives in newspapers

1, the selfless love of an exotic adoptive mother

Margaret Cook is an elementary school teacher in Newburypo, Chets, Marseille, USA.

She was born in 1950 and had her feet turned outward from her little soles. She could not undergo surgery due to family religious beliefs, so her growth, study and emotional love were greatly affected.

html When she was 230 years old, she went to the hospital for surgery regardless of her despise, but because she had missed the best time for surgery, the operation was not very effective. She still couldn't run, walked slowly, and had a weird posture, and was often ridiculed.

By 1991, Margaret, who was already 41 years old, was worried that her own disease would be inherited. She was not married and even more afraid to have children, so she was still alone.

Margaret Cook is an elementary school teacher who is with a group of innocent and romantic children every day. She really wants to adopt a child to accompany her, but for various reasons, she has not successfully applied in the local area.

By chance, she learned that she could adopt a child in China, so she prepared all the materials to apply. Fortunately, she successfully applied. So he crossed thousands of mountains and rivers to Wuhan.

Strong maternal love made her meet a Chinese girl named Xia Huasi.

On March 24, 1992, at a busy bus stop in Wuhan, someone left an abandoned child. The baby, who was still in his infancy, was discovered by a kind-hearted person and handed over to the Wuhan Nursing Hospital near the station at that time. The dean of

found that the baby girl was very weak. It seemed that she had just been born, and there was no word left in the cradle. After a while of distress, she gave her a nice name "Xia Huasi".

Later, the kindergarten had a physical examination for Xia Huasi, and fortunately, she was very healthy.

At the end of June of the same year, Margaret Cook came to Wuhan, adopted Shahwas, and also gave her an American name named Jenna Cook. After completing various procedures, she took her back to Massachusetts, the United States.

After Margaret Cook brought Shahwas home, he loved her in every way, taught her to learn literacy and study, and treated her as her own.

Xhahuas and her adoptive mother

Xhahuas, like all happy children, lived a carefree childhood. She thought Mary Gert was her biological mother.

But as she got older, she found that the people in the town looked different from her. Including her mother, they all had white skin, yellow hair, blue eyes, but they had black hair, yellow skin, dark eyes.

She asked her mother why this is? The kind Margaret Cook told her: You were born in Wuhan, China, and I am your adoptive mother...

Under the story of her adoptive mother, Xia Huas knew that he was one of the first 200 children to be adopted by American families. Since then, American families have adopted about 80,000 Chinese children, most of whom are girls.

In addition, 40,000 children were adopted by European Dutch , Spanish and British families.

Although her mother Margaret tried her best to let her learn Chinese and let her understand China, the cruel fact that she was an abandoned baby quickly made Xia Huasi in pain, became particularly sensitive and cried.

In order to make her happy and cheerful, her mother asked her teacher to teach her figure skating when her financial conditions were not well-off.

After living with her adoptive mother for five years, Margaret adopted another two-year-old baby girl from Yiwu . She devoted all her life to raise her two daughters, taught them Chinese, and took them to date other families who adopted Chinese children. The two sisters gradually became sunny and cheerful from childhood under the care of maternal love.

Margaret's photo of adopting her daughter

2. Work hard to become the best self

As she gets older, Xia Huasi learned about her mother's good intentions.

Her mother has no mother since she was a child, and her father has almost missed every day of her growth. She was a child who grew up in loneliness, so she brought a sister to Xia Huasi, so that she could have a companion and no longer be alone and helpless.

Both sisters saw the efforts of mothers. They agreed that they must study hard and repay their mothers with success in the future. At the same time, every day when they come home from school, they take the initiative to help their mother with housework.

The mother and daughter depend on each other for life. Margaret's salary is not high, but she insists on letting Xia Huas learn figure skating and letting her sister learn cello .

In order to save expenses, she kept wearing old clothes, but bought expensive healthy food and expensive ice skates for her two daughters, and ate cheap junk food by herself.

She has never worn high heels in her life, but she bought more than fifty pairs of beautiful shoes for her two daughters. When she opened her bedroom drawer, her clothes were torn, but her two daughters were always dressed cleanly and beautifully.

In order to prevent the sisters from forgetting their motherland, every year during the Lunar New Year, Margaret always takes the sisters to their Chinese teacher’s house to celebrate the Spring Festival, give them red envelopes, and teach them to make dumplings.

Mid-Autumn Festival , she pointed to the moon in the sky and told her two daughters: Your Chinese mother is also watching this moon and missing you!

Xhahuas has asked her mother more than once, what does China look like and what does Wuhan look like?

Xiahuas

Looking at her daughter's confused and longing eyes, Margaret saved a fee and took her daughter to China for a trip in 2002. They visited Guilin, Hong Kong, Xi'an, Beijing and other places, and said to her daughter: This is the great rivers and mountains of China, and this is your hometown!

Under the care of her mother for ten years and as her own, Xia Huasi is no longer as sensitive as a little hedgehog, and her heart has become very strong.

But deep in my heart, there is always a coldness that tortures her: I am an abandoned baby, why do my parents abandon me? Did I do something wrong? It must be because I was not good enough that my parents abandoned me...

It is this coldness, coupled with my mother's warm love, which makes her very strong, study hard every day, strive for perfection.

When she wants to find and tell her biological parents in person when one day she wants to become perfect enough:

I am not what you think.

Xhahuas is a day student. In order to save her daughter's time and allow her daughter to review her homework in the car, and for her daughter's safety, Margaret picks up her daughter at the school gate on time at around 9:00 every night, regardless of wind or rain.

The 24-minute distance is full of heavy maternal love for 10 years.

Under Margaret's care and guidance, Xia Huas's grades were very excellent and finally survived four years of purgatory high school career.

In 2010, with a full score of 800 points per subject, she got good results of 800, 760, and 740, and received a notice from Yale University as she wished.

Just as Margaret was worried about the high tuition fee of $60,000 per year and tried hard to raise money, fortunately, Shahwas received a scholarship of $55,000 per year, and the remaining $5,000 will be borne by Margaret.

Yale life gave Xia Huasi the feeling of wanting to fly. She finally no longer was afraid of facing the fact that she was abandoned. She felt that the suffering had been overcome by her. She began to truly miss her biological parents, thanking them for letting her come to the world and allowing her to experience so many wonderful things.

At the same time, she believes that the moon in the United States is not as round as China. No matter how good the United States is, it is not her paradise. Its roots are in the East.

So she took the elective psychology because she once heard that parents and children will have telepathy.

She hopes to help herself find relatives better through researching psychology. Later, she had a greater dream and developed a strong interest in transnational adoption. She hoped that she could do some research and contributions. made the world no longer have girls who were as painful as her.

She once asked her sister:

Do you want to go over and find your biological parents?

sister shook her head:

no! Don’t think that my mother is so nice to us, why should I hurt her heart? Since they abandoned me, there must be a reason why I didn’t want me. Why did I bother them?

My sister's words did not shake Xia Huasi's determination to find relatives.

3. Going back to China to find your biological mother, where are you

Going back to China to find your relatives means a considerable fee. Xia Huasi knew that his mother’s retirement salary was not high, and he had to take medicine all year round if he had illness, and he was unable to support her at all.

She can only study hard while working hard to make money, saving money from one coin and one coin.

Whenever the night is late, the call of the roots breaks out like a flood: Dad, mom, I must find you!

After careful consideration, she made preparations to reveal her scars and privacy, and even reported her family search plan to the school as a research topic.

She thought about it. No matter how people accuse him of being ungrateful, she must try hard to give it a try.

Maybe this sincere filial piety moved the school. Her research topic was very lucky to have obtained the school's approval and applied for 12 scholarships. In addition, she worked hard to save money from one coin and one coin, and finally got enough money to come to Wuhan.

Worried that my mother was feeling bad, Xia Huasi hugged her mother and said: You will always be my dearest mother!

Margaret said gently:

Children, since you have chosen this path, you must move forward bravely. You are eager to find a home in China, then you must not be afraid of being hit and setback, and insist on finding it, and I will always be by your side.

Margaret also carefully recalled every detail of the adoption of Xia Huas so that her daughter could get a great victory and find her biological parents on the first time she went to search for her relatives.

When she learned that in that cold winter more than 20 years ago, she was abandoned by her parents, and her umbilical cord had not yet grown up and was wrapped in plastic cloth, she burst into tears, but this still did not stop her from finding her relatives.

She spent a long time carefully making materials about herself, and attached photos of herself from different periods and her growth experience in the United States, making photo albums and posters.

Despite the financial difficulties, Margaret was worried that her daughter would go alone, so she saved some money and came to Wuhan with her daughter in May 2012.

Kit search poster

As soon as she came to Wuhan and saw the Chinese with yellow skin, dark hair, dark eyes, like her, she felt very friendly and felt that her decision was correct.

Xhahuas later wrote her journey back to China to find a family in a documentary text. She wrote:

This was a difficult trip. When I walked to the abandoned place with my mother, I couldn't control myself and shed tears... I remember that when I went to my grandfather's grave to see him off, I understood the limitations of life and the pain of parting for the first time. At that moment, I seemed to be standing in front of a tomb. All my fate at the beginning of my life was uprooted, my roots were ruthlessly broken, and buried here...

With the help of the welfare home, Xia Huasi found Aunt Zhang, the "foster mother" who raised her for two months before leaving China.

Aunt Zhang, who is over 60 years old, has grown into a Tingting girl now. She said with emotion:

children, there was a "no choice" in that era. Your biological parents love you, and it is heartbreaking for them to do this!

Aunt Zhang's words gave Xia Huasi's heart, which had been intertwined for many years, a little comfort.

In order to find her parents, she went to the streets and alleys to inquire under the scorching sun and sent the carefully crafted posters to passers-by.

Soon, the story of her returning home thousands of miles to find her relatives was published in the local newspaper. Although the article was published in an inconspicuous place and was not long, it caused a huge response.

The story of Xia Huasi's search for relatives became popular!

Her earnest desire to find relatives and her adoptive mother's treatment of her for twenty years has touched the hearts of the entire Jiangcheng people.

People have left messages on local social media. The meaning expressed in hundreds of messages is roughly divided into two voices:

First,

Praise her for not forgetting the well digging,

Tree height does not forget the roots.

netizens praised her root-seeking journey, and at the same time expressed their willingness to pay attention to the information around her, wishing her to find her biological parents as soon as possible;

Second,

birth but not raised, so how can you talk about being kind?

not raised, so kindness is greater than heaven.

This part of netizens advised her not to waste time and energy. Since her biological parents abandoned you resolutely back then, they must have their reasons. What's the point of looking for them now? It’s better to go back to the United States to complete your studies, work hard, and repay your foster mother for raising her.

Facing different voices, Xia Huasi did not retreat. Maybe the truth is cruel. Maybe this road to seeking relatives has no end at all, but she will persevere because her adoptive mother always holds her up with love and helps her travel far.

Mother and daughter deep love

4. More than fifty families come to recognize their daughter

One stone stirs up a thousand layers of waves.

The story of Xia Huasi's search for relatives spread throughout the streets and alleys. For a time, nearly 50 possible families rushed to Wuhan from Huanggang , Xiantao , Hanchuan and other places to meet her to "recognize her relatives".

Xhahuas and her adoptive mother decided to meet these 50 families.

At the same time, she felt very nervous. Her story of looking for a relative was reported by the TV station throughout the process. When 50 families came to recognize their relatives, it meant that they would appear on the TV screen. It shows that at least about 50 families abandoned a baby girl on the same street in Wuhan in March 1992.

And these 50 parents who abandoned their children back then must know that abandoning their children is a crime, but they have the courage to face the mistakes of that year and have the courage to appear on TV shows, which made her nervous and surprised.

At the same time, she was nervous: Do these 50 families have their own parents? If so, how should we face their ruthlessness back then?

However, the fact soon disappointed her, although these families were concerned about Xia Huasi's well-being, as if she was her own daughter. After DNA comparison, her biological parents were not found in these 50 families.

But she still hugged and talked to these relatives, and from it, she heard too many sad stories.

hugs the relatives

She found that these families who abandoned their daughter back then were not as ruthless as she originally thought.

Some families regret it as soon as they throw it away, and they keep searching in the painful torture.

There is a mother who still has a piece of cloth on her child's clothes, hoping to meet them when she reunited in the future.

With disappointment and unwillingness, Xia Huasi and his mother must return to China.

When the plane was gradually moving away through the clouds, her tears rolled down. She hoped to come to Wuhan again, but she knew her economic situation. was embarrassed but she couldn't stop her from finding her roots.

After returning, Xia Huasi was unable to concentrate for a long time, and he always thought involuntarily:

Maybe my parents live in a remote countryside and don’t know that I’m looking for them;

Maybe my biological parents can’t help but recognize me as my daughter;

Maybe my biological parents cannot help but recognize me as my daughter;

』 Maybe they knew I was looking for them, but out of guilt, they dared not recognize each other⋯

Xiahuas

Her daily worry and conflicted appearance aroused the dissatisfaction of my sister:

Sister, why are you? So many people, including me, aren’t you doing well without looking for your biological parents? Your expression is so worried and sad. My mother is almost 70 years old and raised us since childhood. Can we work hard and create an environment for our mother to enjoy our old age!

My sister's words made Xia Huasi burst into tears. Her mother's love for her warmed her like a trickle of water and made her grow into a big tree that was not afraid of wind and rain. But she did not shelter from the wind and rain for her mother who was getting older, and she was always struggling with the obsession of searching for roots...

Meet the relatives and seekers

Can't go to Wuhan, Xia Huasi always asks reporters in Wuhan every few days to ask about progress or whether there are new clues.

Finally, in July 2013, Xia Huasi got a valuable opportunity to stay in China for a free week. But her mother really has no ability to accompany her this time.

Once again arrived in Wuhan where she was thinking about day and night. She did everything related to "roots":

Use chopsticks, eat hot dry noodles, and even look forward to finding a Chinese boyfriend in the future, giving birth to a Chinese child, taking root little by little, and becoming an authentic Wuhan girl ⋯

However, after several days of searching for relatives, there are still no words from biological parents.

When she was in a low mood and was extremely depressed, her mother called:

Child, you are not a child without roots, I will always be your home and your support!

The mother's kind language from the other side of the ocean made Xia Huasi burst into tears:

Over the years, she has been wanting to return to China, find Chinese parents, and take root in China, but after many setbacks, it is the American mother who gives her warmth, and it is the American mother who is always waiting for her... Mother's hair is already gray, but she loves her daughter more than herself, and she can send her away. This is true love!

root search

dew is white from tonight, the moon is bright in my hometown.

The concern for the hometown in his bones has made Xia Huasi insist on finding his biological parents over the years.

But she was immersed in her roots, but forgot that the mother who raised her to become a talented person is more kind than God!

After Xia Huasi returned to the United States, he wrote the experience of finding relatives in the past few years in a documentary text, with a paragraph of the text as follows:

More than 50 families I have seen live in deep and real sadness. They hugged me, they cried bitterly, they bowed to me, they begged for my forgiveness. After the publication of

Xia Huasi's article caused an uproar and controversy came one after another.

Some people believe that families who come to recognize relatives are profitable because they can be profitable from Xia Huasi, who has American nationality and study in a prestigious school, and if it were not for profit, these families would not come to look for relatives.

There are also many people who believe that the family that came to recognize their relatives was because of their conscience being condemned and their blood was thicker than water after abandoning their children, and Xia Huasi's experience uncovered the long-suffered pain in their hearts.

Recognize

Xhahuas wrote in the article:

Someone warned me that my biological parents might take advantage of me, and you should not look for them. When you find them, they may have bad intentions towards you, such as asking you for money, or asking you to go to the United States and wait.

The story is not over yet.

First time from Xia Huasi came to China to look for relatives, and wrote a missing person notice in person:

"Dad, mom: I miss you very much, thank you for bringing me to this world, I hope one day I can hug you..."

A few years later, she wrote in the article "The Voice of Abandoned Girls":

So far, I still haven't found my biological parents.

I still know nothing about why they abandoned me on the streets of Wuhan in March 1992. But, I will never give up.

Xiahuas's text

5. The place where there is love is home

Maybe, why did your parents leave me behind? When will I see my biological parents and let them witness my wonderful things today, it will be a regret that will always linger in Xia Huasi's heart!

However, through several years of searching for relatives, we have witnessed too many families who are separated from their children. She realized that the root she was looking for was actually by her side, that is the purest and selfless love given to her by her adoptive mother.

Where there is love is called home!

Photos of childhood

Perhaps, for every child who has been adopted abroad, returning to his home in China is the biggest wish.

According to statistics, between 1992 and 2013, there were about 139,000 cases of international parents adopting Chinese children, and more than 90% of Chinese abandoned babies adopted by foreigners were baby girls.

June 14, 2016, a total of 91 adopted Chinese children and 60 American adoptive families came from afar and embarked on a journey of searching for roots and returning to visit, checking their adoption files and finding the starting point for their own birth.

The abandoned girl Qu Houfang was born in Zhejiang in 1995.

Qu Houfang

After Qu Houfang was abandoned by her parents, a kind-hearted person sent her to the welfare home and named her Qu Houfang. When she was two years old, in 1997, Qu Houfang was adopted by an American family and named her Joey Jones .

After she arrived in the United States, her life and study were very smooth. The American adoptive father and mother treated her like her biological daughter.

She insisted on returning to China to look for her relatives after graduating from Yale University at the age of 24. Fortunately, she reported her information to the "Looking for Family" program team. Not long after, she received a reply from the program team, and her biological parents were found!

Qu Houfang's biological parents have always lived in Quzhou, Zhejiang, so it is not difficult to find.

I knew since I was a child that she was adopted. She imagined her biological parents countless times, but when they met face to face 24 years later, Zhai Yufang couldn't say a word, but she couldn't help but she couldn't help crying.

Qu Houfang's mother has been apologizing to her daughter, telling her last resort and her guilt and longing for years.

Qu Houfang chose to forgive her. She had no complaints to her biological parents, only gratitude.

She said that if her parents had not abandoned her at the beginning, she would have to continue to repeat her parents' lives now. She would not have learned so much knowledge, nor would she have so much open knowledge and wonderful life.

After recognizing his marriage, Qu Houfang not only chose to forgive her, but also decided to stay in China and live with her biological parents.

Many people were surprised and incredible about Qu Houfang's choice. They simply believed that the kindness of raising adoptive parents is greater than that of biological parents, and doing so is unfair to adoptive parents.

More people think: adoptive parents work hard to train you to become graduates of famous schools, and now you have become a biological parents recognize you. If you do nothing, they will run faster than rabbits! It is incredible and ungrateful to choose to be with your parents who have abandoned you and abandon your adoptive parents who have raised you and become talents in a foreign country!

Faced with various discussions, Qu Houfang said that she did not regret her choice, and she was also grateful for her adoptive parents' efforts, and she would respect her parents on both sides together.

I hope that her earnest filial piety can make both parents smile and be with happiness from now on.

is written at the end:

Although the protagonist of this article, Xia Huasi, did not find his biological parents as lucky as Qu Houfang.

But she believes that she tried her best to find her biological parents. Regardless of the result, experiencing the search process was a relief for her.

Over the years, under the careful care of her foster mother, she has finally become a lucky person who is favored by fate from an unknown ordinary grass.

However, The homesickness of falling leaves returning to the roots always touched her heart, making her want to fly across the ocean more than once, fly back to the Yangtze River , and fly back to her hometown in her dreams.

Just as she said, she will never give up looking for her biological parents, because that is the call of love, the concern connected by flesh and blood, and the warmth of family affection in the world.

Xia Huasi's call and search with tears also told all the parents in the world: If you bring me to this world, don't abandon me, we will never leave you, because we are a family that loves each other!