Statement: This article is by no means promoting feudal superstition, but revealing the psychological suggestive principle of "fortune-telling and getting single"
left women get single, sometimes not because they are unable to get single, but because they are not because they are not because they are not because they are single. It is important to get out of singleness and have a positive intention. If you want to get married and build a family. However, mastering its methods is also a compulsory course.
Many netizens once complained that many ways to get out of singleness were used, such as blind dates, online dating, making friends on various blind date websites, etc. But after dating someone, I always find that the "disability" of my blind date is either lacking money or love. Therefore, only by placing hope on the next one, but the same is true for the next one. After this cycle, the current employee became the ex, and he gradually became "remained".
Before mentioning the real way to get out of singleness, let’s share a real story that happened to me:
01 Linlin, after fortune telling, successfully get out of singleness?
Linlin got married last year. She was my best friend next door. She studied abroad for 3 years and specialized in piano majoring. She is 1.7 meters tall, with a goddess-like smile on Hanikezi, and her noble and elegant artistic temperament, in the eyes of others, she should have married into a wealthy family early.
However, Linlin was left because she had her own pursuit of love and marriage, not vulgar or mediocre. At the age of 30, she was so anxious that Linlin's mother was so blind dates that she had never been successful. Linlin also felt that she was too picky and a little discouraged.
Once, when I was chatting with me, she said: Before
, I always felt that I could find a better one, but that person still didn't appear. Now I see these boys, and some second-married men have also appeared in my "blind date list". It's better to get married early as before.
In desperation, Linlin, who believed in divination and fate, went to do a fortune-telling. Less than a month after Mr. Tutu found his fortune teller, Linlin found her wish-full person. Linlin told me: Mr. Divination gave four conditions for choosing a partner:
1, high nose bridge
2, uniform
3, financial management
4, teacher family
0, she looked for it according to these 4 standards, but she didn't expect that the result would be achieved in less than a month. The boys are officers, and their parents are both teachers. They have a high nose and look stupid. It cannot be said that it is a scholarly family, at least it has been well educated. I like reading and writing, especially I am very proficient in financial management knowledge. Linlin took over the "destiny arrangement" and the two got married after dating for one year.
02 Fortune telling is essentially a psychological hint.
In fact, there is no strange power or magic? Where is the fortune telling and divination? It's just a psychological hint from Linlin. Although I didn’t go with her to divine, the four conditions for choosing a spouse given by Mr. Divination all hit Linlin’s heart, which are urgently needed by girls like Linlin who study abroad and have a weak personality.
1. "High nose bridge" isn't it because Linlin has studied abroad and has met the psychological demands of being more aesthetically biased towards the West;
2. "Wearing uniforms" are often more independent and more masculine. They are the most lethal for girls like Linlin who are literary and sentimental;
3. "You can manage finances", and even more so. Linlin, who is spoiled, does not know about financial management managers;
4. "Teacher's Family" is also very consistent with Linlin's literary temperament.
I think this gentleman who tells fortunes may not know his destiny, but he is definitely an emotional expert who is very good at appreciating women and understanding women's hearts. But his emotional advice is not face-to-face spiritual chicken soup. Instead, he used the Destiny Theory to make those girls who believe that "love has the will of heaven" readily accept his "divination". This is a kind lie, both cunning and gentle.
03 Getting single must be drawn.
The limit of getting out of singleness includes at least 3 basic elements: mate selection conditions, preferred sorting and marriage deadline.
1. The conditions for choosing a mate should be "few and refined".
Find the person in life, only once in a lifetime, everyone should be cautious. They will set good standards for choosing a spouse in their hearts. Too many standards will affect your ability to identify, because each condition has a probability. The more conditions, the smaller the probability of encountering you, the more boys or girls you expect (this is a mathematical problem, you can apply formulas to calculate proofs).
Why do gold-worship girls frequently change boyfriends? It's like taking a quick look, not because of the charming face, but because the standard is unique: rich. Of course, we do not advocate such a concept of marriage and love, but "eliminating the dross and taking the essence" is the attitude we should have to get rid of singleness.
Even if you really meet the "Prince Charming", there is only one "princess". How do you determine that it will be you? Looking for the right person in your life is not because he is a "prince charming", but because you have fewer requirements, and a maximum of 3-4 conditions is enough.
So how do you understand the word "美"? It is to meet your needs. The union of marriage must be complementary to each other's strengths. What you are seriously lacking should be established as a condition for choosing a spouse. Never follow others and let secular ideas influence your heart. Calm down and think carefully about what kind of husband you want. This is the secret to getting out of singleness.
2. The preferred sorting should be "better be careful".
With your own standards for choosing a spouse, you must do a good job of positioning and sorting the main and secondary points. First, when choosing a spouse, you can understand the other party’s situation in order in order to see if it is suitable for you. Another thing is that if you have not found a meeting the existing standards, you can appropriately lower the standards based on the primary and secondary levels, so that your choice will be larger. You are the boss of your own "spouse selection standards". When the company's finances are tight, you can use the method of eliminating low-performance employees to ensure that your company survives.
3. The marriage deadline must be "determined to death".
Some girls always think "The next one is the best", "Anyway, I am still young, and there are opportunities", but as a result, "watching the current and wanting to leave, the next one quietly becomes an ex", forming a vicious cycle. I also changed from a little girl to an old girl, and I was promoted from a "Paladin" to a "Saint Seiya".
If you really want to get out of singleness successfully or build your own family, you must set a marriage deadline for yourself, especially for girls, after all, "years are fleeting and youth is hard to buy." Just like fresh milk in supermarkets, during the insurance period, you can drink it any time you want. The milk smells everywhere. If it expires, who will buy it?
Girls are set before the age of 27, which is more suitable. If you have to postpone it, don’t over 30 years old. There are more girls who are married to each other after the age of 30. On the list of blind dates, there are more men who are second-married. Some girls start to operate in the opposite direction and like to find "young meat", but "fresh meat" is not very familiar, and it takes more hardships and hard work to run a marriage. The sooner you get married, the better. The more you can take the initiative, and the more you end up being forced to be forced.
