A person walks around the world, and there is a day when he is born and naturally there is a day when he dies. The day of birth is the birthday, and the day after death is the day of death. The ceremony on the death day is worship. Relatively speaking, there is no need to pay attention to it. It is to come to worship occasionally during festivals. After all, death is like a lamp extinguishing, and death is a sad topic.
But birthdays are different. New life is expected, so we usually pay great attention to celebration. Logically speaking, a festive day like a birthday should be everything without worries. But in fact, there are many taboos and qualities for birthdays, especially for older people. There are many things to pay attention to in celebrating the birthday of the elderly among the people. If you don’t pay attention to it, the birthday celebration will become unhappy. So, do you know what are the requirements and taboos? Today, let’s learn about it together.
Sincerity is the most important thing
The life and death of people is a very common thing, but even if it is common, emotional ups and downs will still occur due to human emotions. When a new life comes, you will be happy; when death appears around you, you will be sad. But death is only a matter of a moment, and as time goes by, the pain will slowly be forgotten. Therefore, emotional sadness will not last for a long time in many cases.
However, freshmen are different. Because although a new life is only a moment of arrival, life exists in the world and it takes a long time to go through a long life. After all, a person creates a lot of things in the world and produces many bonds. Therefore, the day of new life is important, and as time goes by, commemoration becomes even more important.
Especially as we grow older, many people think that it is infinitely close to death, so the elderly live a lot. Generally speaking, celebrating your birthday is a very festive thing. Because for older people, their children usually run around for life, but because the elderly are in this way, it is an emotional bond, so they celebrate when they celebrate their birthdays. The elderly will naturally be very happy to see the younger generations of the family gather together.
However, it is naturally a happy birthday celebration. After all, the birthday celebration is usually done by the juniors, for the happiness of the elderly. However, there are many precautions among the people. Only by paying attention to these taboos can we truly achieve the goal of celebrating our birthday.
The first thing to pay attention to is to pay attention to sincerity. Some people may be very confused. It is naturally sincere to celebrate the old man’s birthday, after all, this is a rare happy day. But this is just a part of the idea. Sometimes, part of the purpose of celebrating birthdays is no longer simple because of this or that.
In fact, people who have watched some TV series may have noticed some plots, such as someone at home holding a birthday party, but other meanings will be mixed in this banquet. After all, it is common to have a cup at the banquet, and some people regard this as a kind of social interaction in the world of fame and fortune. In this way, is clearly the purpose of congratulating birthdays, but in this process, the old man became an unimportant supporting role.
I believe that many people with elderly people at home disdain this purposeful celebration, let alone the protagonist of the celebration. The elderly are generally unhappy. Since they have experienced the baptism of time, they are naturally very patient and will not express their dissatisfaction easily, but will only be depressed in their hearts. Once you get too depressed, it will inevitably be bad for your health. Because whether it is young or elderly, psychological happiness is very important, so that there will be no physical diseases.
Therefore, whether it is someone who holds a birthday party for the elderly or celebrates the birthday, sincerity is very important. Remember to discuss with the elderly and make your birthday utilitarian.
Family reunion is the real
The second thing to note is to pay attention to the true intentions of the elderly and not to put the celebration of birthdays in a formal way. Although there are many young people in this world who can get along well with the elderly, understand the personalities of the elderly at home and easily figure out their true meaning, there are still young juniors who don’t get along well with the elderly, so naturally they don’t understand it so clearly.
Therefore, in this case, there are some young juniors who prepare birthday banquets for the elderly in order to save face or reputation, and welcome guests from all directions, making the momentum of great momentum. But in fact, the elderly actually don’t think this way, because many elderly people think that as they get older, they will lose their attention to these things. With their younger generations around, they will be able to enjoy their grandchildren.
So, if this situation exists, the noisy and festive scene may not be what they want to see, but more like that all their descendants are reunited together, which is the real happiness. But some juniors misinterpret the old man's meaning, which may make the old man physically and mentally exhausted, and they are thankless, and it is not impossible to create family conflicts.
Once there are seeds of conflict, then in the future, this conflict that has been planted over the years will break out. As the saying goes, every family has a difficult sutra to recite. But if there are obviously some "simplicity" that can be avoided, then you will naturally avoid it if you can. Otherwise, the family will be in chaos every day and no one wants to see it.
And once these problems occur, it is like the truth that there is no innocent snowflake in the avalanche. No one can refuse, and no one will bow his head. At that time, you may be clearly a family member, but there is a gap, and no one can treat anyone sincerely. For the younger generation, the family is no longer a warm harbor, and the elderly may also be depressed. Then celebrating your birthday seems to be a loss.
Conclusion
Birthday is worth celebrating after all. Except for a few people who do not accept old age, they are also more repulsive to birthdays. However, aging and death are too common in the world, so there is nothing to hide from. Many people naturally have a little sadness about birthday celebrations. Because birthday celebrations overshadow all unhappiness.
But through understanding, we also know that the elderly are already older, so they naturally pay great attention to festive things. Therefore, in birthday celebrations, we do not seek to get too much formal joy. After all, the older you are, the more you will find that what people pursue is already just a cloud of clouds. Therefore, pursuing simple happiness becomes their greatest happiness, and their descendants are by their side, following their own ideas, etc. Without elderly people, there will be no descendants. Therefore, we must learn to respect the elderly, be filial to the elderly, and make the family harmonious and complete.
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