As the saying goes, "Since ancient times, there are many talented men, and talented men have passed on their own stories." This is an eternal fact. It seems that only romantic and passionate people can be worthy of the name of talented men and write good stories passed down from the world.
However, everyone ignores the sad heroines who face marriage betrayal because of the romantic love of talented men, such as Xu Zhimo 's original wife Zhang Youyi .
However, some women can be reborn in betrayal, such as the former Yanjing University school beauty - Yuan Yongxi.
Cold school beauty, capturing the heart of the king
Under the influence of the conservative idea of "a woman without talent is virtue", many girls cannot enter the school to study. Those women who can go to school or even go to college are often the second generation of rich or official, and Yuan Yongxi is no exception.
Yuan Yongxi's father once worked as an aide to Yuan Shikai . Later, he left the officialdom and turned to the mall.
Relying on the old official relationship, the Yuan family's business is booming. In addition, Yuan's father is very open-minded and subjective and objective conditions are met. Yuan Yongxi, as a daughter, can also enter the new school to study.
Later, with Yuan’s father's death, the Yuan family fell into ruin. In order to continue his studies, Yuan Yongxi and his brothers and sisters had to sell their property. Fortunately, God paid off. Yuan Yongxi finally admitted to the Department of Physics of Yenching University with excellent results.
Yuan Yongxi, who was born in a wealthy family, has a good appearance and extraordinary temperament. After experiencing family changes, she has added a hint of mature and cold temperament.
Compared with the woman who loved to apply makeup at that time, the simple and elegant Yuan Yongxi was like a lotus coming out of the water, becoming one of the "three major school beauties" of Yenching University.
It was also at this time that she met Ye Gongchao, who was four years older than her and taught part-time at Yenching University.
Speaking of Ye Gongchao, he is simply the embodiment of the perfect domineering general in the modern romance novel .
Ye Gongchao, who also came from a wealthy family, obtained dual degrees from of Cambridge University and Hearst University at the age of 22, becoming the youngest lecturer in the English department of Peking University. He is close friends with Hu Shi and Xu Zhimo.
It’s okay to be talented, but Ye Gongchao is still handsome and has outstanding temperament. Among the old-fashioned teachers, he is naturally the young and handsome object of admiration for many female students.
is like " Jinyanxi " in "The Golden Fen Family". Facing all kinds of bells and swallows, he is in love with the cold and indifferent " Lengqingqiu " that does not bring makeup to his face, and Ye Gongchao is the same.
A good girl is afraid of gangsters, not to mention that she is facing a talented and beautiful person like Ye Gongchao. Even if Yuan Yongxi is cold, she is still moved by the man.
plus Yuan Yongxi, who has experienced the death of his father and the decline of his family, was forced to grow up and mature, and was used to concealing himself with indifference, and also hopes to meet a sincere and passionate love.
Although my friends around me kindly told Yuan Yongxi that Ye Gongchao had a irritable personality and his violent temper was not something that ordinary people could tolerate.
You can see that when Ye Gongchao faces him, he can restrain his arrogant temper and become careful and gentle. Yuan Yongxi was finally defeated by Ye Gongchao's gentle attack.
The teacher-student relationship between the two has become a good story on campus. On June 30, 1931, Yuan Yongxi and Ye Gongchao got married.
If the two are put into romance novels, it will be a love story between a irritable and handsome young male professor and a cold school beauty female student. In the end, the lovers will finally get married. Such a drama is enviable to others.
It’s a pity that this love is passionate and short-lived. The seemingly happy marriage is just the beginning of Yuan Yongxi’s tragic half of his life.
Life after marriage, hidden crisis
In fact, the failure of this relationship had already revealed its clues as early as the beginning of their acquaintance.
Yuan Yongxi and Ye Gongchao, one is indifferent and calm; the other is prone to excitement, and the couple is ignited and the other is cold and hot. Some people say that couples have opposite personalities, but complement each other and are more suitable for being together. Perhaps Yuan Yongxi thought so at first.
For Ye Gongchao, although Yuan Yongxi has a bland personality, he is the best choice for a good wife. In addition to his outstanding appearance and temperament, Yuan Yongxi also has a gentle temperament that Ye Gongchao likes very much.
Yuan Yongxi, who is well-educated and rational, can always listen quietly while Ye Gongchao expresses his bold words passionately.
Once, Ye Gongchao's student visited him at home. When the two were talking, Yuan Yongxi sat aside and read quietly after serving a cup of tea, occasionally looking at Ye Gongchao and smiling.
Seeing this peaceful scene, Ye Gongchao's students couldn't help but sigh: "The teacher and his wife are really born together."
As the saying goes, "Marry a wife and marry a virtuous person." Yuan Yongxi, who is well-educated, knowledgeable, has a high appearance and is aware of the general, perfectly meets this requirement.
Because of Yuan Yongxi's calm personality, she is probably the only one who can tolerate Ye Gongchao's violent temper.
According to Ye Gongchao's friend, Chinese studies master Wu Mi recorded in his book "Wu Mi's Diary": Once he went to Ye's house for dinner, Yuan Yongxi cooked a table of dishes for everyone. Unexpectedly, during the meal, Ye Gongchao suddenly became angry for no reason and scolded Yuan Yongxi for being unhealthy in public for not having any regard for his wife's face.
If it were someone else, they would either respond directly or leave with their sleeves, but Yuan Yongxi was not anxious or annoyed. After her husband went crazy to the point of stopping, she said slowly: "As a housewife, I have the responsibility to not cook well, but it is not appropriate for you to lose your temper in front of the guests."
Yuan Yongxi gently and gently used only a few words, which made Ye Gong feel ashamed and apologized.
After this incident, Wu Mi admired Yuan Yongxi very much and couldn't help but praise: "Shen Pei Xi is an outstanding and extraordinary woman."
As the school beauty of Yanjing University, a talented student in the physics department, Yuan Yongxi, who is both virtuous and talented, did not want gold, silver and jewelry as a bride. In their wedding room, there was almost nothing else except for books given by friends and daily reading.
After marriage, Yuan Yongxi put away his coldness and became a housewife who washed his hands and made soup, taking care of the trivial matters at home.
If your wife is like this, what else can your husband ask for! But whether a married life is really happy is like drinking water, and you will know the warmth and coldness.
In the decades of marriage between Yuan Yongxi and Ye Gongchao, Yuan Yongxi gave birth to children for her husband. The love in love was also broken into pieces in the midst of the ordinary life.
However, at that time, Yuan Yongxi still felt that this was just something that every couple would experience, and endurance would pass.
But she forgot that Ye Gongchao, who was unwilling to be lonely, could he truly be at peace with her until she was old.
was betrayed and ran away for half a lifetime
As a teacher, Ye Gongchao was undoubtedly successful. Yang Zhenning , Qian Zhongshu , Ji Xianlin and others are all his students; but as husbands, he feels guilty of Yuan Yongxi's efforts.
Yuan Yongxi and Ye Gongchao, who have lived together for many years in the stuttering, have also reached a turning point with the outbreak of the Anti-Japanese War.
After the outbreak of the Anti-Japanese War, Yuan Yongxi and his children went to the United States, while Ye Gongchao stayed in the country, and then resigned from public office and entered politics.
Yuan Yongxi's reaction to her husband's decision was as calm as ever, saying: "If you have decided, I'm still grateful if you just let me know."
Although he was separated from the two countries, Yuan Yongxi was still working hard for this marriage. During the time when Ye Gongchao was stationed in Hong Kong, Yuan Yongxi would often give up his children and fly to Hong Kong to accompany her husband.
(Ye Gongchao in diplomatic occasions)
Even if Yuan Yongxi is so busy with both sides, how can ordinary feelings satisfy Ye Gongchao's restless heart?
Ye Gongchao, who was wandering among the flowers, said confidently that he would "be by the flowers, but the leaves would not touch the body", and was just playing with other women. However, when he looked at his romantic and elegant husband, Yuan Yongxi's inner feelings could be imagined.
But Yuan Yongxi, who came from a family of officials, was instilled with the idea of taking the overall situation into consideration since childhood, so even though she had complaints in her heart, her upbringing told her that she still had to take care of her husband's face.
After Ye Gongchao entered his career and became a diplomat of , whenever there was an event that needed to attend with his wife, Yuan Yongxi came to Ye Gongchao without saying a word and played the role of a qualified diplomat of wife.
Until the news that Ye Gongchao cheated on his cousin was revealed, Yuan Yongxi was finally discouraged, and the passionate love in the past finally became unrecognizable in the hurt of more than ten years.
In 1940, Ye Gongchao's uncle Ye Gongchuo was arrested and imprisoned. Ye Gongchao was instructed by his uncle to be responsible for transferring national treasure cultural relics Mao Gongding . During this period, he was tragically framed and not only was he dismissed from public office, but unfortunately he was sentenced to prison.
And throughout the process, Ye Gongchao's cousin Ye Chongfan always followed him and helped him without leaving any steps.
(national treasure cultural relic "Mao Gong Ding")
Over time, Ye Gongchao, who has become a father, actually developed feelings for his cousin. Although the relationship between the two was not made public, there was no airtight wall in the world, and the story of the two still reached Yuan Yongxi's ears.
So, Yuan Yongxi immediately flew back to China from the United States to question. Of course, Ye Gongchao would not admit it. After all, it is contrary to ethical to fall in love with brothers and sisters. As a celebrity, Ye Gongchao, how could he damage his reputation?
(Ye Gongchao Uncle: Ye Gongchao)
It’s a pity that the lies will eventually be exposed, and Yuan Yongxi still knew the truth: the so-called "cousin" Ye Chongfan is just the adopted daughter of Ye Gongchao Uncle Ye Gongchao and has no blood relationship with Ye Gongchao.
If Yuan Yongxi used to turn a blind eye to many scandals about her husband, she finally broke out in the face of her husband's betrayal and lies.
With a complete disappointment with her husband, Yuan Yongxi decisively said goodbye in 1945 and took his children to the United States, but has never entered the country since then.
This time I left for forty years.
(Ye Gongchao in his later years)
Everyone thought that Yuan Yongxi, who left Ye Gongchao and had a pair of children, would inevitably live a miserable life abroad.
But the facts are just the opposite. Yuan Yongxi, who has been knowledgeable since childhood and is a talented student in the physics department of a prestigious university, found a job in UC after settling down his children.
If you have to say that she has something "poor", it is probably that after leaving Ye Gongchao, maybe she was hurt too much or was bound by ethics and thoughts, Yuan Yongxi never entered the marriage again and was always alone.
When Yuan Yongxi died of illness at the age of 92, his last words were "not to be buried with her husband", which shows how deeply the harm her marriage with Ye Gongchao brought to her.
On the other hand, without Yuan Yongxi's restraint, Ye Gongchao let himself go, but in the end when he was dying, no one of his former fans was with him, leaving him alone on the hospital bed, muttering: "My wife and daughter, come back to see me."
Even when Ye Gongchao passed away in 1981, there was only Yuan Yongxi, the "ex-wife", who sent the elegiac couplet as a vain.
In comparison, Ye Gongchao's life is a tragedy, and Yuan Yongxi, who knows how to stop losses in time, spent the rest of his life safely.
Conclusion
Entering marriage by relying on love, but was betrayed and ran away for half a lifetime. The "teacher-student love" envied by everyone in the past, breaking up and reuniting for fifty years, and finally the ending of "life is different, death is different".
Yuan Yongxi, who has a cold and naive personality all his life, can decisively choose to give up and leave when facing a hopeless marriage and no longer consume himself. Even today, such a woman can be regarded as a role model among women.
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Author: Qiao Wuyue
Editor: EYELINER
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