Maybe it’s because I’m waiting for a desired result, or maybe I want to see the bad guy’s final fate, or maybe it’s because I’m concerned about the reality of the girls. In short, until now, I haven’t figured out how to talk to my daughter about this. thing.

More than 20 days have passed since the incident of beating people at barbecue restaurant in Tangshan, and the 15-day thunderstorm has also ended. During this period, officials gave two notifications. The first time it was said that all the attackers had been caught, the second time it was said that the injured girls were slightly injured and slightly injured .

Maybe it’s because I’m waiting for the result I expect, or maybe I want to see the bad guy’s final fate, or maybe it’s because I’m concerned about the reality of the girls. In short, until now, I haven’t figured out how to talk to my daughter. this matter.

can't talk directly, mainly because I don't know how to teach my daughter to protect herself, and I don't know whether to teach her to tolerate or fight back when faced with this kind of thing. This hesitation is actually the wavering in my own heart.

Calm down, face your heart sincerely and ask: What would I do if I was the one being provoked?

From the bottom of my heart, if it were 20 years ago, that is, when I was in my 20s, I would have fought back without hesitation. It was a kind of toughness that would not consider any factors and regardless of the consequences. If I can't beat you, even if I cut off my own head, I will spray snow all over you. This is what the ancients said, "I will splash snow on my neck" without fear.

Now, 20 years later, after going through the ups and downs of life, I am thinking about my parents, children and a little humble comfort behind me. I have seen too much unfairness that the world throws at us ordinary people. Faced with the brutality of the attackers in the video and the helpless misery of the girls, I feel like the fist is hitting my head.

Regardless of whether it is mature or rotten, at this moment, let me tell you something from the bottom of my heart: I am scared, timid, shrinking, and timid.

But this fear has not received any external support or comfort so far. For example, the real situation of several girls, the fate of the bad guys, whether it rained after the thunderstorm...

So, I don’t know how to talk to my daughter about this! But the anger and rebellious impulse in my bones have not diminished.

Unexpectedly, my daughter took the initiative to ask me what I thought about barbecue last night. No matter what my true thoughts are, my hope that my child will always be safe and happy is firm.

So I bit the bullet and said something like "I'm not tough because I can't put myself in a dangerous situation." But the words he spoke didn't seem to be his own voice.

My daughter blushed and said that I was a "coward" and "this is not like her mother". He looked like he wanted to argue with me to the end.

I asked her guiltily: "They are so strong and so cruel, so what do you think should be done appropriately?"

"You must fight back, but you must minimize the damage." The daughter said firmly.

"They are so vicious, how can they reduce the damage?" I asked in surprise.

"You have to avoid their sharp edges and go around to their rear to see the opportunity to fight back. This is called a roundabout counterattack. At least when they are about to withdraw, you no longer take out your mobile phone to record in front of them, but you have to hide for a while before asking for help." .

Hearing what my daughter said, I couldn’t help but think of what was sung in the song "Fearless": "Life takes a roundabout way to teach us to be fearless."

Yes! Deflection is not cowardice, but rather a fearless advancement. It may not ensure that the girls escape unscathed, but at least there will be no more invisible beatings deep in the alley.

Actually, I am a person who doesn’t know how to turn around. When I encounter things in life, I always look for answers from both ends. Today, I actually let my children take the opportunity to educate them, but I am very happy to think about it.

Because parenting can also be "roundabout", it can also be a two-way communication where parents and children learn from each other.

Two-way education requires us to let go of our old habit of giving children a lesson in everything, lower our posture, let go of our stubbornness, and listen to the children's voices with an open mind.

At the same time, you can also learn some new things from them, such as how to use WeChat, how to play Douyin , what colors and songs are popular this year, and you can even learn from them the principles of life and doing things!

And where did their skills come from? There is no doubt that it was nourished by the hard work of the parents. Provide them with education, buy them mobile phones, let them see the world, and they can learn a lot of skills.

And they in turn teach their parents their skills, which is simply a "return on investment" in education investment.

How wonderful it is for parents and children to learn from each other, grow together, and improve together! This is the "roundabout" two-way education.

Just as the song goes:

"We have also cuddled

and endured

lost

and still faced the distance.

Girls in the distance, are you okay? My children are with me, are you with your parents?

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