Compared with ordinary people, the love experience of American painter Deirdre Fagan is a bit unusual:
Deirdre has a husband Dave who has been with him for seven years. The two are very loving, and the current husband Dave was actually chosen by her ex-husband himself before her death.
Ex-husband Bob personally chose his successor Dave before his death, and asked him to continue his love for Deirdre for himself...
Deirdre and Dave
The love story between three people starts many years ago.
In early 2000, Deirdre met Bob while taking a degree at the University of Albany . The two of them were similar in their minds and fell in love soon.
Although love is sweet, Deirdre does not intend to go further.
It turns out that before meeting Bob, Deirdre had had two failed marriages and she did not plan to get married again.
Deirdre and Bob
But Bob's patience and tolerance touched Deirdre. For the first time in her life, she felt healed and once again ignited the idea of entering marriage.
Facts have proved that Deirdre did not choose the wrong person this time. Bob is not only an ideal lover, but also a perfect husband.
After the two got married, they were very co-starred in many aspects and rarely had disputes.
After ten years of marriage, the two have given birth to two children one after another. Just as Deirdre was immersed in family happiness, a bad news came like a bolt from the blue.
In 2011, Bob went to the hospital for examination and was diagnosed with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS), which is commonly known as " ALS ".
People with this disease will gradually atrophy in the body, and finally develop respiratory failure until death. In the eyes of many people, this is an incurable disease that is more painful than cancer.
Doctor even made it clear that Bob's life is only one year left.
Hearing this news, Deirdre was completely collapsed. She felt that fate was particularly cruel to her:
Both parents have passed away, and the two brothers have died young, and now it is her husband's turn again. There were several times when Deirdre thought of suicide, but he couldn't let go of his two children.
Just recently diagnosed, Bob's symptoms were not obvious, but Deirdre's depressed look was seen by him.
Once one time, Bob suddenly turned his head and said to Deirdre:
"Do you know?...I want you to love again and find someone who loves you."
Bob then explained that he hopes that Deirdre will find another person he loves while he is still alive. This person not only loves her, but also loves her children, so that he can leave with confidence.
Bob's words were not finished, and Deirdre's tears had already fallen:
"I can't do it..."
But Bob said to her seriously:
"You can do it."
None of the two could convince each other, but Bob's illness worsened faster than expected. A month later, Bob's arms began to tremble and his legs muscles began to become weak.
Deirdre teaches in school during the day, and when she returns home at night, she still has to take care of Bob's daily life. The pressure has increased sharply and she begins to drown her sorrows by drinking.
Seeing all this, Bob once again persuaded Deirdre with a weak voice:
"Look for someone who loves you, you deserve to continue to have a beautiful love, and you also need someone to help you raise your children..."
This time, Deirdre finally stopped being stubborn. She half-jokingly said:
l0 "Who can I go to? Where can I find such a small town?"Bob was not discouraged, but instead seriously helped her analyze the way to find a lover:
Find a friend to introduce her, an online dating platform, inquire about friends whom I haven't met for a long time...
Under Bob's supervision, Deirdre really tried to go on a blind date. The first partner was introduced by her best friend. Unexpectedly, the other party refused on the spot after her situation.
Deirdre was a little angry when he returned home. Instead, Bob comforted him like his old father:
Don't be anxious, be patient, you will always meet the right one...
The magical scene made Deirdre at a loss for a moment, and Bob was extremely calm:
"Nothing strange, if I weren't sick, all this would never happen."
New lover's matter has not been settled for a long time, and Bob's condition is still deteriorating. After a few weeks, Bob began to be unable to hold the plate and it is becoming more and more difficult to walk.
After another discussion, the two decided not to mess around for the rest of the days and live every day happily.
So, Deirdre decided to invite a group of friends to visit his house every now and then, as a way to accompany Bob and say goodbye to him.
Unexpectedly, this unintentional move actually fulfilled Bob's wish. Among the guests invited by Deirdre, there was a colleague named Dave. Dave and his wife knew each other, but they didn't have a deep relationship in the past.
This time, the three of them had a good conversation, and Bob was very satisfied with Dave himself.
Dave left, Bob smiled and told Deirdre:
More people would like to visit Dave in the future, he should be the right person...
Deirdre also clearly felt that Dave had a good impression of her, so he honestly explained his situation and feelings to Dave.
From then on, with Bob's acquiesce, Dave officially came to Deirdre's house and started this restrained date under her husband's nose.
Dave often visits Deirdre's house. In his opinion, he is just a friend of the couple.
Deirdre and Bob's two children are not surprised by Dave's staying at home, and they have always been very happy with Dave.
Bob was very satisfied with all this. Although his condition continued to worsen, his mood seemed to be getting happier day by day.
Dave comes almost every day, mainly to help Deirdre take care of Bob. Ten months have passed since the diagnosis. At this time, Bob has already been in a wheelchair and eating has begun to become difficult.
Every night, Dave has to help carry Bob into the bedroom.
That's it, Deirdre, her husband, lover, and children live under the same roof, and several people are tacitly aware of it and get along in an extremely harmonious way.
In September 2012, Bob even had some difficulty speaking. After Dave visited and left, Bob struggled to say to Deirdre:
"You two can talk..."
Deirdre asked:
"What are you talking about?"
Bob suddenly sighed and quoted Nietzsche's famous quote:
"We all know that marriage is a long and beautiful conversation..."
This passage is considered to be Bob's complete recognition of Dave as his successor...
In October 2012, when Bob died at home. Before his death, Deirdre, Dave and two children surrounded him. Bob looked at the happy family in front of him and passed away peacefully.
After Bob's death, Deirdre and Dave began to formally date. It was during this period that Dave knew clearly for the first time:
He was allowed to date Deirdre after passing the "interview" of Deirdre's ex-husband Bob...
Bob's selfless husband created two beautiful marriages. Today, Deirdre and Dave have been married for seven years. The two still love each other as deeply as before.
Recently, Deirdre wrote this unusual love in a memoir to commemorate Bob.
She said that Bob will always retain the most important position in her heart:
"Bob first, Dave second."
There are many ways of love in the world, like Deirdre's ex-husband Bob, because she was not long ago, it is also a kind of true love to choose a qualified husband for her wife.
