In 2018, an American girl, Catherine, told her mother that she was dating a Chinese man. This man is 9 years older than Catherine. He is a rural child from Laha Town, Heilongjiang Province, and works in sales in Beijing. I don’t speak English, and I have no plans to immigrate to the United States in the future.
The picture shows Catherine and her boyfriend "Mr. Xiao Wang"
Catherine's mother almost collapsed, why do American university undergraduates get together with uncles from the Northeast? No matter how you look at it, neither of them is a good match. Although Catherine's mother is more open-minded and doesn't want to interfere in her child's life, thinking that her daughter will stay in a foreign country in the future, her mother really doesn't want to agree.
Why did this girl from the United States fall in love with the uncle from the Northeast? What happened between them?
The picture shows Catherine and her boyfriend "Mr. Xiao Wang"
learning Chinese and going to a strange country
Catherine is from Virginia, USA, and studied as an undergraduate at Virginia Tech.. In addition to the name "Katherine", she also has a famous Chinese name "cation" . This is also related to the environmental engineering major she studied. Cation is the term she is most familiar with.
cation likes Chinese culture very much. After attending university, he met a group of international students from China and they formed a study group together. Cation's Chinese proficiency has improved by leaps and bounds, and he has become more curious about China.
The picture shows Cation’s Chinese volunteer teaching
This is also Cation’s first time getting to know Chinese people, and he is deeply inspired by their diligence and hard work. This was different from the people she had met before. When she was a freshman, she met a group of Indians. She originally wanted to learn Hindi, so she made these Indian friends.
But from these people, cation learned how to be lazy and escape. They spent their time at various parties and having fun, and gradually they became infected with negative study habits, and their final exam scores plummeted.
Fortunately, I got the results report, and I woke up in time. I knew that I could not continue like this, refused to interact with Indian students, and crammed in professional course knowledge. Only then did I catch up on all the knowledge I had missed. The incident taught Cation a lesson.
The picture shows a group photo of the supporting teachers.
Since meeting this group of Chinese friends, Chongliang has learned about different Chinese cultures from them. In order to facilitate communication, Cangliang also downloaded WeChat. From his classmates, Cangliang learned about China’s profound culture for the first time.
Let's play Werewolf together, eat hot pot, and watch the love battle... These are all deeply attractive to me. Even getting along day and night, Cangliang also developed a liking for each other with an international student from Dongying, Shandong, and the two soon started dating.
The picture shows Cangliang and her boyfriend "Mr. Xiao Wang"
The summer vacation is coming, and her boyfriend is going back to China. Cangliang wants to be with her boyfriend. I signed up for a cooperation program between Chinese and American universities, and got on a plane back to China with my boyfriend. Cation's Chinese skills are very good, far beyond those of his American classmates.
So after arriving in China, she became the leader of the American team, responsible for arranging meals, equipment purchase and other logistical work. There is no acclimatization at all, and Cation is as comfortable as a fish in water at home.
The picture shows a group photo of the teaching team.
During the three months of living in China, Cation was truly integrated into Chinese social life. When the day the project ended and it was time to leave, Cation was particularly reluctant to leave. China's profound culture and vast territory satisfied her sense of freshness.
"Everything I want is in China", This is Cation's heartfelt thought, and he has unknowingly included China in his life plan. After returning to the United States, cation even began to dislike life in the United States. He always felt that something was missing, so cation actively looked for opportunities to go to China.
The picture shows cation and Wang Weibo
During the school year holidays, cation would always board a plane to China to teach in schools in remote areas such as Yunnan. In addition, cation also participated in a Chinese speech contest. He was originally going for a free trip to China as a reward, but he didn't expect that he performed so well and won a silver medal. also received a full scholarship for a master's degree in Nanjing University .
cation at the beach
cation immediately decided that he must go to China to study for graduate school. But because my boyfriend, an international student, plans to study for graduate school in the United States, he may stay in the United States for development. The future development plans of the two people are inconsistent. If they continue this relationship, they will face the test of foreign love in the future. Therefore, the two people broke up peacefully after talking calmly. After
broke up, cationic suddenly became free. It was more than a month before she went to China to study for graduate school, and Cangliang was feeling bored. At this time, her WeChat showed a message that a man had added a friend, and the other party sent a "hi".
Thinking that he was bored, he chatted with this strange man. The man's name is Wang Weibo, and he is 9 years older than Cation. is currently a member of the Beipiao family who rents a house in Beijing and works as a salesperson. He is usually busy with work and has no time to fall in love, so he will make more friends online.
cation I didn’t expect that the two of them could get together in the future. Originally, they really just wanted to make friends, but the age gap between the two was too big, so it was impossible for them to date each other. Wang Weibo has a good impression of cations and knows that he is too old, which is a disadvantage.
But I still don’t want to give up. I send voice messages to chat with Cation every day and talk about what interesting things happened today. Wang Weibo's voice on the voice side was very gentle, which made Yang Liang have a good impression of him.
So cation wanted to see what he looked like. Wang Weibo declined a few words at first, but obediently sent his selfie. cation's first reaction was that this man looked too old , and she made no secret of her thoughts. Wang Weibo didn't take it to heart, and his attitude towards Cangli was as gentle and considerate as ever.
He knew that he was an ordinary man who had no money, no house or car. It is difficult to find a partner in the Chinese marriage market. So he doesn't care about other people's disapproval. As long as the cation is not repelled and is willing to contact him, he will work hard.
is different from Wang Weibo. Cation owns his own house and car in the United States. He also graduated from the United States with a bachelor's degree. His height and appearance are also very good, and he is very popular in the American dating market. The two people seemed to be worlds apart, and no one thought that the two could come together.
cation feels that one should not discriminate against others based on appearance, and also wants to help Wang Weibo adjust his own image. So she asked Wang Weibo to take a selfie of herself every day. Although Wang Weibo didn't like taking pictures, he still insisted on sending photos to Cations every day.
cation After looking at it for a long time, although I feel that this appearance still looks old-fashioned, it is still acceptable. Under the guidance of cation, Wang Weibo shaved off all his hair and turned into a bald head . There was also an adjustment in his dressing and grooming, and Cangliang was very happy to see his change.
In the process of getting along with each other, Cangliang found many bright spots in Wang Weibo. Although this man was not good-looking, he had a better personality than many men. He was gentle, affectionate, and caring. These were the shining points that made Cangliang's heart beat.
When studying for graduate school in a foreign country, even a strong and independent person will inevitably encounter cultural shock and dietary discomfort. During this time, Wang Weibo was comforting her and actively helping her solve problems.
During one internship, a familiar professor invited Cation to have dinner. In order to express his gratitude to the professor, Cation resolutely went to the appointment.But the professor's agreed time was late at night, and Wang Weibo reminded her out of concern that this time was not appropriate.
But the impression of Cation on Chinese people is still very good, so I went directly without thinking too much. But unexpectedly, after the meeting, the professor warmly invited Cation to his home. Although Cation felt something was wrong, he followed it anyway.
Unexpectedly, the professor persuaded Cangliang to give him the backpack and asked him to go find a "gift" at home. At this time, Cangliang already felt that something was wrong, so he insisted on getting his backpack back, which contained important documents such as his passport, student ID card, and driver's license.
Later, the professor became more and more arrogant. His words and actions were all frivolous. I didn't know what to do? At this time, Wang Weibo sent a message of greetings and asked Cang ion to speak louder, which made Professor Qin Beast restrain himself and Cang ion was able to escape safely.
Afterwards, Wang Weibo has always emphasized not to trust everyone unconditionally. Whether they are foreigners or Chinese, as long as they are human beings, there will be bad people with no morals. Therefore, when getting along with others, you must always be vigilant in your heart. Although
encountered danger, it also changed the cation's view of Wang Weibo greatly. Although this man looks unremarkable, he possesses a precious shining point of a man, and that is his sense of responsibility. Cation was also attracted by these precious qualities and finally chose to be with Wang Weibo.
Although two people have no money, they both feel very happy and have gained a lot of happiness that is more precious than money. Wang Weibo will take good care of Cation's food, clothing, housing and transportation, take her on trips, and introduce her to traditional Chinese culture .
cation often says that if you want to understand the culture of a nation, it is not enough to come to the country in person, because everyone still treats you as a tourist. If you become a part of it, everyone will treat you as one of their own. Therefore, Wang Weibo is also the best person for cation to understand Chinese culture.
In the process of getting along with each other, Cation fell more and more in love with Wang Weibo, a humble and gentle man who was willing to shave his head for her. But most of the time the two spend together is a long-distance relationship, and they can only rely on their mobile phones to express their love. cation is studying in Nanjing and Wang Weibo is working in Beijing. Both of them have their own busy careers.
But fortunately, both of them work hard and continue to fight for each other's future. As the relationship between the two becomes more and more stable, Wang Weibo is getting older, and it is time to consider marriage. So Cangliang told his parents that he had another Chinese boyfriend.
My parents strongly opposed it. What should I do?
But I didn't expect that my mother, who has always been optimistic, cheerful and considerate, would be the first to object. She was worried that if her daughter married this Chinese man, she would never return to the United States. And did the daughter make this choice out of her own free will, or was she coaxed by others?
Cation cannot communicate with her mother, because her mother is different from traditional Western mothers. She has been very strict with her since she was a child and has always restrained Cation and asked her to study hard. But this time she didn't want to obey her mother's opinion and stubbornly wanted to be with Wang Weibo, which put her under a lot of psychological pressure.
Wang Weibo has seen all this. Every time when Cang Yi makes a video with his mother, Wang Weibo will always take the initiative to ask for a video with his mother-in-law. Although the two of them chat and need Cang Yi to translate by the side, this also makes his mother-in-law Knowing my daughter’s boyfriend better reduced my worries and worries.
cation and his father
also wanted to come and see their daughter in order to be able to visit their son-in-law on the spot. In April 2019, when Cang Liong’s mother boarded the plane to Beijing, Wang Weibo was already prepared. Mother and daughter don't have to worry at all. Cation's mother's trip to China has been arranged very well.
After graduating from cationic university
, cationic's mother visited famous scenic spots in Nanjing, visited Wuzhen at night, and climbed Mount Tai, which made cationic's mother realize a different China and finally understood why her daughter never wanted to return to the United States. Although there was no way to achieve barrier-free communication with each other, Wang Weibo's enthusiasm and generosity still impressed Cang Liong's mother.
knew that he was indeed very good to his daughter, so he could not say anything against it and began to accept this Chinese son-in-law. has even developed to the point where mother-in-law and son-in-law have a very good relationship, and the cation is even jealous about it. These are all things for later.
After happily sending away Cang Li's mother, Wang Weibo took Cang Li back to his hometown, the countryside of Hala Town, Heilongjiang. Wang Weibo's mother was very happy when she brought her girlfriend back for the first time, as if she was about to see her son start a family and start a business.
My mother never had any problem with Cation because he was a foreigner. Instead, she particularly liked this enthusiastic, generous and forthright girl. Invited her relatives to entertain her, and everyone warmly invited her to join the big family. cation feels right at home, like coming back to your own home.
Wang Weibo's mother
What's even more rare is that Wang Weibo's mother is a traditional Chinese woman, but she has never interfered with the lives of her son and daughter-in-law, and only silently provided help to the young couple.
Even when Wang Weibo and Cang Li were planning to settle in Chengdu, he asked his eldest son to lend the house to his younger brother, and he lived with the young couple to help with cleaning and cooking. I feel very lucky to have such a mother-in-law.
Wang Weibo and his mother
But the good times did not last long. Wang Weibo's mother was found to be seriously ill and was about to die soon. In order to make the old man happy and be able to see his youngest son get married and start a business before his death, So Cangliang and Wang Weibo moved forward the time to get their certificates and officially became a couple.
cation did not ask for any betrothal gift. For her, the best gift is the love between husband and wife. She does not want Wang Weibo to buy a house in advance. It is better for the two of them to discuss the purchase of the house. After the couple got married, their relationship became better than before.
Later, Wang Weibo's mother was hospitalized, and the two of them took turns going to the hospital to take care of the old man. They didn't mind the filth of the old man at all, and wiped and bathed the old man. But unfortunately, Wang Weibo's mother still couldn't survive, and the old man passed away in early 2022.
After getting married, her career was booming.
In order to prevent her husband from falling in love with the situation, So Cation moved out of Chengdu and began a life of traveling. Since graduating with a master's degree, Cation has had more time, and she started her career as a self-media blogger. She likes all new things, and the most novel thing for her is the vast rural towns in China.
Each village has different characteristics, perhaps ancient murals or beautiful scenery, which are difficult to discover without going deep. As an environmental enthusiast, Cation especially likes riding bicycles, so she often rides bicycles with her husband to explore different places. Taking pictures of the scenery on the road one by one, the number of fans suddenly increased to more than 500,000.
In order to help cation develop his career, Wang Weibo gave up his career in Beijing. Accompanying Cangliang began to travel throughout China and shoot short videos with her. A good marriage is about fulfilling each other and sacrificing for each other.
Today, cationic's career is booming and her husband is by her side. Therefore, regardless of nationality, as long as they love each other sincerely, two people can still be long-term and happy.
