Recently, the third season of "Sisters Riding the Wind and Waves" has officially started!
Wang Xinling With the perfect interpretation of the song " Love You ", it directly awakened the souls of millions of middle-aged men and women fans: "You vote, I vote, Xinling is 80 and still sings and dances." After
After "Love You" directly topped the QQ music soared, and Wang Xinling ranked 9 of the top ten.
is a complete list of slaughtering.
Faced with this sudden #becoming again#, Wang Xinling quickly responded: It is a good thing to remind everyone of beautiful memories, and he will continue to create more new memories with everyone in the future.
Yukichi felt a little moved when he saw her on the stage.
This Wang Xinling, who seems to be the same as before, seems to have changed some more.
Because of divorce from his parents, Wang Xinling and his younger brother lived with their mother. The family was in a very difficult situation. Once, the family only had NT$100 in , which was only enough to buy a bento and the family of three shared it.
Once, she saw the Children's Disco Competition on TV and told her mother that she would definitely win the first place if she wanted to participate in the competition.
Mother agreed, and she fulfilled her promise and really took it home for the first time.
This also triggered her singing dream in her little heart, and later successfully admitted to Huagang Art School.
At Huagang Art School, her classmates gave her a nickname: Milk, because she looks fair and has a soft and weak face.
But Wang Xinling never feels weak, nor does he feel that he is "little bird dependent on others".
Indeed, after she came out of school, in order to realize her star dream and to make money quickly to support her entire family, she kept making guest appearances in various TV series and MVs, and also worked as an graphic model part-time. She divided the day into three days. When she was most tired and hard, she only slept for 2 or 3 hours a day.
She is very hardworking and hardworking.
In 2002, Wang Xinling went to a loud music interview and sang a song Tao Jingying "Leave Me". This time, the glass shoes seemed to be placed in front of Cinderella.
loudly music and Ai returned to the company, and at the same time noticed her and wanted to sign a contract with her.
You should know that Ai Hui Records was the largest local record company in Japan in the late 1990s. It has made superstars such as Namie Amuro and Ayumi , Ayumi Hamasaki .
Wang Xinling was very excited, but at the same time, she had to face a test: if she agreed to sign the contract, she had to go to Japan to train alone for three months.
has no experience in going abroad, does not understand Japanese at all, and goes alone.
Wang Xinling was both yearning and afraid, but she decided to go because this was the closest step to realize her dream.
For three months, she was alone, often lost, and the high-density training was boring. She called her mother crying and said that she wanted to go back and continue her studies.
But the mother flatly rejected her.
Three months later, Wang Xinling passed the exam and returned to Taiwan. In 2003, he made his official debut with " Cinderella's Tears ".
It's a pity that the sales volume is not ideal. Aihui Company once thought that his vision of choosing a person was wrong, and planned to "If the second album is not sold well, Wang Xinling should go back and forth."
But what he didn't expect was that the second album "Love You" unexpectedly became popular, and Wang Xinling became famous in one fell swoop. For a time, young people on the streets and alleys were imitating Wang Xinling.
2004 Jolin Tsai on Hunan Satellite TV a variety show. When he heard Wang Han calling him a "boy killer", he quickly interrupted: "It's not me anymore."”
Because at this time, Wang Xinling's "Love You" won the championship around G-music for the rest of the time.
In the same year, Wang Xinling's TV series " The Wedding Dress of Heaven " won the annual ratings championship. She played Ai Qing in it, with a pure and sweet appearance, simple and kind heart, as gentle as a lamb, and her image of sweet heart stood up like this.
And this idol drama has completely pushed Taiwanese idol drama to a new level.
From then on, the cute and charming Wang Xinling was named "Sweetheart Leader".
and this "sweetheart" also became the first to appear in the mainland from Taiwan to the mainland, to South Korea and Japan.
She also became the first to appear in "ELLE" "The Chinese actress in girl" was only 23 years old at that time.
became famous too quickly. Cinderella became a princess, but Wang Xinling never thought of stopping: "Staying on the spot is equivalent to regressing, and there will always be new people to replace you. "
So, three albums were released a year and the recording of a TV series was filmed.
is the continuous work intensity. Wang Xinling once lost 39 kilograms and suffered more and more illnesses. But even so, she still insisted on completing the filming of " Smile Pasta", risking the risk of sudden death of only two hours a day.
, but she can't stop because she knows that success is hard-won, especially successful people in the entertainment industry.
But she can't Thinking of the incident, it happened so quickly.
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2010, Wang Xinling's ex-boyfriend Fan Zhiwei suddenly posted intimate photos of the two on the Internet, attracting a lot of attention.
Have tasted the sweetness of traffic, Fan Zhiwei kept telling the media about his old past with Wang Xinling.
And Fan Zhiwei later said: "I originally thought she was 17 years old, and the first time she gave it to me, but it was not. Actually, I was a little disappointed at that time. Before we dated, she had a boyfriend who was a classmate from my Huagang Art School. "
also said that he had abused Wang Xinling during his relationship and was proud to say the address, once at the airport and once at Zhongxiao East Road.
For a moment, everyone was uproared.
This Fan Zhiwei was the first one that Wang Xinling publicly admitted. The two broke up for 6 years. Finally, because Fan Zhiwei cheated many times during the relationship, Wang Xinling could no longer forgive him and broke up.
One wave was not settled, and one wave started again. Ou Dingxing , who played the male best friend of Shancai in " Meteor Garden ", jumped out I came to finish the fight and said that I was Wang Xinling's first love, but I had never touched her, so it was the first time when she was with Fan Zhiwei.
At that time, there were already many remarks about Wang Xinling's private life. In addition, the public descriptions of these two scumbags caused Wang Xinling's career, body and mind, to suffer heavy damage, and forced her to suspend all work.
even though Fan Zhiwei was forced to apologize from public opinion, his words were still full of confidence: "Instead of being said that I am consuming Wang Xinling, it will be better than my career in the future. I will post my old photos and her again. At that time, she would be even more powerless to do such a thing. "
is really scumbag, and people and gods are angry.
After this, everyone thought that Wang Xinling could "know people with eyes", but she still didn't.
In 2011, the relationship between Wang Xinling and Yao Yuanhao and was exposed, but in fact, before the relationship began, Yao Yuanhao told Wang Xinling that he was single, and turned around and immediately He reunited with his ex-girlfriend Sui Tang who had been in love for 8 years.
just came out of the scandal vortex, but was pulled into another "third party" vortex.
Then, Wang Xinling stated at a press conference: "I have also been hurt by a third party, so I will not become a third party and hurt others. ”
But what about the male protagonist in this matter? Yao Yuanhao never said a word for Wang Xinling from beginning to end.
But when Yao Yuanhao and Sui Tang officially broke up, Wang Xinling seamlessly connected and completely overturned all denials, which also confirmed the rumor that Wang Xinling was a mistress.
is carrying a stigma. Wang Xinling has been in love with Yao Yuanhao for more than 4 years. His career has plummeted and the price of concert tickets has plummeted. But even if he has already sacrificed his career as a price, it cannot stop the final direction of this relationship - breakup.
But in the 5 months after the breakup, a more explosive news completely shattered Wang Xinling's career.
"Private photos of Wang Xinling underwear are exposed!"
Later, Yao Yuanhao admitted that the photos were taken by himself, but they were definitely not leaked by himself. Since this incident has happened, he will face it with Wang Xinling.
sounds nice, but the actual action is 0.
Wang Xinling, who has experienced the "chu female sect" and "little three sects", finally returned to the small dome three years later. On the stage, she said bluntly: "Three years ago, I lost almost everything because of a love affair... I was really tired at that time, don't do it again."
But after experiencing such various things, it is really difficult to return to the peak in my career. In addition, the sequelae of suffering from cellular tissue inflammation in the past have gradually emerged, and public opinion questioning her failure in plastic surgery is rampant.
has really hard time.
Retracing Wang Xinling's history of being scammed, you will find that she actually has many opportunities to stop the loss in time, but she did not choose to seize the opportunity.
For example, when she discovered Fan Zhiwei's first affair, she broke up decisively, but she didn't, so she chose to forgive her.
During the affair with Yao Yuanhao, when she found out that she was "being mistressed", she should have escaped decisively, but she did not, so she chose "love is bigger than the sky".
She seems to have been unable to understand clearly, or rather, she does not have sharp edges to treat the dark side of her relationship.
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remember a netizen commented: "Most actresses choose gold in the vault, but Wang Xinling has been searching for the so-called love in the garbage dump."
Indeed, Wang Xinling, who looks sweet and has a smooth career, is actually not difficult to find a real wealthy young man.
But why did she meet all scumbags?
main problem, as she said herself: "I can tolerate many things, so much that I feel very backbone..."
and all of this seems to be related to her original family.
Wang Xinling's father divorced her mother when she was in elementary school, left her and her brother and left.
Growing up in the shadow of a family that lacks love makes Wang Xinling extremely lack of fatherly love.
In order to support two children, each of them has to do several odd jobs, which has led to almost no free time to communicate and talk with Wang Xinling.
Later, due to heavy economic pressure, my mother suffered from depression .
When the emotions were not controlled, the eldest queen Xinling became a punching bag, sometimes beating and scolding, and sometimes "cold violence" towards Wang Xinling.
And all these bad things forced Wang Xinling to press the life acceleration key to force himself to grow.
At the age of five, she is as strong as a mother and takes care of her younger brother's life.
But she looks very strong, but she is so lacking in love and helpless in her heart.
Later, the favor of the God of Luck made her famous and famous.
But this also means that whenever she climbs up, her native family will pull her down.
In 2009, Wang Xinling's father, who had never fulfilled his responsibilities, suddenly appeared and sold "magic water" publicly in the name of "Wang Xinling".
He said that this "magical water" can cure all diseases and will allow Wang Xinling to endorse it.
This magical wave of operations made Wang Xinling deeply trapped in the "fraud gate" and was criticized.
Faced with her father's use, Wang Xinling still asked her agent to send her blessings to her father: "I wish him all the best."
Wang Xinling's infinite tolerance failed to make her father lose his way, but instead had to commit fraud in the name of Wang Xinling and let Wang Xinling cure him for the aftermath.
Hairinger once said: In every family system, family members have their own position. The order is not a static thing, it is a principle of life. When a family has enough love, everything will be in its own position.
However, in Wang Xinling's family, the absence of parents and the urgent need for care of her younger brother, she took on responsibilities that she should not bear at this age when she was a child.
The overbroken identity and excessive responsibility have led to disorder in the family system and also gave Wang Xinling an unhappy childhood.
The University of Michigan conducted a 50-year survey and found that 69% of girls believed that their self-confidence came more from their father's praise and encouragement; 40% of girls showed that their ability to date the opposite sex was related to their father.
Women like Wang Xinling who lack fatherly love since childhood will start to beg for love desperately after leaving the family, and when they get a little bit of love from a man, they will devote themselves to it.
It’s a pity that she lacks love, does not know how to love others, nor how to be loved. When facing feelings, she does not know how to grasp the emotional boundaries and only knows how to make excessive efforts.
Faced with the lies of love, she could only choose to believe it again and again, and forgiving and enduring the harm caused by men again and again.
Wang Xinling's forbearance and forgiveness in an intimate relationship is exactly like her state in her original family - A child who is immature but forced to grow up longs for being loved, but cannot love her, and finally she is injured and has no skin.
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In reality, some of us have experiences similar to Wang Xinling. We grew up in an out of orderly family and were repeatedly hurt in romantic relationships, but we always avoided them.
But the result of this is often persistent pain.
Only when we complete the trauma healing of our original family can life gradually move towards a downstream state.
If you have a hint of empathy at the moment, you might as well try the following points:
1. Review the scars of the past.
If the trauma suffered in childhood is not completely cleaned up, these injuries will become inflamed and lesions, leaving many sequelae for the future.
So, we can first return to the "traumatic state" we experienced in the old days, examine and feel the "bad state" that emerges from the body with an objective, adult perspective, and then try to be our own "inner parents" and heal our old self through the existence of "inner parents".
2. Respect yourself and rebuild your sense of security.
Accept an imperfect childhood and accept the truest self. You must understand that an unfortunate childhood cannot deprive us of our own self, nor can it destroy our sense of security.
Because the sense of security is given to ourselves by the present self. When we re-establish a sense of security, we will no longer desire to have a perfect pair of parents to shelter us from the wind and rain, and we will no longer desire to have a perfect partner in marriage to replace them and satisfy our desires.
3. Repayment responsibility.
Understand the relationship between family order, don’t regard yourself as the savior of the original family, and return the responsibilities and patterns that belong to your parents to them.
filial piety is right, but filial piety also needs to have boundaries. Only when the child stands back to the correct order can the family order proceed normally and the love of the family flow.
4. Learn to write an emotional diary correctly.
If we don’t have the courage to face the past, we might as well try to write an emotional diary, think carefully about what happens in life that will touch your emotions, record these things, and find the emotional trigger point. It is very helpful for your own growth and psychological rehabilitation.
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Time back to the present, watching Wang Xinling standing on the stage of "Riding the Wind and Waves".
Her smile is still sweet, her eyes are filled with too many stories, but it does not affect her purity.
She rode through the wind and broke through the waves. Now she has no halo, but she is coming for the light in her heart.
overcome all obstacles and never forget your original intention.
Wang Xinling, welcome to return to the stage and continue to ride the wind and waves!
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