Career and love are two parts of life. Every woman hopes that she can have a successful career and a beautiful love. German female prime minister Angela Dorothya Merkel , is such an enviable woman. She is a world-renowned head of state, a female prime minister and a female politician in Germany, and she can be said to have enjoyed glory in her career.
Merkel , which has achieved great success in career, also has a sweet love for you. She got married twice in total, and her first marriage failed and ended with a divorce. The second marriage was very happy, and I was in harmony with my husband.
As Merkel, who has brilliant career achievements and strong women, is always a small role for a little bird to rely on others in marriage. As Nigeria President Goodluck Jonathan once said:
Nigerian women should take the German Chancellor as an example and prepare breakfast for their husbands every morning. "
It seems that Merkel, an "iron lady" who is in power in politics, still does not forget to be a good wife in marriage. In Merkel's view, her husband is also a teacher and a friend, never interferes with what she does, and gives her the strongest strength when she needs help and comfort. This kind of love, also reminds people of the famous poet modern poetry Shu Ting " to Oak " depicted by:
"You have your copper branches and iron trunks, I have my red flowers,
We share the cold wave, wind and thunder, and thunder; we share mist, flowing mist, rain, and rainbow .
seems to be separated forever, but you will depend on each other for life. "
Now, let's see how Merkel went through the ups and downs of marriage, got out of the shadow of a failed marriage, and gained a love of his own.
Merkel and her current husband
Merkel's original name was Angela Dorothya Casner. He was born in Hamburg, Germany in 1954. He is the eldest of the family, and he also has a younger brother and sister.
Merkel's father Horst Casner is an influential Protestant pastor. His mother, Hellind Casner, is the daughter of a wealthy family and has a good education. After graduating from university, he worked as a teacher in school, specializing in teaching English and Latin .
You can see that Merkel lived in an intellectual family when he was a child, and received good family education since he was a child. Merkel's self-discipline and perseverance character also comes from the influence of his family.
When Merkel was born, Germany was divided into East Germany and West Germany . Merkel's father was only a few months old. In order to realize the ideal of establishing Christianity under the socialist system , his father resolutely decided to move his whole family to East Germany with his family. This action seemed to be a waste at the time Tang. Because in the socialist East Germany at that time, pastor was a despised profession. Not only did he have a low social status, but his salary was also relatively low, and even the families of clergy were implicated.
Therefore, the cruel reality of East German society made the ideal pastor father hit a wall everywhere when looking for a job. The mother, a teacher, could not find an ideal job. In the end, Merkel's father could only come to a small village to be a pastor and receive a meager salary. In order to make a living, Merkel's parents began to live on their own. As Merkel recalled:
"Life is very difficult. My father learns to squeeze goat milk, and my mother learns to make nettles from the elderly..."
Fortunately, Merkel's parents still did not give up their hope for life in the face of difficult life. This positive and optimistic attitude also deeply infected Merkel.
Like Merkel's mother grew up with her children and wanted to continue to engage in education. However, due to the identity of the pastor's family and the West Germans, she just didn't find a school that she was willing to hire, which greatly hit her mother. Fortunately, her mother was an optimistic person. If she couldn't find a job, she took care of the family wholeheartedly and lived a housewife's life.
Merkel's mother is an educator and naturally focuses on the issue of educating her children. In addition to paying attention to the child’s academic performance, her mother also talks with her children about her life at school every day.
If the mother knew that Merkel was a pastor, she was discriminated against in school. So, her mother taught Merkel to face up to discrimination and how to face it. If your academic performance is good enough, you can use your strength to make people who discriminate against you have nothing to say. At the same time, be a low-key, tolerant and self-disciplined person, strictly restrain yourself, control your own emotions, be cautious in your words and actions, hold strong and optimistic emotions, etc.
Parental education has a great impact on the formation of Merkel's personality. She also learned from her parents that she is a person with faith, ideals, strong and independent heart. This concept also deeply influenced her view of love.
In 1973, Merkel graduated from high school and studied physics at University of Leipzig . College life is a wonderful memory for Merkel, and no one here discriminates and isolates her because she is the pastor’s daughter. She got along very easily and happily with her classmates, and she also experienced the freedom she had never had before. At the same time, Merkel also often participates in various public welfare activities and church activities. In his fulfilling and interesting college life, Merkel completed his studies very well and completed his master's degree in just five years.
When he was in his sophomore year, Merkel met his first husband in marriage, Ulrich Merkel. Ulrich is one year older than Merkel and is the son of the factory director. He is both a student of the physics department. At that time, Merkel used the bar counter of the college club to make cocktails to earn his living expenses.
Ulrich noticed Merkel. In Ulrich's view, although Merkel is taciturn, she has a unique charm and often goes to the bars where Merkel is to support her. At the same time, he took the opportunity to confess his love to Merkel.
That's it, the two met and participated in many social activities, such as the Department of Physics Intelligence Competition, Study Tour, and Exchange Program. Merkel was also deeply moved by Ulrich's handsomeness and love sincerity. felt that the two were very happy to be together. Therefore, when Ulrich proposed to Merkel, Merkel agreed without hesitation.
Two years later, the two began to live together. In 1977, the two naturally registered their marriage and held a grand wedding in Merkel's hometown of Tamblin. At the same time, Merkel also changed her last name from "Casner" to her first husband's last name "Merkel".
After Merkel and her first husband
, after Merkel and her husband graduated from school, after a period of hard work, Merkel eventually became a scientific researcher at the Institute of Physics, and Ulrich also worked in the Institute of Optics.
Scientific research work is boring and boring, and it is also very dull. Ulrich is introverted, but he likes the quiet and boring life of scientific research. He just likes to do academic research and stays at home all day and has no concern for anything else. Merkel, on the contrary, was a club activist in college, who liked to gather with friends and socialize. However, in the research institute, Merkel is a newcomer. Not only does he have no familiar friends, he does not like the dull life of scientific research. So, the generation gap between the two people was created like this.
Merkel's boredom mood is difficult for Ulrich to understand. It is difficult for the two to have a common language in their lives, and the gap will further expand. After , Merkel turned his attention to social activities in order to relieve his dull mood. For example, I participated in the German Youth League of the Institute of Physics and served as a cultural committee member in the group, and then gathered and traveled with the group members, hoping to develop personal connections through social interactions and broaden my horizons. Merkel has also been exposed to the political field, which is different from the new field of physics academia, which also laid the foundation for her future participation in politics.
In this way, this couple, one likes to stay at home all day and the other likes to go out, will inevitably have personality differences. The two spend less and less time together, more and more frictions, and they will have a crisis in their marriage. Eventually, in the fourth year of marriage, the two began to separate and officially announced their divorce the following year.
At that time, Merkel knew very well his inner needs. She longs for a marriage that can be shared together. In her marriage with Ulrich, she feels that her husband cannot understand her inner needs, and the two have no common language, so she divorces it.
The author also appreciates Merkel's personality behavior. Life is short, and a painful and forced marriage is not happy. It is better to leave and find your own happiness.
That's it. In 1981, four years after Merkel got married, one day she suddenly packed up her own things and moved out. "I left gently, just as I came gently", in the way Bai Yun left gently, without making a peaceful divorce.
Merkel and his second husband, Dr. Shaoer,
After divorced, Merkel still used his first husband's surname as his surname. Perhaps it is also a cherishment of this relationship! Although divorced, it is indeed nostalgic to leave in the light and white clouds!
In fact, Merkel met a partner who belonged to the soul a year before her divorce. That is, she was admitted to the PhD of the Institute of Physics in 1978, and met her doctoral supervisor, the famous quantum chemist Ashim Sauer .
Dr. Ahim Schall is now teaching at Humboldt University in Germany and is a quantum chemist. He was born in 1949 and is five years older than Merkel. In 1922, Professor Shao Er worked in the Academy of Sciences in East Germany. As Merkel's doctoral supervisor, not only gave her academic guidance, but also helped and guided her in life. That is, under the guidance of his mentor Shao Er, Merkel strengthened his determination and courage to engage in politics.
Moreover, Dr. Shaoer is five years older than Merkel and has a rich life experience. When Merkel is helpless on his political journey, Shaw will give Merkel a lot of support and inspiration for his work, which will also allow Merkel to perfectly solve the problems he encounters. So, in Merkel's opinion, his mentor Dr. Shaoer can give her the most comfort and strong strength when he needs help and comfort.
Just like that, the two have common interests and hobbies, and they just fell in love. Based on the relationship between them for several years, the two began to live together and their relationship tended to be stable. Merkel also likes a life of non-interference, tolerance and understanding with her husband Shaoer. This cohabitation lifestyle lasted for twelve years.
When 1989, Berlin Wall collapsed, East Germany and West Germany were unified, Merkel began to enter politics, and Shaoer continued to engage in scientific research. Due to Merkel's special political status, many media questioned why she lived with Shao Er for many years and had not been married yet.
So, after discussing, the two went to the local department to register their marriage and became legal couples. Merkel and Shaoer's marriage certificate is also to block media reporters and continue to hype. The two did not hold a grand wedding. After receiving the marriage certificate, Merkel returned home to see her mother. simply told her mother: "I'm married", as simple as going home to say hello. It is so simple, that is, to pay attention to the essence of marriage life and emotional dependence, and not care about the magnificent appearance.
After marriage, Merkel, like the character she formed in her childhood, was very independent and responsible, not dependent on her husband, and had an independent personality. In Merkel's view, she has her own career as a politician, and her husband Shaoer also has her own academic research work.Therefore, Merkel never asked her husband Shaoer to attend various political events and banquets, and would never borrow her husband's reputation in the academic world to attract votes for herself, because all this will affect her husband Shaoer's academic research work and life.
Merkel's husband Shao Er, as a scientific researcher, is also very low-key. He doesn't like to show up in public and doesn't like to be as halo as the German Chancellor's husband. Therefore, Shao Er has never appeared in various social workplaces as the prime minister's husband, and has almost never participated in any political activities that Merkel attended. Even at the inauguration ceremony of Merkel's first election as German Chancellor in 2005, her husband Shao Er did not attend, and just watched the live broadcast of his wife Merkel's appointment in the laboratory. Shao Er has also repeatedly told the media that his life has nothing to do with his wife Merkel's work in politics, and he is unwilling to be a public figure.
Although Shao Er and Merkel are independent of each other in their careers, they are also emotionally snuggling with each other. As long as Shao Er is at home, Merkel will cook himself, make breakfast for her husband, and make her own specialty dishes, fulfilling her responsibilities as a virtuous wife. Every weekend, Merkel would lose his job and live a happy world with her husband. The two have a tacit understanding of each other, and the tourist locations are usually chosen to go to the wilderness or in the mountains.
In the summer evening, the two go out for a walk together and run together in winter. Media reporters also found that Merkel and Shaw like to go to Bavarian to enjoy classical music, especially opera. Although Shao Er is very serious and carved like an old scholar, he communicates softly with Merkel, is an emotional fit.
It seems that the couple's relationship between Merkel and Shaw is the real version of "To Oak". Both husband and wife have their own independent careers, they are not dependent on each other, do not interfere with each other, but they help each other emotionally and have a little understanding of each other, and are enviable couples of immortals.
Merkel also publicly stated that he is willing to return to family life after his term ends in 2021. It seems that Merkel, who stepped down as German Chancellor, is also willing to return home and be a happy little woman who loves her husband.
We also learned from Merkel's marriage journey that a truly happy marriage should be like an oak tree, not dependent on each other, independent of each other and have a common emotional foundation, equal to each other, and share the difficulties of life together. Only such love can withstand the baptism of time and the test of time.
