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Recently, Xia Keli returned to Taiwan to file a custody lawsuit, and the divorce curse of " Where Are We Going, Dad " was verified again. Last time, it was reported that Cao Ge and his wife were separated...
Because Cao Geshake had appeared in a popular variety show, Cao Geshake's image as a good father was very good, but the mothers behind him were "invisible".
There must be many reasons why a family goes from harmony and friendship to fragmentation.
Today I will take a look at it from the perspective of my wife.
(The case of Tianwang Sister-in-law Wu Suling is relatively typical, let’s analyze her first)
Wu Suling was once the stylist of the golden song king Cao Ge, and became a housewife after marriage. But, do you think she is a "canary in captivity"? Not really.
Wu Suling often appears on "Women, I'm the Biggest" to gain recognition. I have to say that this is indeed a track suitable for her to perform.
wore a backless dress on the show, looking like a queen reigning over the world.
(It’s still the way you dress up when attending a friend’s wedding...)
This is nothing. You can eat a bowl of noodles and wear a dress to go out in the street. Can you believe it? When
sneaked into a celebrity's home to shoot, she discovered that Wu Suling was wearing a velvet coat and doing housework and wiping the kitchen.
Whether in public or private situations, always staying elegant is her way to be a lady.
But please also note that Wu Suling’s dignity is not earned by her husband, but by herself.
After Cao Ge got married, he opened his own company. His wife Wu Suling is the president, ruling on all trivial matters except music. Due to the poor environment in the recording industry and subjective reasons such as Cao Ge's alcoholism that undermined his popularity, the king of singers lost his former glory. But Wu Suling's side business is going against the wind. The instant noodle brands and restaurants that
invested in made a lot of money.
was praised for her beauty and career. Wu Suling gave her husband face: "I don't make much, but I don't feel pressure to spend the money I earn. I am happier if I save the money my husband earns."
Wu Suling, who is armed to the teeth with exquisiteness, has the gene of a socialite engraved in her bones. Having been a model and having good taste, Wu Suling is willing to present to everyone: the ultimate dignity.
But what everyone doesn’t know is that underneath the beautiful clothes, there are hidden scars that accumulate over time.
The former king Cao Ge was in constant trouble. Alcoholism and drunken rages are common occurrences. Wu Suling took photos with bruises and was even suspected of domestic violence.
Once out for a meal, the drunk Cao Ge had a quarrel with a guest in the box next door, and they cursed each other for nearly two minutes. After losing control of his emotions, he accidentally injured the restaurant proprietress and her child.
This is not over yet. Cao Ge, who did not let go of his anger, shouted to Lan Xinmei , asking her not to take his wife out to meet men.
Wu Suling didn't even have time to get angry. She went to her senior's house to apologize solemnly, and then picked up her children without stopping after dinner.
Last month, Cao Ge publicly said to his wife, "I am in Taipei. Where is she?" and then laid out the household chores naked on the table.
's various actions seem to have a meaning: Wu Suling has someone outside.
A skinny camel is bigger than a horse. Don't underestimate the influence of the former king. Fans can drown Wu Suling with every word and spittle.
This time Wu Suling rarely responded:
"Just because I don't speak out does not mean that I acquiesce in all this. Over the years, I have endured more than my load, and I choose to tolerate and ignore many things. For me, it is my wound, and I don't want it to be exposed in the sun and be examined."
The problems exposed by Cao Ge are not incapable of improvement.
Alcoholism can be stopped. Emotional problems can be treated scientifically. But these can only be achieved with active and sustained cooperation.
Cao Ge previously admitted that he has bipolar disorder and cannot control his emotions, but his illness is not an excuse for misbehaving. In her response, Wu Suling still saved face and said restrainedly that she could not face her "husband with a complex personality" and she really couldn't hold it anymore...
can make a decent socialite give up her elegance in public. I think it must be because she was completely injured.
On the other side, Xia Keli’s wife Huang Jiaqian has a huge gap between the front and back.
Xia Keli, who returned to Taiwan, changed his elegant image in "Where Are We Going, Dad" and angrily accused his wife of obstructing her from seeing her daughter. He revealed that the woman insisted on divorce because she wanted to make money in the summer...
Is this the truth?
Mainland audiences don’t know Huang Jiaqian even better than Xia Keli, but this is evident from past experiences and public interviews.
Huang Jiaqian comes from a wealthy family. His father is the owner of the largest toy factory in Thailand. He has been favored since he was born.
is also very good at making money and is very good at investing. We have real estate in Vancouver and Kuala Lumpur , as well as a large piece of land in Yilan, Taiwan.
Of course, these are all side jobs brought about by money-making genes. Huang Jiaqian's main business is in the entertainment industry. He was discovered by Zhao Chuan and also works as a host and actor.
Although she plays small roles, her artistic achievements are recognized: Huang Jiaqian has been nominated for three gold (Golden Horse, Golden Melody, and Golden Bell) Awards, and is also the winner of the Golden Bell Award for Supporting Actress in a Drama Program.
is a strong woman in her career and a strong mother in her family.
starred in the TV series " Emmanuelle What to " After marrying Xia Keli, the husband returned to Canada from time to time to reunite with his family, and the couple inevitably had to live in two places.
Four years after getting married, 36-year-old Huang Jiaqian gave birth to her daughter by caesarean section.
On the one hand, he chose caesarean section because of the doctor's recommendation, and on the other hand, he wanted his daughter to have the same birthday as Xia Keli's mother...
Because of the bloody scene, Xia Keli almost fainted from fright. But looking at his newborn daughter with dark skin, he couldn't help but wonder if he had been cheated on while in a foreign country. I felt relieved when my child grew older and turned white.
The signs of scum appeared during the childbirth stage, but it was not until Xia Keli was rumored to be cheating that Huang Jiaqian was dumbfounded.
The husband denied cheating and said that he went to the hotel to "discuss business." Huang Jiaqian also spoke for him, and the couple reconciled. Two months later, the cute baby made her debut in "Kangxi is Coming " in the summer, providing an opportunity for the father and daughter to participate in "Where Are We Going, Dad?"
In 2017, when faced with her husband’s scandal, Huang Jiaqian was still able to forcefully regain her respect by “accepting his shortcomings and loving him.”
However, two years later, I don’t know what happened to her. When she talked about marriage again, the light in her eyes was gone.
When the marriage between the two turned red, Xia Keli wanted Huang Jiaqian to have a second child to save it, but Huang Jiaqian refused because he was too old.
Now think about it, when did having children become a solution to marital problems?
Whether a woman is happy or not is written on her face. When she is happy, she is relaxed and at ease. When she is unhappy, she will break down emotionally and doubt herself. When it hurts the most, she will tear off the fig leaf of respectability with her own hands and show the wound naked to everyone.
I don’t doubt that Cao Ge, Wu Suling, Xia Keli, and Huang Jiaqian got married because of love, but under the long-term wear and tear of trivial matters, love will also be worn away one day.
How easy it is to destroy a woman's elegance, confidence, and self-esteem.
When she was a child, she accidentally lost her job and said to her, "Who made you so stupid?" When she went to school and encountered school violence, she was accused: "Why don't you bully others but just you?"
When she entered the workplace and was sexually harassed, she was scolded that "she must be wearing clothes that are too revealing to seduce others."When she was in a relationship and was cheated on by a scumbag or cold-blooded and sad, he would ask her, "Is it too much?"
When she got into a marriage and felt unhappy, he would advise her to "just have a baby." When she encounters a domestically violent or alcoholic partner, she is told to be patient and comfort her.
If girls live in an environment of being denied and suppressed for a long time, they will become cowardly and afraid to pursue ideals, love and happiness. They give up on themselves, always hesitate at the moment of important choices in life, and miss opportunities to make comebacks again and again.
Girls, come on, don’t lose your happy smile because others force yourself. When necessary, choosing to leave is also a way to save yourself. Remember, you must take control of your own life, and you must shine brightly even in a corner where the sun cannot shine.
