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Have been dating for more than a year. Although he is a kind, simple and upright person, his life and work circles are narrow, and he has never seen any world, and he has no time to read or reflect. He said that he changed his mind and thought more broadly with me, but I felt trapped.
I don’t want my life to move forward slowly (or retreat at all, I don’t know anything about it). Although it seems very stable, I feel that the air is gradually thinning. I also want to get more inspiration and have a richer life. He is very traditional and conservative, and he just follows the steps in life, obeys everything, has no courage to fight for and change, and has no whimsical imagination. Many of your remarks and opinions are too rebellious and shocking to him.
No matter how I think about it, I don’t know how to break up, so that I can turn around gently...
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You are a bird, he is a tree, a different kind of person who should not be together. Maybe someone will ask: "Can you not be together if you are different kinds?" Of course! But the era of "ignoring one's own existence in order to be together" is over. You are a person who is consciously higher than him, so you can only ask for breaking up.
If he is a submissive person, just say your thoughts generously and considerately. The statement is as follows:
I am going to break up with you. I am afraid that many views on future life will be too shocking to you, such as I have my own dream; maybe I don’t care about loyalty, but it doesn’t mean I will mess around. I don't want this to become a reason why you dislike me or I dislike you in the future. You are a kind, simple and upright person, and you should be paired with someone who is closer to your ideas.
I don't want you to suspect that I have the courage to break up because I fall in love with others, as that will disappoint me even more.
or you also found that we have such a difference.
is our blessing to be honest with each other.
If he gets angry or makes things difficult for you, it will prove that you should leave.
The biggest failure of our "love education" is that we don't love without learning, and we have to bet to the end if we make mistakes. The era of
is different. People who are afraid of breaking up are blind people who "do not know how to be together". I don’t love
I’ve been dating for more than a year. Although he is a kind, simple and upright person, his life and work circles are narrow, and I have never seen any world, and I don’t have much time to read or reflect. He said that he changed his mind and thought more broadly with me, but I felt trapped.
I don’t want my life to move forward slowly (or retreat at all, I don’t know anything about it). Although it seems very stable, I feel that the air is gradually thinning. I also want to get more inspiration and have a richer life. He is very traditional and conservative, and he just follows the steps in life, obeys everything, has no courage to fight for and change, and has no whimsical imagination. Many of your remarks and opinions are too rebellious and shocking to him.
No matter how I think about it, I don’t know how to break up, so that I can turn around gently...
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Back to
You are a bird, he is a tree, a different kind of person who should not be together. Maybe someone will ask: "Can you not be together if you are different kinds?" Of course! But the era of "ignoring one's own existence in order to be together" is over. You are a person who is consciously higher than him, so you can only ask for breaking up.
If he is a submissive person, just say your thoughts generously and considerately. The statement is as follows:
I am going to break up with you. I am afraid that many views on future life will be too shocking to you, such as I have my own dream; maybe I don’t care about loyalty, but it doesn’t mean I will mess around. I don't want this to become a reason why you dislike me or I dislike you in the future. You are a kind, simple and upright person, and you should be paired with someone who is closer to your ideas.
I don't want you to suspect that I have the courage to break up because I fall in love with others, as that will disappoint me even more.
or you also found that we have such a difference.
is our blessing to be honest with each other.
If he gets angry or makes things difficult for you, it will prove that you should leave.
The biggest failure of our "love education" is that we don't love without learning, and we have to bet to the end if we make mistakes. The era of
is different. People who are afraid of breaking up are blind people who "do not know how to be together".
[Book Title: Book of Thanks]
[Author Profile: Xu Changde ]
If there is no introduction, maybe there are many possibilities for your and my encounter. The more you know, the more you know, especially those who are together because of love. Unlimited understanding is not necessary. Only by occasionally empathy can you go deep into the heart.
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