Source: WeChat official account: Table's view of life (ID: zzdshg)
When is the most difficult time for people to be old?
Some people say: The most difficult thing is that you can’t take care of yourself, you can’t even die, you can’t live but you can’t survive, and you can’t even drag your children down.
This is indeed a problem that the elderly will face.
But this is not the most miserable.
Because the most miserable old age I have ever seen are those old people who have no children, hopeless life, and the only savings left are all squeezed out and are waiting for death in despair.
Some time ago, such a case occurred in Xi'an.
Grandma Dong, 92 years old this year, is an elderly widowed man from Beilin, Xi'an.
She has no children in her life and depends on her husband for life.
But a few years ago, my wife also passed away. In this house, she is the only one who lives alone.
She rarely goes out. In this cold room, except for looking at the window every day, she only has the TV to accompany her. She has lived like this for 7 years.
Until one day, the appearance of neighbor Xiao Yan broke this calm.
She is a passionate and active woman and understands the worldly ways.
Every time I come, I either bring some fruit or buy some soft pastries, which makes Grandma Dong very happy.
She is also very diligent. She not only talks with Grandma Dong to relieve her boredom, but also helps her clean the house. Even the aged oil and dirt in the kitchen is not dirty.
Grandma Dong was very touched.
I am used to living a lonely life. Such a warm person suddenly broke into life. It seems that black and white TV has become colorful in an instant.
She likes Xiao Yan very much.
After spending a few months together, she even regarded her as half of her daughter, and many intimate words were told to her.
Later, Xiao Yan told her that there are many elderly people in this community. They are old and taking care of themselves has become a problem, and most of them are living in nursing homes.
These words just came to Grandma Dong’s heart.
It’s not that she didn’t think about going to the nursing home, but she didn’t have enough money, so she had to give up.
Unexpectedly, as soon as this question was raised, Xiao Yan smiled and said: You can sell your current house.
Grandma Dong is in a little trouble. She is a lonely and widowed person and does not understand the market conditions in the world. What if she is deceived?
She told Xiao Yan about her depression. Xiao Yan did not say anything and agreed to help Grandma Dong sell the house.
Soon, Xiao Yan brought people to see the house, and in the end, the house was sold for 960,000 yuan.
Looking at the 960,000 yuan in the card, Grandma Dong was both excited and complicated.
Xiao Yan also came to share her joy with her as soon as possible, and found her a nursing home.
Grandma Dong was very moved when she looked at this neighbor who was more filial than her own daughter.
so much that after moving into the nursing home, Xiao Yan proposed to keep her bank card for her, and Grandma Dong could not resist her request and handed over the bank card to her.
After living in a nursing home for a while, she informed her old sister about this.
They all persuaded Grandma Dong to get the bank card back.
But Grandma Dong didn't care. She felt that Xiao Yan, who was concerned about her well-being, was not that kind of person.
However, after living in a nursing home for more than a year, the fee is renewed.
Grandma Dong called Xiao Yan, but found that no one answered her phone, and later the phone turned off directly.
She was shocked. Thinking that Xiao Yan hadn't come to visit her for a long time during this period, she immediately understood:
This little Yan swallowed her coffin!
Grandma Dong was so angry that she trembled all over, and her tears couldn't stop flowing.
That is all the wealth she got after selling the house! She was easily deceived by someone, and she was anxious and hated, not knowing what to do.
In the end, Grandma Dong sued Xiao Yan.
In court, she even shouted with a stern face: For so many years, what I bought for her, what food and clothing I gave her is not costing money? The money has long been gone!
Poor Grandma Dong is so angry that she can't speak.
Fortunately, the evidence is conclusive, Grandma Dong wins the case, and Xiao Yan has to repay the money for selling the house within the specified time.
However, everyone did not expect that Xiao Yan still did not pay back a penny until the specified date passed.
When the court enforced the enforcement, it found that there was no property in her name!
It turned out that she had been planning a few years ago, deliberately approaching Grandma Dong, gaining her trust, then defrauding her pension money, and finally moving to another place.
In the end, the court fined Xiao Yan 100,000 yuan in the name of " malicious transfer of property " and held criminally responsible.
After reading Grandma Dong’s experience, I sighed:
Knows people but not people.
Perhaps, when Ms. Yan, the "poisonous neighbor", asked her about her well-being, she never thought that all this was fake.
Perhaps, in every difficult day that Xiao Yan has spent with her, she really thought she had gained a true love.
But unexpectedly, all this is just a fantasy bubble, because her real purpose is the last retirement money for Grandma Dong to accompany her.
The poor Grandma Dong delivered her sincerity and gave her feelings, thinking that she could really enjoy the joy of family in her later years.
However, I didn’t expect that the final outcome would be that both people and money were lost.
Why can Ms. Yan fool Grandma Dong?
Because she accurately captured the heart of this 90-year-old widowed man.
Many elderly people have no relatives around them, but they yearn for the days when their children and grandchildren are around them and some people care about their well-being.
So, she played such a role.
More importantly, the elderly have no children, and no one will doubt her. Therefore, it will be more convenient for her to commit crimes and will not be afraid.
I finally understand why people are desperately trying to catch their children when they get old.
Because, no matter how brilliant or capable you were, when you grow old and weak, and when you have no children to rely on, your destiny can only be at the mercy of others.
people will become your greatest backer when they reach the age of old age. There are too many similar events in
.
blogger "The Moon in the Countryside" told such a story.
A 92-year-old man, with no children and no children, makes a living by picking up garbage. The government sees him pitiful and applies for a minimum living allowance for him.
But this money is coveted by my nephew.
My nephew didn't pay much attention to this uncle before, but for a while he often visited him and brought something worthless.
This action moved the old man's heart.
A few months later, the government sent a passbook to the elderly to receive minimum living allowance.
The nephew said: Uncle, let me get it for you.
The old man was not prepared and gave him the passbook.
Later, the nephew made excuses for various reasons, saying that the money had not arrived yet, and gave the passbook to the old man. When the old man went to collect it himself, he found that his nephew gave him a fake, real passbook book, the minimum living allowance of more than 20,000 yuan was completely lost by his nephew.
And this money is the last guarantee for the elderly’s life.
He lives in a messy and abandoned house, accompanied by garbage, and eats some rotten pumpkins and rotten potatoes picked up from outside every day.
His life, the last little hope, was penetrated.
Looking at the living environment of the elderly, seeing the oily kitchen and the unsatisfactory food, I was a little stunned:
people live with dignity until they are old, which has become a luxury.
If he has children, no one will come to attack his property, because everyone will default: this money belongs to his children.
If he has children, he will never let him believe other people's slander, because they will control and come up with ideas.
However, he has nothing.
The only way to catch my nephew, who is a little blood-related person, to get a little warmth.
It turns out that when a person gets old, the saddest thing is not the physical illness, but the emptiness of the mind.
The mentality of trying to catch a person’s warmth has led to many lonely elderly people becoming popular in the eyes of liars.
These scammers are neighbors with ulterior motives and relatives with ulterior motives. They only have one purpose: to drain the last penny of you.
Do you remember writing a story about a nursing home in Guangzhou before?
An elderly man without children spent 4 million to enter a well-known local nursing home, but died in less than two months. Why
?
Because the nurse knew that he had no descendants, he had a bad attitude towards him.
is hungry, so I feed a few bites of biscuits on the bedside;
is thirsty, so I can only wait for someone to pour water.
They know that no matter how bad the elderly are, no one will come to their troubles.
Human nature is bullying the weak and afraid of the strong. In the eyes of nursing homes, the elderly who have no children are just weak people without backers and weapons. They can bully them unscrupulously.
Finally, the old man died alone in despair. A story like
sounds sad.
Someone said: The elderly are so stupid, why do you have to go to a nursing home? Finding a relative's children and giving them money every month will make it better to take care of them.
However, this method is also challenging human nature.
When you are old and need someone to take care of your shit and urine, which relative is willing to get rid of your hands?
Someone else said: Why don’t you ask a professional person to help him take care of it? What is the monthly fee for nursing home delivery?
Whether you invite professional people or not, nursing homes have always contempt for children and daughters.
When you are bullied, wronged, lying in bed and unable to move, and even the nurse can't shout, how do you contact that "professional person"?
Many things in life were easily done when I was young, but when I was old, I found that I had lost all my strength.
Only then did you understand that the last way out of the helpless elderly is death.
says this not to encourage everyone to get married and have children.
instead wants to tell everyone that this is the naked reality.
has data showing that at present, the DINK family in my country has exceeded 600,000.
psychological counselor Li Qian once said: Most of the
DINK family will regret it after they reach the age of 40.
self-media person "Liang Yue" once said: DINK is a mistake in his life, and now both of them regret this choice. But because I have missed the opportunity, I can't go back even if I want to make up for it. Why is this happening to
?
Because people will change.
When you were young, you longed for freedom and hated the bondage of marriage and children.
But when you are old, you may prefer the kind of warmth of children and grandchildren around your knees and making fun of you.
When you were young, you thought it was good to have money, and there was no problem that money couldn’t solve.
But when you get old, you will find that some things cannot be solved by money, and even money will cause you more disasters.
Once upon a time, many people chose DINK.
I also sincerely wish all DINK families happiness and happiness.
But, I hope this is not your impulse.
When you choose this path, you have to bear the corresponding risks and bear the price behind it.
For ordinary people, getting married and having children and living the most ordinary life in the public sense may be the least "exciting" and "special" path.
, but it is the most realistic path and the most "secure" path.
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