According to statistics, as early as ten years ago, the number of siblings in our country had exceeded 16 million.
Same wife, that is, the gay wife.
They endure humiliation and compromise. Not only does their husband and wife not meet their lives, but they also silently bear the threat from domestic violence, venereal diseases and AIDS.
And according to data from sociologists, in our country, more than 80% of gay men choose to get married.
More than 90% of the wives have suffered domestic violence in their "marriage", including physical violence and cold violence.
However, due to the limitations of social public opinion and traditional concepts, most of the wives dare not speak out about their own experiences, and even suffered from psychological illnesses in their years of suppressing life.
They live silent, unbearable, isolated and helpless, and are even more vulnerable than comrades.
is a real marginal person in society.
We focus on homosexuality, true love, and the legalization of same-sex marriage, but we rarely pay attention to gay wives.
We have seen many movies that speak for homosexuality, but their issue of "same wife" is almost blank or has been mentioned in one sentence.
But in 2018, a Chinese film filled this gap, revealing to us the scars and helplessness of his wife -
" Who falls in love with his first"
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Not only did it win 8 nominations at the 55th Golden Horse Awards , but it also allowed the heroine Xie Yingxuan to win the Best Actress Award at this Golden Horse Awards in one fell swoop.
She deserves this honor.
is also the only Taiwanese film shortlisted for the Golden Horse Awards for Best Drama in 2018.
Qiu Ze , who plays the male lead, even turned around with it.
Even though Yu Zheng took advantage of the popularity on the day of the award ceremony and accused him of being ungrateful and playing a big name, it still couldn't stop the fans from recognizing his acting skills.
"Who Falls in Love with Him First" revolves around three characters.
One is Liu Sanlian played by Xie Yingxuan, who is the wife she mentioned at the beginning.
After her husband died, she found out that she had left the insurance money to an outsider, and this outsider was still a man.
Liu Sanlian, who was extremely unacceptable to this fact, started a tug-of-war against the "boy mistress" in the battle for insurance money.
The other is Ajie, the "male mistress" played by Qiu Ze.
He was Liu Sanlian's lover during her lifetime. He worked in a small theater and lived a daze.
The last one is Liu Sanlian and her gay husband's son Song Chengxi.
Song Chengxi and Liu Sanlian have a bad relationship with each other. Like all teenagers in the rebellious period, Song Chengxi and Liu Sanlian can quarrel over a hundred trivial matters every day.
And due to the failure of marriage, Liu Sanlian put all her hopes in life on Song Chengxi alone.
She hopes that her son will become successful and gives everything for her son, hoping that her son can act according to her expectations.
Otherwise she will fall into anxiety, disappointment, self-blame, helplessness and wrongdoing.
In short, this is a mother and son with a lot of "noise".
As for Song Chengxi, he had to fight against his "bio-depressed" mother while also enduring the pain of his father's death.
Moreover, in this "mistakes fight" tug-of-war, Song Chengxi found that he did not have the ability to distinguish "right and wrong".
He doesn’t know who to support, is he the “male mistress” that his father really loved?
or is it the mother who claimed that his father gave all his money to this family?
Maybe he just needs to think simply: Who fell in love with his father first?
Finally, all aspects of pressure sent Song Chengxi to the psychologist.
So at the beginning of the video, it was unfolded by the monologue of the young man Song Chengxi.
Although he was unable to tell "right or wrong", he had nowhere to escape and chose to leave home in the "noise" that his mother could never stop, and lived with his father's lover Ajie.
It must be mentioned here that Ajie played by Qiu Ze is really amazing.
A low-income group in an unpopular small theater reveals the ruffian, unruly and indulgent nature of social gangsters.
also hides some of the sensibility of a little artist and the "gay spirit" of homosexual identity.
Qiu Ze grasps every point.
Every action and look is a play.
especially the part of Ajie playing the guitar and recalling Song Zhengyuan (Song Chengxi's father), looking at his lover's attention, desire, but sad expression.
A sentence "But I don't know where I love you are wrong" has shattered the hearts of many people.
The character Ajie used "dummy" to show his "not caring" throughout the whole process.
After the person he loved most passed away, he did not cry or make a fuss, and still smiled every day, living in a kind of self-deception.
For example, at the beginning, Ajie took Xiaolongbao to the hospital, he inertially thought that Song Zhengyuan was still lying in the hospital.
But after seeing other people lying on the hospital bed, his "neuroticism" was suddenly awakened.
There are many similar "sadness" shots in the video, and there is one most impressive one. Ajie asked Song Chengxi with a smile:
You are so good at math, do you know how long it takes to last ten thousand years? Ten thousand years is: When a person tells you that he wants to be a normal person and then leaves you, every day after that will be ten thousand years.
To tell the truth, although I have heard a lot of bad jokes about "Ten Thousand Years", when this line appears, I was still shocked.
"Who Falls in Love with Him First" does not simply make moral criticism. It aims at three people who are most closely related to the "marriage fraudster", and truly reveals their helplessness and scars.
For example, Ajie, who is most awkward in the position, the director very restrainedly portrays his deep love and pain.
With Ajie's living environment and family relationships, it is very difficult to admit that he is homosexual.
So telling her mother about her homosexual identity became the handle for Liu Sanlian to threaten him later.
And Liu Sanlian and Song Chengxi are undoubtedly the most direct victims of this ridiculous relationship.
They are rightful in our opinion to fight for all benefits, but at the same time we feel some kind of pain and "little bad". The biggest "bad guy" who caused all this pain and "little bad": Song Zhengyuan.
can only appear as the "dead".
This is also his most suitable way of appearance. The director blurted out the "worst" and tried to show the difficult situation of multiple victims, including the "same wife", from a calm and objective perspective.
Some people say that "Who Falls in Love with Him First" has a bad view, and it is washing the "marriage fraudsters". The statement
is really strange. The video reveals all the pain and harm of "family fraud". Where does it come from?
And movies always only need to be expressed, who stipulates that it must be "positive"?
or the same thing, we must be vigilant about all the practice of judging a movie based on our three views.
If you want to discuss the "three views", then many classic films such as "The Unforgettable Dream of the Bridge", "The Patient of the British", "The Mood for Love" are all wrong and should not exist.
Imagine if "infidelity", "missie", and "family fraud" cannot be filmed, then "killing" and "arson" do not have to be filmed. So where do you have suspense and criminal films?
"Who Will Fall in Love with Him First" is extremely complete in terms of the plot and the overall picture tone.
Even if you put aside the idea and angle, it is a very good drama.
Seeing someone give a star for the movie because of his “unfair views”, it is really hard to understand. Themes like
appear in Chinese films, and we should cherish them. At present, we can only see such masterpieces in Wanwan.
If you want to say that since the years since homosexuality began to gain public recognition, which movie has seriously cared about the "same wife" group? One of the most influential ones is the movie "Who Falls in Love with Him First".
Moreover, based on the analysis of historical issues, it was found that the problem of homosexual marriage cannot be effectively solved because of the legalization of homosexual marriage.
For example, in the United States, , California , since the legalization of same-sex marriage, more than 63% of gay men have chosen to enter marriage, and this proportion has not decreased so far.
In other words, even if we care about "homosexuality", it does not mean that we pay attention to "good wives".
Even if "gay" is recognized by society, "gay wife" still has a long way to go to be rescued.
So the experience of the wife, even the suffering, requires our society to be more proactive in touching and understanding them.
