Recently, a tragedy of a mother beating her son to death in Huangqiao has flooded the screen.
htmlOn the evening of January 5, a mother in a community in Huangqiao beat her son to death because her child lost her phone.On the night when my son died, the mother was still in the community property group and calmly asked the neighbors if they had picked up a cardless mobile phone.
This was originally a peaceful and ordinary night,
But the next morning, a neighbor broke into a shocking disaster in the group.
The phone was lost, just like the sky fell
At present, the police have intervened in the investigation. It is said that the 9-year-old deceased was raised by his grandparents since childhood. He was at school and lived with his mother in Fuhuang Apartment in Huangqiao. On holidays these days, the child lost a mobile phone used to contact his mother while playing. The search was fruitless. Mingming sat in the snow and cried. It can be seen from the
video that when he was getting off the elevator and going out to play (about 2:50 pm), his phone was still in his hand. But when the surveillance probe caught Mingming's figure again (after 3 pm), Mingming was already looking for his phone in a hurry. His panic and crying attracted the attention of the community security guard Uncle Qian (approximately 4 o'clock). After learning the details, Uncle Qian helped Mingming find his phone together, but failed.
(Ming Ming, who lost his phone, was crying and searching everywhere)
Afterwards, Uncle Qian said that because he really couldn't find the phone, he comforted Ming Ming for a few words and left first. After a while, Uncle Qian was a little worried and walked over to see Mingming, and found Mingming sitting in the snow and crying. Although
could not find the phone, he went home in the end. Although I was afraid of my mother's accusations, this was clearly the only place to live. But this only place of accommodation made Mingming pass away that night.
Mother is usually "flammable and explosive"
Seeing a large number of reporters and police present, neighbors broke the news to the media: Mingming's mother Xiao Chen was polite to people, but she was very strict with Mingming. She beat her head twice a day, and she felt a kind of resentment in her bones.
The criminal suspect Xiao Chen was once out of control after being arrested. According to the suspect, Mingming's father never went home for many years and did not give a penny of living expenses. He was obviously very dependent on her and often said that he was afraid of being alone at home, so could his mother not go to work to accompany him. "How can I get an income without working? What should I do if I don't have an income?"
suspect Xiao Chen admitted that she tied up Mingming's hands, feet and body with tape that day. is from 6 pm to 11 pm late at night. played and took a break, and it was about 5 times. During this period, she fed Mingming a few sips of water.
Late at night, she carried Mingming to the child's room and Mingming said, Mom, I don't want to see you. She returned to her room in anger. Maybe she was tired, so she fell asleep.
At 5 o'clock in the morning, she came to Mingming's room again and found that Mingming's body had already been cold.
After the snow melted, the phone was found, but the child was gone
It was so sad.
Does mothers love children? The answer is yes. But when the pressure of life comes to me, will I also be unable to control my emotions?
The suspect Xiao Chen usually studies and lives alone with his children. His father is away all year round and basically does not take care of his children. The couple has a bad relationship. When encountering unsatisfactory and troubles in life, new and old grudges will surge in your heart, and in anger, they will vent their anger on the innocent children.
Maybe in a moment, I made a mistake and the child was gone.
When this mother calms down, she will definitely regret it. The New Year is about to be celebrated in one month. When other people's families sit together to have New Year's Eve dinner, their children will never come back. Only the person involved can understand the pain and regret of beating his son to death by his own hands. To a certain extent, this mother is actually a victim.
accidentally beat the child to death and pickle the corpse. "Child is my personal belonging"
Not long ago, on December 29, 2017, the verdict was announced in Ohio Chinese murder case of hiding a woman. Chen Mingming, a 30-year-old Chinese woman who beat her 5-year-old daughter to death and hid her body in her own restaurant refrigerator, was sentenced to 22 years in prison after pleading guilty.
According to previous reports, the police said that the Chinese mother beat her daughter on the head with her right fist multiple times as the main cause of death. At that time, the father saw green liquid flowing out of his daughter's mouth, so he hurriedly took her to the bathroom to wash her face. He found that there was no breath and immediately gave her cardiopulmonary resuscitation, but he still unfortunately died.
Then, the couple put the body of the five-year-old girl who was beaten to death into a kitchen container, then completely covered with salt and hid it above the restaurant refrigerator.
In court, the suspect Chen Mingming defended himself in every way, saying that he was busy and had to have a relationship with his husband and had to take care of his two daughters. The daughter she gave birth to was her freedom to beat and scold her.
No matter how you look at it, you think the subtext is: she is my daughter, I gave her life, she was disobedient, and I could take her life!
really makes people breathe. When a child is just a personal item in the hearts of his parents and can be called back and forth, he will almost completely take the child as his "opposite"
When parents and children are not on the same front
Why are more and more children now blocking themselves in their own world and unwilling to communicate with their parents? What exactly causes it? Why do some children, if they just lose a small cell phone, become so scared that they dare not go home, and choose to sit in the snow and cry in despair?
A class teacher once told two things about the children in her class:
Classmate A was extorted for a long time and had not had lunch for a whole month. The lunch money was "donated" but his parents didn't notice it.
Classmate B fell down on a bicycle, her skin was broken and bloody, but she didn't dare to let her parents know. She asked her classmate to bring herbs from home, but her feet became inflamed and swollen so that her pants couldn't be worn. The parents didn't know from beginning to end.
This class teacher learned about the things that the children in his class were tolerated behind their backs and felt sorry for these children at a young age to learn how to "broken teeth and swallow them into their stomachs". Facing the dark side of life, these underage children bear all this alone with their weak shoulders, and even if they are in pain, they are unwilling to mention a word to their parents.
Parents stand opposite to their children, becomes the "topic terminator"
"Mom, I want to go out with classmates in the afternoon."
"Which classmate? Is it good to study? Don't stay with people with poor grades. Also, how many points do you get this time? Why do you always want to play?"
"Mom, I'll tell you a super fun thing. When class is in class today..."
" Class is in class, you must abide by discipline. You are laughing like this all day, you I'm so anxious for you! "
"Mom, I'm very unhappy today, I..."
"What are you unhappy? I'm at your age and I have to do a lot of housework every day, and take care of my younger brothers and sisters! What do you do every day? I'm studying and studying, but I can't read well! I'm really in a blessing. "
"Mom, I want to buy..."
" All day long, I only know this and that one, but you're so bad at reading, how can you say it? "
Cats and dogs know that they need to be comfortable when they are furious, let alone children.
These topic endings parents may lose their children's trust. When the children have difficulties, they will no longer discuss with their parents first. The bridge between the children and their parents has collapsed!
"Take Terminator" parents have one thing in common, that is, they like to use the attitude of experienced people to examine the problems encountered by their children and provide opinions to their children with experience from completely different eras.
No children are born to want to be alienated from their parents, and no children will refuse their parents' help and love. Because in the world of children, parents are the heaven and earth, the most solid backing, and the source of all sense of security.
has become the most solid backing for children
Unconsciously, the child does not discuss with his parents first when he has something, but instead looks for classmates. This practice has become a habit among children. Why is this?
We can see from families with good parent-child relationships that parents and children trust each other, and when one party encounters difficulties, he can seek help among family members without hesitation. In families with poor parent-child relationships, we often get the opposite.
When a child experiences unconditional acceptance, tolerance and love, the negative emotions that have been accumulated in the body can be vented and communication will be effective. When the child feels this, he no longer stands on the opposite side of his parents, but stands on the same front as his parents. Changes like not only require the children to do it themselves, but also require the efforts of both parents. Don’t wait for the children to come over, but hope that all parents will walk over by themselves.
We hope to see no more such tragedies. When a child makes a mistake, he can tell his parents bravely as soon as possible. Parents can also empathize with the child's anxiety and fear, stand by his side, and tell him:
"Don't be afraid, it's okay, I'm here!"
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