Many people will find that some friends may not have high education, but they always feel like they are in the spring breeze when chatting with them. These people often "eat and make good money" in society.

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The highest emotional intelligence is not scheming, but kindness to think about others.

has a widely circulated formula: people’s success = 1% IQ + 99% EQ.

Many people will find that some friends may not have high education, but they always feel like they are in spring breeze when chatting with them. This type of people often "eat and make good money" in society.

And some people, as soon as they exit, they are in a cold situation, and they always encounter walls everywhere in society. The reason for

is the emotional intelligence issue. 6 habits with high emotional intelligence are changing your life bit by bit.

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• People with high emotional intelligence are good at listening.

Listening is an art, a kind of morality, and a manifestation of high emotional intelligence.

What does it mean to be good at listening? Being good at listening means waiting for others to finish their words.

What a person with high emotional intelligence says is to listen to what others think, listen and think, and then speak from the other person's perspective.

, so their words are more likely to be popular with everyone.

"Records of the Grand Historian" says: "When words can be heard, the way will advance."

People need to be listened to far more than others’ needs.

So, if you want to gain the love of others, you should learn to use your ears and be a person who knows how to listen.

sub-second listening to the mountains and flowing waters of Boya , and then he has a soulmate; the deep affection between Sanmao and Jose is a confession that has been constantly bending over the face for six years.

If you become someone else's loyal listener, the other party will definitely feel that you are valued, so you have a good impression of you and are willing to date you.

02

• People with high emotional intelligence can control their emotions.

People who cannot control their emotions are actually useless no matter how capable they are.

Zhang Fei not only has super abilities, but also good at fighting.

But Zhang Fei's death was actually very frustrating. He was not willing to die generously on the battlefield, but was killed by his own emotions.

When he heard his good brother Guan Yu was killed, he could not suppress his sadness and his blood and tears were stuck.

then whipped the soldiers with drunkenness, asking them to build weapons day and night, hoping to avenge their brothers immediately.

The last subordinate Fan Qiang and Zhang Da could no longer bear it, so they had to assassinate Zhang Fei in the military camp while he was drunk.

Everyone will have various emotions, but smart people with high emotional intelligence will better manage and control bad emotions, skillfully transfer bad emotions, and not be slaves to emotions.

People whose emotions are prone to fluctuations and their emotions are easily reflected are not so frank, but lack of inner experience.

can always be calm in mind, rational in behavior, suppress emotional impulses, restrain urgent desires, and always maintain a good mood, be cheerful and open-minded, which is the manifestation of high emotional intelligence.

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• People with high emotional intelligence can take it and let it go.

Life is never a smooth road. We will harvest flowers and applause, and we will also experience setbacks and sufferings.

But people with high emotional intelligence have both courage and responsibility to take on it, and have the mind and wisdom to let go.

There was a man named Meng Min in the Han Dynasty who carried a large pottery bottle on the road. As a result, the bottle fell to the ground by accident. Meng Min still walked forward without looking back.

Passerby asked him not to look at it no matter how he looked at it. Meng Min said, "Taozi is broken, what's the use of looking at it?"

can take it to survive, and letting go is life; being able to take it is ability, and letting go is wisdom.

After Fan Li successfully assisted Goujian in restoring his country, he abandoned his official position and went to business, retired to the world, and sailed with Xizi on the West Lake ; Wen Zhong refused to listen to the advice and finally got the tragic ending of "the rabbit died and the dog cooked".

Whether it is emotions or false reputation, you must be able to take it and let it go. If you can take it, you care about others. If you can let it go, you will fulfill yourself. This is the quality that a high-emotional businessman should have.

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• People with high emotional intelligence are responsible for their work.

Zhou Guoping once said: "All interactions have an unsurpassed final boundary. The boundary between these two people is unclear, but it is certain. All troubles and conflicts arise from unintentionally trying to break through this boundary." What can

say, what can it be said, and how to make the other party feel comfortable, mastering these problems reflects a person's emotional intelligence.

’s true high emotional intelligence is to be able to treat others with a sense of consistency and have a bottom line.

Once, Zeng Guofan celebrated his birthday at , and the famous general Bao Chao came to Anqing to celebrate his birthday.

Bao Chao is a rough man, and his army is famous for being able to fight and rob, so he is also a rich man.

Bao Chao brought a total of 16 packs of gifts, many of which were precious jewelry and antiques.

Zeng Guofan smiled when he looked at it, picked a small hat from it and accepted it, and the others were returned to Bao Chao.

Zeng Guofan's approach did not violate his own principles, nor did he refute the face of his generals. He was very sensible.

is a measure: if you are not qualified, you will be distant when you are too close, and if you are too hot, you will be cold when you are too hot.

When you don’t deliberately embarrass others in front of everyone and know how to get along with others in a good way, you have mastered the right degree of emotional intelligence.

05

• People with high emotional intelligence know how to refuse in time.

In Chinese culture, you should be concerned about face and decent things. You should not let others poke your backbone behind your back, and you should be concerned about the impact of your behavior on others and how others think of yourself.

But sometimes, only by knowing how to refuse can life suddenly become clear. Rejecting requires courage, and people with high emotional intelligence know how to refuse in time.

After Qian Zhongshu passed away, Fei Xiaotong, who had been concerned about Yang Jiang for a long time, thought that his opportunity had come, so he came to visit Yang Jiang in the name of caring for his old friends, hoping to take care of her.

Fei Xiaotong's meaning is as intelligent as Yang Jiang.

But in order not to lose the face of his old friend, Yang Jiang said to him before he left: "The stairs are not easy to walk, so don't 'get up the difficulties' in the future."

Fei Xiaotong is also a smart person. After understanding Yang Jiang's implication, he has since lost his heart.

Rejection is not indifference, but rejecting unreasonable requests, rejecting non-compliances, and refusing to make oneself suffer.

People with high emotional intelligence will use appropriate rejection methods to make themselves live smoothly and satisfied, and will not be too wronged.

06

• People with high emotional intelligence know how to think about others.

Daniel Gorman in the book "Emotional Intelligence" wrote: "People with low IQ and high EQ will help others; people with high IQ and low EQ will not be appreciated."

If you really feel that low EQ is helpless, then please remember one thing: think about others with a sincere heart. When Fan Zhongyan was appointed as the prefect of Kaifeng, he sent his second son Fan Chunren to transport a ship of five hundred hu of wheat to Gusu to help the Zhou tribe.

Passing through Danyang, Fan Chunren meets his father's old friend, Mr. Shi Manqing. At that time, Mr. Manqing was very down and had a funeral at home and had not been buried for three years.

Fan Chunren knew about it and immediately sold the wheat and transferred all the money he earned to Shi Manqing. Later, I heard that Manqing had two daughters, but because his family was poor and unmarried, he also gave him the ship to transport wheat.

After Fan Chunren returned home empty-handedly, he told his father about meeting Shi Manqing on the way.

Fan Zhongyan immediately said, "Why don't you give him five hundred hu of wheat?"

Fan Chunren replied, "I have given it, but it's not enough."

Fan Zhongyan said again, "Why don't you give him the boat?"

Fan Chunren replied, "It was because I gave him the boat and returned on foot."

Fan Zhongyan was overjoyed: "That's right, I'm worthy of being my son! "

shows people's hearts over time. You may not be able to see through how good or bad a person is, but you can definitely see whether a person is selfish, whether he is good at thinking about others, and whether he has high emotional intelligence.

Many people have low emotional intelligence because they cannot think about others, because they have a strong desire for gains and losses and are always afraid of losing.

The highest emotional intelligence of

is not scheming, but kindness to think about others.

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"How to practice high emotional intelligence? "

Yesterday

Topic

"Those who like to show their superiority"

Some friends commented as follows

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The sense of superiority is often expressed by people with a sense of accomplishment after inferiority.

——Fiet City

likes a passage from the writer Yishu :

"A person who is truly rich in his heart,

never shows off everything he has,

he doesn't tell others what books he has read, what cars he has driven, where he has been, how many clothes he has

, what jewelry he has bought,

because he has no sense of inferiority. "

- Good night at dawn

But it seems that people who can feel it when they see this article and remind themselves that if they have it, they will correct it and encourage others if they don't. They are not people who write their superiority on their faces; those who show superiority everywhere generally do not recognize this...

- Lily of the valley outside the eaves

have superiority, which means that they have worked hard to do it, and they only want to praise it.

- Gao Ling

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