Storm Life, we all yearn for a smooth journey. Even if it doesn’t go well, we also long for someone to shelter themselves from the wind and rain and protect themselves for the rest of their lives.
, but countless facts prove that people will never have a smooth life, and we will never meet someone who can protect their lives.
Fellowship is a very fragile thing. When you fall in love, you want to stick together at all times. When you don’t love each other, you will feel bored if you look at each other more.
But there are always some women who live in a confused way, always thinking that the biggest backer in the world is their husbands, so they spend all their efforts to please. In the end, they give everything they should pay, but they don’t get what they want, and end up in vain.
Only when we control our destiny can we achieve the happiness we want, and relying on our husbands only means placing our hopes on others, and we are destined to fail to do so.
If you rely on the mountain, you will fall, and everyone will walk. No matter at any time, we should learn to rely on ourselves.
As Yu Qiuyu once said: "The road of life is to be walked step by step by step by step. What can truly protect you is your own life choice."
Women must remember that the biggest backer in this world has never been a husband.
01: Love is easy to deteriorate
In the TV series " My First Half of Life ", the early Luo Zijun and Tang Jing can be said to be two people with a particularly large contrast.
Luo Zijun is obsessed with love. After so many years of marriage, she only remembers her husband's words "I raise you" and treats her husband as the only support in life. Therefore, after being abandoned later, she was at a loss, unable to find the way forward, and unable to find the meaning of life.
, and Tang Jing has always been sober and self-aware. She relies on herself to live the way she wants. As she said: "Love is fleeting, marriage is fragile, so I have worked day and night to cultivate my ability to be alone and have the ability to live a good life."
Love is easy to deteriorate, and even if it was once vigorous, it may still be broken at a certain moment.
As we walked, some people were unwilling to be ordinary life of food, rice, oil and salt, so they let themselves pursue the excitement of extramarital affairs; as they walked, some people were tired of daily quarrels, so they found a person who understood themselves again in the vast crowd...
Therefore, women must not regard their husbands as their biggest backer, because they never belong to you, you cannot control their hearts, nor can you help them make any decisions.
When he chooses to leave you, he must be determined and firm. You must know that if your tears and retention are useful, he will not have the heart to leave you.
02: The biggest backer is yourself
No one knows who will come first tomorrow or accident; no one knows how many storms and risks will occur in the future.
. Relying on others blindly means handing over your own destiny to others. The risks are immeasurable, and women will definitely fall into a state of worrying about gains and losses for the rest of their lives.
dependency is a disaster, a disaster that completely ruins oneself.
When we are young and incompetent, we really need to rely on others to live, but as the years grow, those who once shelter us from the wind and rain have long lost the ability of the past. Therefore, on the road to growth in life, we must learn to rely on ourselves.
The biggest backer for a woman in her life is herself.
Only by having independent thoughts can you see the world more clearly; only by having independent personality can you have the ability to fight against the wind and rain.
Relying on oneself is better than anything else. Even if you stumble along the way, it will be better to live in a world of worrying about gains and losses all day long, and live by looking at other people's faces all day long.
03: For the rest of my life, please be your backer
I agree with this passage that Taiwan’s well-known female entrepreneur He Liling said:
"How long can a woman be young? How long can she be carefree? As a woman who is dependent on her sex, sometimes we should think, if one day an unexpected situation occurs, will I have the ability to be self-sufficient?
One day we must rely on ourselves to find ways to live, and only ourselves can protect our future."
Indeed, after living to a certain age, you will understand that women who know how to rely on themselves can live more confidently and interpret their lives more excitingly.
In this world where the strong prey on the weak, blindly cowardly will only make people bully you even more severely, and relying on others will only make you become more cowardly.
for more than one's life, please be your backer.
Whether it is love, hate, whether it is success or failure, you must learn to hold your destiny tightly in your hands and make yourself your greatest backer.
No matter how many people are around you love you, you cannot guarantee whether the darkness hidden deep in your heart will push you into hell after the calm and beautiful appearance is broken.
When you become someone else's burden and burden, you are destined to be abandoned.
In this world, a woman’s greatest backer has never been a husband.
Love is easy to deteriorate, marriage is easy to break, no one has the obligation to keep their promises, and no one can guarantee that they will remain unchanged.
Encountering a long-term marriage is not only a simple luck, but also the result of hard work.
And in this effort, it includes women's independence.
In fact, on the road of life, everyone may become a passerby in your life. Instead of relying on others, it is better to learn to invest in yourself and learn to rely on yourself.
For the rest of your life, learn to give yourself a sense of security.
I am Aya, the writer of warm emotions. How lucky I can meet you in this life! Click to follow and let’s learn together!
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