and has finally come down.
Before they could experience getting rich overnight, they were in debt of more than two million yuan.
It turns out that for the sake of the education of children.
The couple used the demolition payment as a down payment and bought the school district "old and dilapidated" within the Third Ring Road.
Colleagues slept on the hard bed separated from the living room, telling themselves over and over again that "is for the sake of the children."
In addition to trying his best to earn a school district housing, in order to "not lose at the starting line" , ordinary people dare not think about what parents can do.
Previously, a netizen posted on his Moments saying that he had seen the real "Chicken Blood Mother" in the delivery room.
Just as I returned to the ward from the operating room, there was a little drip on my arm, and I started to speak to her boss: "I looked at the English and spelled two words wrongly. This is a bit unreasonable... You open the **APP and you will complete 1234 today... Do you don't understand after listening to the Olympiad class today..."
then hung up the voice phone, opened the "Li Weng Yun" prepared in advance on your phone, and put it in the ear of the second child who had not yet had a stool and said, "Come on, baby, today's early education class has begun..."
And this is a mother who has less than 3 hours in the delivery room.
Most parents have the mentality of "I hope my child will become a dragon" , and everyone hopes that their children can have a successful life.
However, on this road to success, parents are tired and children are equally tired.
The more stress parents exercise, the more anxious their children will be.
Parents’ efforts and expectations have become a heavy burden for their children.
It seems that only success can live up to their expectations and cultivation over the years.
Why do we parents have such a strong obsession with success?
psychologists gave us the answer: people have a preference. When they see broken things, they always want to make up for them.
I think parents who want their children to be successful probably have this mentality. They always hope that their children will fill it.
's expectation for children's excellence is actually just to make up for your long-cherished wish.
However, under this mentality, harm is inevitable.
I saw an interview with a young photographer.
His parents are both doctors, so as soon as they were born, he was arranged for the future.
In order not to let the children take detours, parents used their own experience to conclude: "The profession of doctor has a future, so don't consider other directions."
But the boy refused: I don't want to live like my parents, I don't want to live just for survival.
There are too many such stories in life, and not many people really dare to "rebelle" like him.
Most children choose to obey and silently bear the pressure given by their parents in the name of filial piety.
However, what they have lost is precisely the most precious thing in a person's life: the opportunity to live out one's own.
Haisang once said in "Poems for Children": "You are not my hope, no, you are your own hope."
In fact, it does not require much effort from parents to cultivate excellent children.
Just follow the trend and discover their uniqueness.
Many parents are worried that their children will not be able to keep up when they are young, and they will be difficult step by step when they grow up.
But in fact, the child is already overwhelmed in places where parents cannot see it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting children to be excellent, but the wrong thing is that the standards for excellence are too the same.
▌Good parents all know how to appreciate their children’s unique
Internationally renowned dancer Xu Fangyi once told her experiences from childhood to adulthood in a TED speech.
She said that her parents have low education and it is not easy for her father to start from scratch. Parents’ expectations for themselves are to study hard, and they can be a teacher and sit in the office in the future, so they don’t have to work so hard every day.
So even though Xu Fangyi loved dancing since childhood, she still forced herself to study hard in order to meet her parents' expectations. But every time I open the book, I feel that it is the book that is reading her, not her reading the book, so my homework is naturally not good.
Family members always say that if their homework still does not improve, they will have to go out to work as a female worker in the future.
Xu Fangyi was very scared inside. She dared not have dreams, and she dared not think because she had poor homework and felt that she had no future and had no future.
Until he was 19 years old, Xu Fangyi met Ross Parkers, a famous Australian dance teacher.
Teacher said inadvertently: "This child has great potential in dance", which moved Xu Fangyi very much.
She never thought that there would be someone in this world who could support her dreams.
It was also from that day that Xu Fangyi was no longer afraid. She dared to dream and wanted to become a professional dancer.
Learn to appreciate children. In addition to their grades, they also have so many excellent qualities.
allows children to be different, so that they can live their own wonderful life.
▌Do subtract children and allow them to grow up slowly
In order to cultivate "competitive children", it is easy for us to stuff all English, dancing, musical instruments, and movements on them.
We always hope that it will have more, so that we will not regret that there will be less books when we use them."
result, the training cost a lot, and the children did not learn it. Under the threat of their parents, they even got bored of the projects they were interested in at the beginning.
The children of relatives' families just turned two years old and their parents began to worry about their children's education issues.
is sent to the kindergarten. The country has regulations that people cannot enter the kindergarten under three years old. After thinking about it, I sent my child to a private kindergarten.
As a result, the child is too young and cannot adapt to the unfamiliar environment.
cannot fully understand the teacher's instructions, and often cried, and with poor resistance, he caught a cold in less than two days.
Parents also got angry, which was really counterproductive.
Insighted parents will subtract their children's education.
They understand the differences in children and respect the rhythm of their children.
will neither make troubles and worry, nor will it urgently pull out the seedlings to help grow.
▌The child’s personality is more important than grades
I went on a business trip and met a mother and son on the bus.
chatted with my mother in a slutty manner. I found that no matter what topic she talked about, she could touch the child.
Then he sighed in various ways: "I spent so much money, but the child is just not powerful."
However, I found that this child is not as unsatisfactory as the mother said.
He is a very polite child.
always looks at me seriously when talking to me and listen patiently to my thoughts.
It is also very clear when talking about your interests and hobbies.
Especially before getting off the car, the way he packed the table made me feel very moved:
Why can't his mother see such a good child?
In fact, many times, the value of a child does not necessarily require the blessing of a prestigious school.
Some time ago, the little boy's warm behavior after a heavy rain exploded on his circle of friends.
Storm rainstorms in Shijiazhuang have caused severe water on some roads.
A little boy is afraid of being injured by passing pedestrians, so he acts as a commanding angel in front of the section of the road.
Middle-aged man was knocked to the ground in a car accident. The seven-year-old boy who passed by used his little body to shade him and did not leave until he arrived at 120. There are actually many things like
in life.
These children may not be academic masters, and they have not been able to counterattack the poor.
But their kindness is not another kind of excellence?
parents’ original intention to hope that their children will become successful is often good.
Just like " Adventures of Life " Aya said: "Mom won't think you are an unsuccessful person, she must think you are a good child. She just worried that you can't take care of yourself."
Because we have experienced the cruelty of this world, we are afraid that children will embark on their old path in the future.
But the child is still young, they only see our severity and criticism, and he will misunderstand whether we don’t love him at all.
Maybe we can express our love and concern for them in another way.
Be less worried, pay more attention, take two less tutoring classes, and accompany your children to explore the world.
Even if they fail to enter the top primary school, their grades will not be as good as their next door neighbors, which will not affect their becoming a happy person.
Hello parents know how to manage their anxiety.
They will not pass on the pressure of the adult world to their children too early, but instead know how to let go and let them play freely.
In fact, children's abilities are far beyond our imagination.
As long as they are given enough time and space, every child can shine with unique light.
The best things that can be left to your children are not passbooks and houses, but an opportunity to be yourself.
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Author: Mom S, a not very serious mother, with her baby in her left hand and writing with her right hand. Some of the pictures are from the Internet and the copyright belongs to the original author.
