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Welcoming a baby, you will inevitably feel anxious.
expectant mothers are, and so are expectant fathers.
Two days ago, Hyun Bin , who was upgraded to a prospective father, talked about his feelings and mood for becoming a father for the first time.
Hyung Bin is mainly taking care of his wife Sun Yezhen, so this interview adopts the video interview model.
"Because of the children, I need to be careful, so I can only accept interviews through videos."
Regarding the transformation after marriage, Hyun Bin said that after having children, he wanted to live a life more seriously and take good care of his family.
There are also netizens who are most concerned about: Hyun Bin Son Yejin's smiling eyes are becoming more and more like.
Hyun Bin said: I also saw that, it was really that way. Maybe because I saw too much, Ye Jin smiled and became more and more like!
After watching Hyun Bin's interview, netizens said: is really sprinkling sugar every time they say it. The two of them are so sweet!
Indeed, both of them have a sweet score that exceeds the standard and are full of love.
Facing his new identity, Hyun Bin felt that: is not very real yet (being a father). When asked the friends around him, everyone has to see the baby before they can feel it. Maybe I am the same!
"I am now holding a happy heart and waiting for the day I meet my baby. I am very grateful and happy. Being a father is a very big blessing!"
Although I have been prepared for my mood after becoming a father, I still feel my heart pounding, very excited, very excited, happy, anxious, and very complicated.
Even so, Hyun Bin is working hard to adjust his mentality, will do his best to create a happy life, will love his lover twice as much, and will study hard to be a good father!
It is inevitable that you will have some anxiety if you become a newbie dad.
As Hyun Bin said: loves your lover twice as much, and strives to be prepared, so that you can adapt to the role faster!
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"At 35 weeks pregnant,
Anxiety husband took me to the hospital 6 times!"
Anxiety, uneasy, fear...is the most common mood for many pregnant mothers.
But in fact, expectant fathers will also have anxiety and uneasiness. The arrival of a new life means that family structure, intimacy, role identity, etc. will change.
The most important thing is that a wife who is pregnant for ten months and a baby born is completely unfamiliar to her father. At the beginning, it was really difficult to deal with it calmly.
There is a foreign father who shared his mood after becoming a father. That mood is really extremely anxious.
He didn't know that when he pressed his face against his mother's belly, the baby might suddenly kick it.
He didn't know how to judge whether the baby in his belly is still alive now?
He didn't know that the baby needed to prepare so many things, baby strollers, safety seats, breast pumps, clothes, buttock protection cream, breathing recorders... and it was so difficult to install one by one! !
What made him even more incredible was that It turned out that his wife, who had a big belly, would walk like a penguin!
To the late stage of pregnancy, in order to relieve anxiety and not get lost during childbirth, he set out from home to the hospital six times, just to be able to accurately figure out how long it will take to go to the hospital from home.
He called Siri: How should the baby's diapers be changed? How should I make baby milk powder ? How can the baby be alive? How much does it cost to raise a baby?
Everything unknown made him very disappointed. This is probably the mood of all the new dads.
There are also many mothers sharing their husbands’ anxiety on Weibo .
There is a father who is worried that his wife will be tired in the late stage of pregnancy. N calls every day emphasize that your wife must not be tired.
There are also fathers who are worried that the things to be produced are not fully prepared, so they list the tables and organize them bit by bit, and write each copy to see if there is anything missing.
These anxious hearts.
Becoming a dad really means a huge change. If you are not prepared, you will be anxious!
What can expectant fathers do to relieve anxiety? What preparations do you need to make to welcome the baby calmly? Today, my mother will talk about the pregnancy.
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10 months of pregnancy
3 Expectant mothers will be uneasy, and expectant fathers will be anxious!
There is a saying: Father’s love is like a mountain, and the weight of father’s identity is also very heavy!
From the moment I learned that my wife was pregnant, surprise and anxiety came at the same time. A domestic survey found that about 18% of pregnant women's spouses had prenatal anxiety.
Some people may say: Pregnancy is the daughter who is pregnant, the pain of childbirth is borne by women, what are the anxiety of men?
Anxiety is very normal for a competent husband and father.
First of all, I am afraid that I can’t take good care of my wife!
After pregnancy, the pregnant mother's body will undergo a drastic change. This change will bring a lot of discomforts. These discomforts will make the pregnant mother very uncomfortable. Although the expectant father cannot empathize, the heartache is true, and it is true that I don't know how to help my wife relieve it.
Secondly, I am afraid that I can’t take good care of the baby!
A new life is coming without any instruction manual. You need to explore everything yourself, eat, wear, drink, shit, pee, fart, and little bit of it is unknown.
And the father has no experience of fertility, has never experienced fetal movement , and has not shared the heartbeat with the baby. As Xuan Bin said: you may have to see the baby to feel real.
Because of the lack of emotional links to the baby and the lack of parenting knowledge, it will cause expectant fathers to fall into a helpless anxiety.
Handler, it comes from the dual pressure of spiritual and material things.
For ordinary families, the baby is just an gold-swallowing beast . There are a lot of things to prepare, and the expenses to be increased are not a little bit. This will increase material pressure.
Even for families with superior conditions, the expectant father will be under mental pressure.
After having a baby, the family structure will undergo a 180-degree change. At this point, the family is centered on the child and brings a small butt wearing a diapers everywhere. The center of gravity of life is completely shifted. You can no longer play until midnight, and you no longer go out for social activities frequently. This huge change will also make it difficult for expectant fathers to adapt.
But anxiety comes from the unknown. Because I don’t understand, I will be anxious. Master the necessary knowledge and do a good job in psychological construction. All anxiety can be resolved.
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Do a good job in psychological construction
is the first step for expectant fathers to relieve anxiety!
Daddy is one of the most important roles in the baby's life. The more the father participates, the happier the mother and the baby will be. So don't be defeated by anxiety. Actively build your psychology and deal with it more calmly.
①Faced with fear and worries
Can I take good care of my wife and baby? Can you accompany your wife during childbirth? Can you accompany your wife for prenatal check-ups calmly? It is very normal for a prospective father to have these worries and fears.
Don’t hide these in your mind, discuss these issues with your wife and family, ask for experience with your seniors, face them bravely, as long as you are careful, all the problems will be solved easily.
② Maintain a positive couple relationship
Good couple relationship is the premise of everything. It not only allows the baby to grow up healthier, but also provides the best support for pregnancy and childbirth.
Discuss everything related to pregnancy with your wife, listen to her ideas, express your opinions, discuss together, discuss everything before the baby is born, which can avoid many conflicts and promote a healthy relationship.
③Discussing budget and division of labor
Baby must be a gold swallowing beast, and it also requires a lot of time and energy to take care of, discuss financial status and division of labor, and openly discuss career plans with your wife, such as when and whether your wife will return to the workplace.
④Accepting the life of having children will be very different
A baby will bring earth-shaking changes. From individuals to couples to families, discussing these changes in advance can help relieve anxiety, talk to your wife about your worries, and discuss changes after having children, such as interpersonal relationships, financial status, lifestyle, etc.
You must accept it slowly. After having children, you can no longer be the big boy who only loves to play!
⑤Don’t pursue perfection
Novice parents, don’t ask too much about themselves, just do your best. For wives and children, companionship and attentiveness are the most important. Perfection is endless. The more you pursue, the more you feel inadequate and the more anxious you will be!
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Learning and nurturing knowledge
is the second step for expectant fathers to relieve anxiety!
It must be necessary to master a lot of skills to take care of pregnant wives and newborn babies.
The more dads know, the easier it will be for the mother and better able to take care of the baby. Every dad must master the following knowledge!
1. To calculate the expected delivery period
Calculation method for the expected delivery period: add 9 (or minus 3) in the month of the last menstruation, and add 7 on the date.
2. You should know the fetal size of each month
Fetal size of each month: ① Pregnancy February: Like grapes, BB has a heartbeat; ② Pregnancy March: Like plums, BB eyes form; ③ Pregnancy April: Like tomatoes, BB placenta work; ④ Pregnancy May: Like Grapefruit , BB hair growth; ⑤ Pregnancy June: Like eggplant, BB will eat hands and hiccups ; ⑥ Pregnancy July: Like cabbage, BB fat accumulation; ⑦ Pregnancy August: Like dense melon, BB placenta matures; ⑧ Pregnancy September: Like noodle melon (gourd), BB rich; ⑨ Pregnancy October: Like watermelon!
The older the fetus, the more physical discomfort the pregnant mother will be. She should take care of her emotions, give her emotional support, and accompany her to overcome the anxiety and anxiety during pregnancy.
3. You should know the nutritional supplement table during pregnancy
Supplement timetable for various nutritional supplements during pregnancy: 0-8 weeks: folic acid to prevent deformities. Week 9-12: Magnesium and vitamin A supplement. Week 13-16: Iodine supplementation, fetal thyroid work needs. Week 17-20: vitamin D and calcium. Weeks 21-24: Iron supplement. Week 25-28: Replenish food fiber and prevent constipation. Week 29-32: Tonic for unsaturated fatty acids. Weeks 33-36: Replenish fruits and vegetables. Week 37-40: Vitamin B12 and vitamin K supplements.
4. Accompanying your wife to prenatal examination
It is very hard to go through prenatal examination. Registering for examination and other reports. This process is generally not too fast. Accompanying your wife to have a prenatal examination can make her less hard. Generally, she is pregnant for 4 months and starts prenatal examination; once a month in April-July; once a half month after 8 months; once a week in the last month; once a week in the last month; if there are special circumstances, you should check or follow the doctor's advice.
5. Join the stockpiling of
The expectant father should help his wife prepare for stockpiling. Issue delivery package : Mom: ① Household registration, ID card, fertility service certificate , etc.; ② lactation clothing , anti-brosive pads; ③ puerperal pads , special sanitary napkins for mothers (if the hospital wants to send it, you can not prepare); ④ Breast pump; ⑤ straw; ⑥ confinement shoes ; ⑦ towels, water basins; ⑧ camera or camera. Baby: ① onesie , monk suit; ② Diapers; ③ Diapers; ④ Red butt cream; ⑤ Feeding equipment; ⑥ Wipe wipes; ⑦ Wet tissues; ⑧ Swabbing clothes.
6, create a relaxed and pleasant family atmosphere
Research shows that when a wife is pregnant, her face is always filled with a happy smile, and the babies born are all very beautiful. This is because emotional changes will affect hormone secretion, which will affect the baby's appearance. Genetics is the foundation, and a good mood adds points.
7. You must be able to correctly identify the signal of delivery
If you see red, break water, or contract regularly, you can go to the hospital. If you see red first, you can pack up your delivery bag first, and let the pregnant mother take a shower and take a hair and go to the hospital to wait for delivery comfortably, but it cannot be delayed for too long. If you experience regular contractions during this period, you must go to the hospital decisively.
If there is water rupture, or regular contractions occur, hurt once every 5 minutes, go to the hospital immediately.
8. Learn necessary parenting knowledge
One of the reasons for anxiety is that the knowledge reserve is relatively insufficient, including delivery, postpartum pregnant women's body conditioning, feeding and care for newborns and other information. All of them need to be urgently charged. From how to bathe babies to what brands of milk powder, we must pay attention to and understand, and we must also actively reserve materials, including transportation, maternity and baby supplies, etc. The preparation process of
will reduce anxiety and be prepared for any concerns!
For more parenting knowledge learning, please refer to the pregnancy incident yesterday's article "Zheng Kai has gone from a nightclub prince to a caring dad, how did Miaomiao do it? 》.
I hope all prospective fathers can adjust their mentality, study hard, and wait for the baby to arrive calmly and peacefully with their wife!
Reference article
https://www.wikihow.com/Prepare-For-the-Birth-of-a-Child-As-a-Father
