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In the past, I only knew that there was " Tokyo Women's Picture Book ". I relaxed before and took a quick look at B station when I was relaxing before going to bed. I realized that there was "Tokyo Men's Picture Book", which was quite good!
20 episodes per minute, a total of ten episodes, I spent 3 days to brush it.
The male protagonist of the man's picture book and the female protagonist of the woman's picture book were also born in a small place, yearning for a life in the prosperous Tokyo.
But compared with the heroine, you will find that the vague yearning for big cities is so different.
The woman's picture book Aya wants to stay in Tokyo because she can enjoy a popular restaurant in Tokyo, with a potentially handsome and rich boyfriend, meaningful work, and Tokyo people also come with Hakone travel, nightclub movies and diamond rings standard...
All of this is the standard life that the heroine Aya yearns for. So she must stay in Tokyo to pursue her dreams.
The reason why the male protagonist in the man’s picture book stayed in Tokyo is much simpler.
is just to prove that you can become a rich and irreplaceable successful person, and to use your success to obtain more potential resources to further prove your success.
It feels like...
Women like bustling shopping malls to go shopping and experience and enjoy, while men enter bustling shopping malls only to go to a store to buy something that matches their identity, with clear goals.
is very interesting to watch.
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Youth struggle
The male protagonist Shota stayed in Tokyo to struggle. He was the close girlfriend in college, and suddenly followed the rich uncle on his back.
Like most students, Shota was short of money at that time.
He is about to work, and his girlfriend takes him to boutique shop to buy clothes. He secretly looks at the price tag, then looks at his torn sneakers in the mirror, and squeezes out a clumsy excuse of saying "It's too troublesome to carry it, let's go another day."
These stimuli have given him the vague dream of "I must make a name for myself and make a lot of money to make others envy." Why is
said to be vague?
Because he actually doesn’t know exactly what kind of work he wants, what kind of work he likes, nor what kind of life he wants to pursue.
The only thing he knows is that he vaguely thinks that he will be envied when he is developed, and that he will be surrounded by a materialistic lady, which can fill in the previous mental injuries and gain a huge sense of satisfaction.
Therefore, the young Shota only values two points:
1. I am awesome in making money
2. My work ability is irreplaceable
With this desire for success, Shota entered Japan's first-class trading company, worked hard, and really quickly achieved achievements that surpassed the people of the same period.
The third year of working, the annual salary is 5 million yen (about 340,000 yuan, that was 2000), and the eighth year was nearly 10 million yen, followed by 12 million yen (about 820,000 yuan).
Shota's "dream" that stayed in Tokyo seems to have been realized easily.
At work, he was full of confidence and once thought that he would be the first model of the same period to embark on the road to promotion.
In the love field, he was at ease, enjoying the feeling of the girl who heard his salary at the sorority party, and was able to successfully bring the girl she met for the first time home to applaud love.
A complete successful person in the secular sense!
However, if you want to make a lot of money, you are actually a dream that duckweed usually has no roots.
First of all, the threshold for people to satisfy material and vanity will definitely gradually increase. What follows will be a huge sense of emptiness.
Secondly, if you take making money and work success as the only criterion for judging life, then if there are strong people above the strong, you will never be a real "winner".
For example, there is a detail, Shota went to attend a class reunion. My girlfriend asked him why he wanted to go? He honestly said, "I want others to envy him." After going to
, the female classmates asked about his income and indeed began to scream and envy him, and he also expanded to the extreme.
Not long after, someone mentioned another classmate, who is now a young entrepreneur and CEO of a magazine, and his inferiority complex was suddenly revealed.
So, Xiang Tai's source of struggle itself buried thunder in his middle age.
03
Middle-aged collapse
As expected, two things that Xiang Tai values most: "I'm awesome in making money" and "My work ability is irreplaceable". They have both encountered dramatic challenges in middle age.
His boss promoted a colleague he looked down upon at all, and he was left in place. And his boss told him, "Everyone does the job is the same, no one must."
He was hit hard and resigned and paid a salary to join a startup.
At this moment, he still wants to realize his unique value. He holds the name of COO. No matter how big the CEO draws, he will find a way to take it all and do his best to realize the pie.
But unexpectedly, a few years later, the company's development was on the right track. When he proposed as a member of the 4-person founding team and wanted to obtain the company's stock priority subscription rights, the CEO told him that your job has been paid, and everyone will do the same job.
Many middle-aged men around them have had more or less similar experiences.
worked for more than ten years and worked hard to do a career. They ignored the family, ignored personal happiness and even ignored physical health. They thought that it was work that needed themselves, but in the end they found that it was not, and it might be that their emptiness needed to take over.
When you reach middle age, you won’t give this opportunity to work.
While the workplace was frustrated, Shota suffered a Waterloo in his love scene.
Her beautiful girlfriend, she said she was almost married. Shota thought his girlfriend was going to "urge her to get married", so she instinctively retreated.
Unexpectedly, her beautiful girlfriend made him feel relieved without hesitation, because her requirement for her marriage partner is an annual salary of more than 30 million yen, and Shota's 12 million cannot be seen by her.
The game of cat and mouse in the city. I thought I was a hunter, so I proudly played around and found that I was a prey.
04
This drama is an open ending.
How long will Shota stay in Tokyo? Will he find a job he is willing to devote his life to, and whether his last girlfriend, Ryuriko, will stay with him for the rest of his life... All are left to the audience for their imagination.
and because it is considered a group drama. In addition to Shota, the drama also portrays the stories of other professional women, career women, and hunting women.
Therefore, every audience member has more imagination after watching the show, maybe it is about themselves: why they come to a big city, why they want to stay, whether they have realized their dreams, whether they have lived a fulfilling or empty life over the years.
Finally, I won’t talk about the grand meaning, let’s talk about a few small points that touched me.
1. There is no work that must be you
Every workplace person with a high spirit may have a moment of illusion that he has to be in trouble.
or even, when it is too smooth, you may be proud to ignore common sense.
For example, Shota, although he has outstanding work ability, because large companies like Japan all have lifelong employment system , it is very traditional and generally only promotes married people.
Senior mentioned Shota. Shota was too arrogant at that time and didn't listen at all. Because he thought from the bottom of his heart that "this job is necessary."
until it is slapped in the face by reality.
Do you have such a moment of elation?
Please be sure to bring yourself back to a realistic and objective perspective: there is no job, only one person can do it. For the boss, it's the same for everyone.
2. Having a demand side perspective
Xiangtao replaced Xiaodao on weekends to do part of his work, and it was done very well. This incident was seen by his boss.
Normal people will feel that this matter must be beneficial to Shota and to Kojima, right? Because everyone thinks that working hard is just. Shota thought so, so he also followed his boss's words and said a few bad words from Kojima.
However, soon Kojima was promoted by his boss, and Shota stayed there.
Why? Because we look at the background, this is a traditional large company, and the boss is also a traditional person who seeks stability. He believes in "everyone who does the job is the same."
allows such a boss to promote people. An employee can perform steadily and not proactively or outstandingly, and he has no big ambitions. An employee has stronger abilities but is ambitious and loves to show off. Who will he choose?
His primary need is "stability"! It is certain that the balance in my heart will tilt towards the first one. What's more, the second employee is married who does not meet the company's requirements.
Why did he promote the second employee to take risks? He would never be so stupid that he would lay the mines on his career because of the promotion of a grassroots employee, so he would definitely make a more secure and worry-free choice.
This is very interesting.
We always value what we think is right and ignore the real needs of the demand side behind it.
Last month, I also talked to me, an old classmate who had a very successful business career, about the same experience of our similar work when we were just graduated.
We interviewed similar stable large state-owned enterprises at that time, and we were asked similar questions: Are you willing to travel frequently?
Our answers are similar, both of which are desperately saying that we are very willing as long as the work needs it. This hard work is nothing.
The result is the same, both of us were swept away in this link.
of course I didn’t understand it at that time. And now, after about 10 years, we all got the reason why we were wiped out in one go.
The primary need for the company we apply for is not how hard the employee is, but how hard it is to integrate into this large group and work hard for decades.
And because of the enthusiasm and excitement we showed for work, the old people can see at a glance that we are not suitable for us.
Their judgment was also correct, and later we both started our business. If these two companies hired us separately, the result would be that these two employees would have resigned in two years.
3. Pay attention to the pitfalls of starting a business with friends and classmates
Friends and old classmates start a business with partners, there are so many pitfalls.
Adults must have common interests when they can cooperate for a long time. Because friends and classmates are emotionally connected, they tend to keep silent about their interests from the beginning.
When the day when you are dissatisfied with the distribution of interests is over, it becomes a day to go to court.
I have broken up in my company and have lost the company partnership, which is much more than happy cooperation and successful business success. The latter is an extremely low probability event.
Must be a villain first and then a gentleman.
