Author: Zimo (Columnist of Fushu)
I wonder if you have discovered it:
As we grow older, fewer and fewer friends around us.
It is not because our ability to make friends has declined, but because we have screened out those passers-by in our lives and identified close friends worth cherishing.
People often say: "The character is revealed in the matter, and the mind is hidden in the body."
Only when encountering something can you see a person's character clearly.
If you want to know who is the real friend, just look at these 3 times.
I got sick and knew who would accompany you
French writer Roman Rolland once said this:
"Get a confidant, entrust your entire life to him, and he also entrusts your entire life to you."
A true confidant is not a relative who is better than a relative. When you need it, he will always be by your side, and even use his own life to protect you.
According to legend, there was a man named Xun Jubo in the Jin Dynasty. Once he went to visit a friend, but his friend was seriously ill in bed. He caught the enemy's attack on the city, burned, killed and plundered, and the people in the city were fleeing in all directions.
My friend advised him to leave quickly, but Xun Jubo said, "I came from afar just to see you. Now, the enemy is entering the city and you are sick again. How can I leave you alone?" After that, he turned around and went to boil medicine for his friend.
At this time, with a "bang", the door was kicked open, and several soldiers rushed in, questioning him who he was and why he didn't run away.
Xun Jubo said: "My friend is seriously ill. I can't leave him alone. I would rather use my life to exchange for his friend's life."
The enemy was moved when he heard this and said: "I didn't expect that the people here are so affectionate and righteous, how can I bear to infringe on them."
After saying that, he withdrew. It is said that "there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time." In fact, when you are sick, it is also the best time to test friendship.
When a person is sick, he can best see the warmth and coldness of human feelings and the coldness of the world. Writer Jia Pingwa has a deep impression of this.
He once described his condition after he fell ill in the article "Human Sickness": Friends who know that he is sick rarely come to visit him.
Occasionally, I don’t know about friends come. When I heard that he had hepatitis, I stopped drinking tea and smoking. I found an excuse to leave immediately, and after going out, I washed my hands over and over under the public faucet.
A friend invited a banquet for a VIP and needed Jia Pingwa to accompany him. Although Jia Pingwa took the initiative to ask for special dishes and chopsticks, his friend's wife still looked disgusted.
Jia Pingwa just left the doors and chopsticks he used were immediately thrown into the garbage basket and smashed...
As the saying goes, "If you don't know if you don't know who is close to who is far away; if you don't taste it, you don't know who is thick or weak."
On weekdays, everyone talks back and forth, and you can't tell who is the true heart and who is the false.
Only when you encounter something can you tell who is the trustworthy person.
A true friend may not be the person who is closest to you or the one who is brother to you, but he must be the one who can be by your side when you are sick and never leave you.
Only after you lack money once will you know who will help you
Mu Xin once said: "Money is a universal mirror. You can see through the sinister hearts of people, measure the warmth and coldness of people, and try out false feelings."
Indeed, who is the real friend? You will know if you lack money once.
Last year, my family bought a house and the down payment was 100,000 yuan. My husband said to me, "Don't worry, I can do it with just two calls."
He does business and has many partners. He often eats and sings together.
But after a few phone calls, my husband's face became dimmer and dimmer. The other party either said that the money had been invested, or that it was suppressed by the goods and could not turn over.
Some people say that the wife in the family is in charge and cannot make the decision. Only then did my husband realize that these people can eat, drink and have fun, but when it comes to money, they can hide farther than the other.
Later, he remembered Fa Xiaolinzi, who opened an auto repair shop in the past few years and heard that the business was pretty good.
But in recent years, the two of them are busy with their own business and don’t have much contact with each other.
With a try-out mood, my husband called Lin Zi and just said that he wanted to buy a house. The other party immediately said, "Is the money enough? If it is not enough, I will make it for you..."
A sentence moved my husband to tears.
Although money is not the only criterion for testing friendship, when you are short of money, those who are willing to help you must be true friends.
agrees with Sanmao's words: "It's great to have one or two soulmates, there is really no need to have too many. The joy of friends lies in the down-to-earth trust."
Friends do not depend on how many, but on the sincerity.
A true friend may not be the one who is cheering you up at the dinner table, or the one who likes you in your circle of friends, but it must be the one who is willing to believe in you and help you unconditionally when you are in a difficult situation.
Only after falling once did you know who would help you up
Shakespeare said: "Friends must be in harmony with each other, so that can be said to be true friendship."
True friends never care about the high and low status of your identity, and can share the joys and sorrows with you at any time and treat you sincerely.
When singer Liang Hanwen was 30 years old, she learned to trade stocks with her friends, but as a result, almost all the stocks she invested in lost money.
But Liang Hanwen's mother fell seriously ill at this time. Unexpectedly, his record company went bankrupt in the competition and his career entered a trough.
Liang Hanwen, who was in trouble, once felt hopeless in life. At this time, his friend Su Yongkang was going to hold a concert. After learning about Liang Hanwen's situation, he took the initiative to invite him as a guest and sing on stage.
It was precisely because of this performance that Liang Hanwen was noticed by the record company again, and signed a contract to become an artist in the other company and got the opportunity to release records again, which led to his later glory in his music career.
As the saying goes, "Time knows people, but it is difficult to know the heart." When you are in trouble, you can best see who treats each other sincerely and who is vain and imprisoning.
On Zhihu, some netizens have told their own stories.
When he was young, he was the brand leader in a certain area. He was generous and generous, not care about details, and made many friends.
In addition to work, he spent most of his time on socializing and organized parties at home every weekend. It was crowded and lively.
Later, the brand he was responsible for had big trouble due to advertising problems, and he had to ask for help everywhere, but his former "friends" often scattered, and none of them were willing to come forward to help.
This is life. When you are in a glory, many people may know you, and when you are in a downturn, you can truly know the people around you.
Someone said: "Time is like a strong wind, blowing away those chance encounters, leaving behind true friends; difficulties are like a magnet, sifting away those false feelings, and attracting friends in distress."
True friendship can withstand the test of time and difficulties; false friendship cannot withstand any turbulence.
A true friend may not be the person who adds icing on the cake when you are in the glory, nor the person who often gathers and chats with you, but he must be the one who helps you in time when you are in a downturn.
Some people say that the friendship between adults is like luxury goods and fragile goods, both precious and fragile.
Indeed, in the vast world, there are countless people who can meet each other and treat each other sincerely.
After years of baptism, there are very few who can still stay with each other.
If someone can: never leave you when you are sick, stay with you; when you are short of money, help with all your strength; when you are in trouble, help with each other and treat each other sincerely.
So please cherish it.
For the rest of my life, I hope you and I can get rid of the false and keep the truth, make true friends, and live a life without regrets.
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