Many people say that mothers are the ones who love their children the most in the world. After giving birth to a child for ten months, mothers begin to consider the various problems that children will encounter during their growth and are willing to give everything they have for it. Such maternal love is very great, but sometimes it may hurt the child.
As early as more than ten years ago, there was a child prodigy named Wei Yongkang known to us. This child prodigy has maintained excellent academic performance under the education of his mother since he was a child. He was admitted to the prestigious university at the age of 513. He was once called "other people's children".
But as time goes by, Wei Yongkang's problems have also emerged. He seems to have no independence at all, and his mother needs to take care of food, clothing, housing and transportation.
After leaving his mother's care, even his life became a problem, which even affected his studies. In the end, had to be dropped out of school.
In fact, this situation is not a small number in society. Now there are many children with high scores and low energy in . They are far ahead in their studies, but they seem very low-energy in life. A large part of the reason is that their mothers "love" them too much and protect them too well.
The most likely types of maternal love that hurts children. Mothers should pay attention to it. If they are not corrected in time, it will ruin the child
Unconditionally satisfy the child's maternal love. In fact, it is destroying the child
A naughty child took the key and scratched someone else's car. After being caught by the owner, he called his parents.
However, after his parents arrived, they did not apologize and compensate the car owner as netizens thought. Instead, they turned around and said that the car owner had hurt his child, so why did he yell at his child, and refused to compensate on the grounds that his child was still young.
In fact, there are many "naughty kids" like this now. A large part of the reason is that parents are too indulging in them. They often meet their children's requirements unconditionally at home, and they do not correct their mistakes in time, which makes the children more unscrupulous in their behavior and think that others will also indulge themselves.
Unconditional spoiling children is actually destroying them. Parents cannot protect their children for the rest of their lives. One day, children need to face all their own things in life.
Excessively interfering with the mother's love of children's lives is actually raising giant babies
There is a joke that said that a child went to school on the first day and brought eggs as lunch. However, when the meal was really started at noon, the child was worried about the eggs.
After seeing this situation, the teacher asked the child why he didn’t peel eggs to eat, is it because it’s not delicious? Unexpectedly, the child replied that , he would not peel eggs . Before, my mother peeled them and fed them to him at home.
This seems to be a joke, but in fact there are many such situations in life. Some parents take care of everything in their children's lives, and some children have not learned how to tie their shoelaces after they reach the age of five or six.
In fact, it is necessary for children to learn various life skills during their growth, because only in this way can children gradually become independent and learn to live by themselves.
This behavior of parents is undoubtedly destroying their children's ability to live independently and gradually becoming a giant baby.
The maternal love that always asks children to be grateful and rewarded is a shackle on their children
In a popular TV series, I saw such a scene. A single mother who raised her child with great difficulty, but her child chose to commit suicide one day. A large part of the reason is that his mother whispers her dedication almost every day at home, telling the child how it is not easy, and telling the child what she sacrificed for for his growth.
After such a day after day, the child began to become anxious and afraid that he would not be able to meet his mother's requirements, and finally one day he chose to commit suicide.
is understandable to cultivate children's gratitude, but parents also need to pay attention to their methods. Don't talk about their sacrifices and contributions all day long, and don't tell their children what would happen to me if it weren't for you. This will not only not make the children grateful, but will also put a lot of pressure on their children in the long run, which is not conducive to their children's growth.
Mothers can truly love their children by doing these things. They will benefit their children throughout their lives
Love their children in principle
As mothers, we should learn to love their children in principle and learn to refuse unreasonable demands from their children.
After the child makes a mistake, the child should make his mistake realize his mistakes and then actively correct his mistakes, instead of satisfying his children unconditionally and unprincipledly. Let the child gradually learn to behave. One day, the child will leave the parents to live on his own. If he indulges the child at this time, the child will suffer a lot in the future.
Don't interfere too much in your child's life
Kids are independent individuals and not appendices to parents. Parents should not interfere too much in their children's lives. Some parents are completely a one-man show at home. If the child does not do what he says, they will use beating and scolding the child to encourage the child to be obedient. This will be detrimental to the physical and mental health of the child in the long run, and may even make the child develop a rebellious mentality.
Learn to let your children do it by themselves
Children are completely blank when they are young. They do not have any life skills and need parents to teach them step by step before they can slowly start to learn how to live.
Therefore, what parents need to do is not to help their children handle everything in life, but to at different ages, let children learn different life skills and gradually become independent.
Conclusion
Maternal love requires principled maternal love, which will only destroy children.
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