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01. When you find a suitable means of recovery, it is best to decide decisively
02. The awareness and ability of parents' self-reflection are very important
03. The degree of cooperation of patients affects their recovery speed
04. Why are so many children having doubts about sexual orientation?
Recently, we shared the psychological intervention and rehabilitation experience of Xingyan patients with severe depression.
Xingyan suffered from severe depression in his sophomore year, and had hallucinations and suicidal thoughts, so he was forced to take a break from school. Later, he was diagnosed as a precursor to bipolar disorder and schizophrenia by other authoritative psychiatric experts, but the effects of drug treatment and general psychological counseling were not ideal.
Later, Xingyan's mother brought her daughter to us. After systematic and in-depth psychological intervention, Xingyan has successfully resumed school, and has good study and life conditions. It has been appreciated by teachers and has also set the goal of taking the postgraduate entrance examination. The medications taken were withdrawn before school resuming.
Because Xingyan's symptoms are serious, but the rehabilitation effect is very good, many parents of patients are very concerned about it after the case is shared. Many people asked us in the background: How long has the psychological intervention been received for
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How many times has she received pathological memory repaired under deep hypnosis?
We checked the psychological intervention records. Xingyan and his parents received about 60 hours of clinical in-depth psychological intervention, and about before and after, 5 months .
Among them, the number of pathological memory repairs under deep hypnosis is 10 times , and the rest are mainly clinical cognitive psychological intervention, family therapy, hypnotic sensitivity test, treatment motivation strengthening, etc.
The recovery speed and effect of
is considered to be incredible or even impossible for patients with complex and severe symptoms, multiple diagnoses at the same time, and a weak motivation to seek treatment.
Because if she takes mainstream psychiatric medication, even if it is supplemented with mainstream psychological counseling/psychotherapy, it often takes at least 1 to 2 years to restore some social functions. Moreover, because the rehabilitation effect is unstable, many doctors will recommend continuing to take medicine for a long time to prevent recurrence. Many psychological counselors will recommend receiving long-term psychological counseling, starting at least 1 year.
Then many parents have to ask questions: If my child also accepts your clinical psychological intervention, can he be as good as Xingyan, and the effect is so good?
If we say yes, it is definitely irresponsible. Each patient's condition, symptoms, growth experience and family background are different. The more and more complex the symptoms, the longer the psychological intervention will take, so each patient's psychological intervention time is different.
What if the child’s condition is similar to that of Xingyan? Even his age and difficulties were similar? Is it the clinical psychological intervention time that is about the same?
This is not necessarily true, because each patient and family have different levels of trust and cooperation, and their level of understanding is also different. To put it further, we need to talk about the specific factors that make Xingyan recover efficiently, quickly and smoothly.
We believe this is divided into three aspects. First, our clinical psychological intervention technology is becoming more and more perfect, especially the hypnosis therapist Lucy's experience in pathological memory repair is becoming more and more abundant.
The second is Xingyan's family factor, which mainly refers to her parents' high trust and cooperation in us. Her self-reflection awareness and ability are also very strong, and she quickly recognized and mastered the scientific educational methods.
The third is Xingyan’s personal factor. She has a high understanding, has a strong ability to comprehend new knowledge, and can apply it. Of course, she also has a high degree of trust and cooperation in us.
For the first point, which is our technology, I won’t talk about it here. The following mainly analyzes the family and personal factors that help Xingyan recover quickly.
In fact, no matter which treatment method and rehabilitation plan the patient receives, these two factors are very critical to speeding up rehabilitation. I hope the following analysis will be helpful to everyone.
01. When you find a suitable means of recovery, it is best to decide decisively
We mentioned before that in Xingyan family, the mother has a strong personality and is a good person to do things, and she has also suffered superimposed psychological trauma during her growth period, so her emotions are prone to fluctuations.
To put it simply, she was once the main source of "negative energy" in the family and caused a lot of psychological harm to her husband and daughter.
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However, after Xingyan fell ill, the mother was the first to realize that drugs-based treatment methods and traditional psychological counseling or psychological treatment cannot solve the fundamental problem of her daughter. She began to contact and understand us, and decided to bring her daughter to the interview. After the interview, she quickly decided to apply for our emergency psychological intervention.
At that time, my daughter was reluctant and her motivation for treatment was very weak. Xingyan’s father recognizes experts from large public hospitals and does not believe in our philosophy and technology at all. Xingyan's mother gave a lot of explanations and guidance before finally convinced them.
Also, when Xingyan just transferred to the hypnotic therapist Lucy, her mentality of resisting psychological intervention emerged. She said that Lucy was just a "proton" in her eyes, and said that she lived a good life and was "lying flat" directly without any psychological intervention.
Lucy realized that her true motivation for treatment was very weak, her trust and cooperation were low, and it was not appropriate to undergo trauma repair under deep hypnosis, so she returned to me and continued to do cognitive and psychological intervention to strengthen her motivation for treatment.
After a while, it took about 4 hours of psychological intervention. At that time, Xingyan's father began to be anxious and even a little impatient. He felt that he had finally started to deeply hypnosis, but he finally stepped back to the previous stage. Isn’t this a waste of time?
But Xingyan's mother is very calm. I explained to them that pathological memory repair technology (TPMIH) under deep hypnosis also has "indications", which requires patients to have a strong motivation for treatment, a higher degree of trust and cooperation.
Otherwise, deep hypnosis will not go smoothly and the effect will not be ideal. You will have to spend more time solving this problem later. Therefore, it is necessary to let Xingyan return to the cognitive psychological intervention stage. At this time, slow means fast.
Even if parents persist, we will refuse to perform pathological memory repair under deep hypnosis. Because even though the results are not good, it is a waste of time for patients and parents to continue to work hard. Of course, if the parents do not agree, they can choose to terminate psychological intervention.
Xingyan's mother fully recognized and agreed with our judgment, and also worked hard to do her husband's work to reduce his anxiety. In the end, the two formed a unified opinion.
Why did Na Xingyan so strongly resist at that time? Part of the reason is that the psychiatric treatment and psychological treatment she had received before were not effective. She felt that she had no hope of recovery, so she would "lie down" and forget it.
So, from this perspective, assuming that Xingyan found us the first time he sought treatment, that is, if the motivation for treatment is strong and the attitude is positive, this can reduce the psychological intervention time at least 4 hours.
02. Parents’ awareness and ability of self-reflection are very important
Xingyan’s mother not only makes the above wise decisions, but also plays a greater role in her daughter’s recovery - her self-reflection awareness and ability are very excellent.
During Xingyan's psychological intervention process, we told her mother the psychological trauma she found, and her mother was shocked.
But she could soon think that some of her wrong educational methods and irrational obsessions may have come from her growth experience.Including the campus bullying she had suffered before, as well as the wrong way of education by Xingyan's grandfather.
With this understanding, her self-reflection and self-awareness become more profound, and she is not prone to falling into blind self-blame and anxiety.
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Also, Xingyan clearly feels that their parents recognize us very much, so they pointed out some of their parents' shortcomings to us several times, and hope that we urge them to correct them.
For example, after Xingyan discovered that his mother believed in Buddhism, she once thought she knew Buddhism very well. When she caught someone, she talked about the benefits of Buddhism. She even promoted it everywhere in the government agencies where she worked, and was publicly criticized by her leaders.
Xingyan also found that mothers have a strong desire for revenge. When others point out their shortcomings, their first reaction is often rebellious and disdainful. "Anyway, they can't do anything to me," and even think about how to take revenge. There are many suggestions such as
xingyan, and we also found that she actually has a deep understanding of her parents, but her parents themselves have no awareness.
Faced with these "criticisms" of her daughter, Xingyan's mother can sincerely accept it and reflect from the bottom of her heart on why she is like this and how to correct it in the future.
Of course, Xingyan's father has good self-reflection ability. We pointed out that he had a self-righteous attitude and always irrationally attacked his daughter. He quickly changed his attitude towards him and deeply realized his cognitive boundaries.
Moreover, as the superimposed psychological trauma suffered by Xingyan in the past is constantly being found and repaired, we will further analyze with Xingyan’s parents in depth, and their self-reflection will be more specific.
After parents actively reflect on themselves, change and improve, the children's psychological pressure is greatly reduced, their ideas are understood and supported, and the family atmosphere becomes more harmonious and warm.
Then, the superimposed psychological trauma caused by parents can be better repaired, and the children can recover faster and smoother.
So, how important is the awareness, ability and wisdom of parents’ self-reflection? The Xingyan case is a good reflection.
I believe that Xingyan’s mother has completed a 180-degree transformation now, and self-reflection may have become her habit, even her life wisdom.
She also uses the scientific spiritual psychology knowledge she has learned to guide the elderly and relatives in her family to raise them scientifically, and volunteer to work in the community, bringing positive influence to the family and society. This makes a lot of sense.
03. The patient's cooperation affects his recovery speed
After talking about Xingyan's parents, what are the personal factors that Xingyan is conducive to their speed up recovery?
Simply put, it is mainly because she has a high understanding. Let me give you two examples and you will understand.
Xingyan had a psychological problem at that time - he was very resistant to looking in the mirror and always felt that he was ugly. Under deep hypnosis, Lucy discovered the psychological trauma behind it, one of which occurred in the second year of junior high school.
The class took group photos at that time. After a classmate got the electronic photo, he cut off the avatar of everyone in the class, enlarged it, and sent it to the students. When he sent Xingyan's avatar to her, he said bluntly, "Look at you, you look so ugly!" When he saw it, Xingyan was shocked! In the photo, she squinted her eyes, her face was dark and expressionless, and she was really ugly. "I usually look in the mirror and think that I look pretty good, but why is this different from what is in the mirror?"
She felt ashamed and came up with a wrong understanding, thinking that "I in the mirror is not the real me." Since then, she has denied her appearance and never looked in the mirror again.
Lucy repaired this trauma, and the next day I conducted intensive cognitive intervention in Xingyan.I told her why she immediately changed her evaluation of her appearance because of a classmate’s words or photos, causing psychological trauma?
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because she was already inferior at the time, and that classmate was a class leader, representing authority in her mind, so her words instantly made her "sooth and hypnosis".
I also open myself, saying that my nose is covered with a bridge of my nose. I was nicknamed "Hamichi" by the villagers since I was a child (a character in "The Legend of Yue Fei" in Storytelling , and my nose was cut off by someone). I was very inferior and almost went for plastic surgery. Unexpectedly, when I first met my current mother-in-law, she said that my nose was blessed. A word healed my years of trauma! I was also "sooth hypnotized".
I spoke vividly and explained in depth my psychological changes. Xingyan giggled when he heard it. I explained to her the principle of sober hypnosis, and she quickly understood.
A few days later, her parents told me that Xingyan had a conflict with them. My mother's tone was very ashamed, saying that she had a temper that day because of some things and kept scolding her husband.
Xingyan couldn't stand it anymore, so he suddenly came over and punched his mother in the shoulder. My parents were stunned at that time! The mother was even more angry at that time, but considering that her daughter was still in recovery, she had to hold it in.
Later, Xingyan apologized to his mother. The mother also reflected on herself and felt that it was a good thing that her daughter dared to express her emotions. But my mother was confused and asked me: My daughter never dared to act violently against her parents before. How could this happen after psychological intervention?
I asked Xingyan, what happened at that time? She said that day, her mother fell into a vicious cycle of negative emotions and catastrophic thinking, and she ignored her father's explanation and kept scolding her, even a little hysterical.
Xingyan really wants to help her father, but in that state, she felt that it was useless to talk to her mother and she couldn't listen to her at all. Suddenly, she remembered the “wake hypnosis” I said, and thought for a while, and decided to take action.
She rushed forward and punched her mother suddenly. Her mother was shocked and asked, "What are you doing when you hit me?"
Xingyan answered with confidence: "You used to beat me and scold me to educate me, but now I hit you also educate you!"
Mom suddenly froze, and soon her whole body collapsed to the ground. Dad was frightened and came to help her quickly. Xingyan knew that his mother might have negative emotions towards him, so he immediately walked away tactfully, asking his father to help his mother into the room and leave him to comfort him. After her mother regained her rationality, she apologized to her mother.
After hearing this, I was also shocked! Not only did she see her mother's irrational state at the time, she also thought of using the principle of "sober hypnosis" to deal with it in time!
Also, in the later stage of psychological intervention, Xingyan has strong self-awareness. At that time, hypnotic therapist Lucy summed up several psychological problems that she thought needed to be solved, but Xingyan felt that this was not a problem and said, "This is just my personal living habits" and "This has no effect on my studies."
But after Lucy explained a little, she accepted it calmly.
She said that this is not because she thinks it is a problem from the bottom of her heart, but because she believes that Lucy is professional and has high level, and realizes that she has cognitive boundaries. She thought she was very rational and saw clearly, but this was not necessarily true reason, but might be blinded by past pathological memories. It is rare to have a high recognition, trust, and timely self-awareness of us. Because in clinical psychological intervention, we encounter many adolescent patients, especially boys, who are very paranoid and firmly believe that they are right.
is a bit more popular, they are very "axial". If the psychological counselor/psychotherapist has insufficient experience or level, it is easy to fall into sophistry with such patients, and the patient is unwilling to cooperate at all.
For patients like this, it also takes a long time to guide and explain to make them realize their problems and cooperate with psychological intervention.
But since Xingyan resumed his motivation for treatment, it took a few minutes to do it. This is an important factor in her recovery so fast and so good.
04. Why do so many children have doubts about sexual orientation?
Xingyan is now in a very good recovery. Not only did he return to school smoothly, his academic performance increased, and he was appreciated by the class teacher, but he was also proactive and set his goal of studying for a postgraduate degree.
However, this does not mean that there are no hidden dangers on her way to recovery. Our clinical psychological intervention does not process all the patients' pathological memory, which is not only unrealistic, but also unnecessary. Because when the patient's mental and psychological mind recovers to be rational and healthy as a whole, many problems can be gradually resolved in his subsequent growth.
But I think that their parents should pay attention to the hidden dangers in their daughter: sexual orientation.
When Xingyan first received psychological intervention, he mentioned that a boy once confessed to her, but she described her feelings at that time as "very disgusting".
When she was in junior high school, she also liked a girl. The other party regards herself as a friend, but she not only has a good friend and best friend, but also has a vague and loving feeling. Later, because of the further studies, the two separated, and Xingyan felt very sad.
Judging from the past experience of psychological intervention in other patients, these experiences of Xingyan may involve homosexual tendencies. But during the psychological intervention process, her problem was not prominent, so we did not deal with it specifically.
According to experience, Xingyan felt disgusted with boys' confession, which may be related to her poor parent-child relationship with her father since childhood. This is often one of the root causes of women's rejection and resistance to the opposite sex.
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. The "vague feeling" for girls may be related to some pathological positive emotions, or may be related to her exposure to information related to homosexuality.
The Internet information is now complex, and many children are exposed to homosexual culture at a very young age and are not in conflict. If they find it difficult to form a good relationship with the opposite sex, they cannot rule out the idea of finding the same sex to live in the future.
However, judging from Xingyan's understanding and the positive changes of his parents, this hidden danger is not great. This is just a hazy feeling she had in the past, and I believe Xingyan also has a rational understanding of this.
And I have urged her father to continue to work hard to improve the parent-child relationship with her daughter, so that her daughter can feel the love and security from men and fathers.
Now Xingyan is focusing on his studies and does not want to fall in love for the time being. If she meets a boy who has feelings in the future, I hope her parents can help check it while respecting her opinions.
If you find that a boy is not a "scumbag", they'd better encourage their daughter to develop a relationship appropriately and establish a feeling of intimacy with the opposite sex, which will have a positive impact on her future life and happiness.
We have found in clinical practice that patients with mental disorders such as depression, bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, , etc., even if they really have homosexual tendencies or even have homosexual behaviors, this is not unchangeable.
Many real cases in the past show that some homosexuals are secondary, and they are actually pathological memory behind them. When they are repaired by deep hypnosis, they regain their rationality and choose the mainstream sexual orientation. Xingyan’s parents don’t have to worry too much.
The case we have shared before, the patient Kobayashi came to seek treatment due to depression and bipolar disorder. At that time, she said she was homosexual and had dated homosexuals. But after receiving pathological memory repair under deep hypnosis, she realized that her past sexual orientation originated from superimposed psychological trauma and re-selected the mainstream sexual orientation.
Moreover, in today's diverse and inclusive society, even if individuals whose trauma have not been repaired choose to become homosexuals, it does not mean that happiness cannot be achieved.
But this puts higher requirements on their parents and partners. We must be able to enter their hearts, give them full understanding and support, and guide them to face the eyes and pressure from the outside world more calmly.
In addition, although Xingyan's parents have strong self-reflection awareness and ability, they have a large age gap, education gap, and huge differences in their growth era after all. As their daughters continue to grow, it is becoming more and more difficult for them to give correct and positive guidance.
I am happy to continue to provide some guidance to Xingyan. For example, when she encounters some setbacks, I will guide her how to adjust her mentality or provide advice on postgraduate entrance examinations or job searches. But this is just a small stage in her life.
Now, her trauma in interpersonal relationships has been well repaired and she can communicate with people actively and correctly. I believe she can meet classmates, teachers, bosses, etc. who can provide active guidance to realize the value of life and move towards happiness!
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