Su Qing is busy with work and doesn't care about taking care of her two children carefully, but she arranges the study of the two children with a heavy learning burden, the growth of the neglected child, and the eldest son becomes more and more rebellious. He feels that his mother doesn't care about him and loves him. He asks others to pretend to be a parent at school and deliberately does things that make his mother unhappy, just to attract the attention of her mother. He mistakenly thinks that her parents have divorced, and no one is willing to choose him, so the burning of the photos caused the house to catch fire. Only then did the mother wake up!
until the eldest son's words were ignited. Su Qing suddenly realized, "Nothing matters anymore. I thought you would take me away. I don't study well and have a bad personality. Will Xiaowen and I choose me? Does he agree? Take Xiaowen away." It turned out that the eldest son did not understand her good intentions, and misunderstood her even more. So she began to reflect on her, and even gave up the opportunity to go to a school for key training of exam-oriented skills, and finally chose an ordinary school that allows the child to develop comprehensively. Fortunately, Su Qing's self-reflection and change in time saved her rebellious eldest son. Under her influence and guidance, the eldest son became sensible.
vanity Qin Wei, her husband is an ordinary employee of a company. They have a daughter named Yueyue. In order to buy a school district house for the child and let the child enter key primary schools, she has tried her best to borrow high loans and entrust relationships, and asked her 5-year-old daughter to pretend to be sick and lie. In order to accompany other mothers with good financial conditions, she took her daughter quietly to take the bus after school, and even the child's father did not allow her to participate in the school's parent-child football match. She said: "At first glance, you are a coder. Others are successful people over one million, so don't embarrass you."
Little did they know that when Qin Wei owed high loans for the sake of the school district housing, the debt collector ran into the house to intimidate and threaten, it had caused psychological shadows and trauma to the 5-year-old child. Is there anything more important than the healthy growth of the child? Even if you buy a school district house and bring a shadow to your child’s life, what’s the point?
"The sea of bitterness is endless and it is the shore." Qin Wei put down her butcher knife in front of the "scalper" who could get her daughter to the key quota. She said: I can't go to this second time. I can go to any school I can go to. I believe my daughter can also study well."
He Xiaohan, her husband is a very good surgeon, while her mother-in-law is a powerful and powerful strong woman. They also have a daughter. Her mother-in-law has always looked down on He Xiaohan, who has only a college diploma, and she prefers boys over girls. She doesn't let her grandson Youyou play football in school, and quietly drops her grandson's football uniform and puts on a princess skirt. In order to win some face in front of her mother-in-law, He Xiaohan uses all means to make her children's quota in school. In order to successfully meet the principal of the school, she deliberately destroys the cake support made by her classmate's mother.
00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 Obstacles" Children are the bottom line of mothers. He Xiaohan, who has been swallowing his anger, finally broke out. A battle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has begun. He Xiaohan decided to move and live separately from her mother-in-law to help her children create a good growth environment.
Zhou Nannan, a single mother, even used up all her skills for the children's quota for admission to school. She firmly believed that she could also give Xiaoyang a happy life, but at the key node of "school to primary school", she deeply realized the dilemma of work and family, whether it is chicken blood or free stocking. She gave the answer at the interview meeting of the children's key schools: "Education is fun and learning is fun, and children's healthy and happy growth is the most important."
Whether it is Su Qing who buried her child's childhood in the sea of questions and tutoring classes, or the vain Qin Wei, the competitive He Xiaohan, and the single-item mother Zhou Nannan, no one is born to be a mother. How old is the child? How old is the child? The child's childhood is only once. Don't let the anxiety of adults make the child pay for it.
Su Qing focused all his attention on exams and school entrance examinations, and forgot that children need more careful care and self-space for growth. Just as Zhou Nannan said: "Qin Wei, what the child needs is not a school district house, but a safe home. She is only 5 years old. You ask her to pretend to be sick, lie, and be intimidated. If something happens to the child, what is the point of having a school district house?" He Xiaohan, people are not comparable to people. The health of the child is the most important thing. There is no need to cater to the mother-in-law and make the child wronged. After all, the child's growth is only once!
Chicken blood or free stocking? Do you want to be yourself for your children or be determined to be yourself? After misunderstandings, conflicts and reconciliation, these mothers have gained their own growth while protecting their children through the important stage of their lives of "school-to-primary" people.
Nowadays, children are really under great pressure. Many times, parents only focus on their academic performance, ignore their children's growth, health and happiness, and blindly enroll them in various tutoring classes and interest classes. But they have never asked their children whether they like or whether they are tired. In fact, as long as the children are willing to study, we parents should stand firmly beside the children, cheer for their children, and be the most silent and powerful cheerleader.
In fact, children are originally an independent individual. We parents always regard children as their own accessories, place their unfinished dreams on them, impose their own ideas on them, take charge and bind them, but never give the initiative to them. Focusing on your child’s academic performance and never listening to your child’s inner world will make your parent-child relationship in danger over time, and even causing irreparable psychological trauma to your child due to temporary mistakes!
Brewer Carter, a famous American psychologist, once said: " The cultivation of healthy psychology of children is more important than caring for children's bodies. Only when children have a healthy psychology can they challenge the future and strive for success."
