Writer Zweig said that all the gifts of fate have been secretly bid for the price.
Everyone hopes to have a happy marriage life, but everyone has a different definition of happiness: some people think that a happy marriage life should be luxurious and enviable; some people think that a happy marriage life is to spend every day happily with their lovers.
Most people with the first idea will live a very tired life in their marriage. is precisely because they cannot let go of their vanity, so they always want to show their bright and beautiful side to their relatives and friends, and this glamorous performance often costs a lot.
The essence of a marriage life is dullness. Behind the nobleness before others is the suffering of others. Those who cannot let go of their vanity will also find it difficult to obtain a happy marriage life.
In the novel " Necklace " by the writer Maupassant , Mathilde is a person who cannot let go of his vanity in his married life. When she attended a dinner, in order to become the focus of the audience, she borrowed a precious jewelry necklace from her friend. That night, Mathilde indeed became the object of envy, but unfortunately, after returning home, Mathilde found that she had lost the necklace.
In desperation, Mathilde had no choice but to borrow money and bought a necklace to return it to his friend. From then on, her life changed completely. She embarked on the road to pay back the money slowly, just to satisfy her vanity overnight, but it took 10 years to repay the price. Is this really worth it?
Only those who can give up vanity can gain happiness in their marriage life.
1, plainness is the main color of marriage life.
The beautiful Mathilde originally used a plain and happy marriage life.
Although her husband is just an ordinary employee, they are very in love, but in this married life, the only thing that makes Mathilde feel that the beauty is that she feels that she is born with beauty and should not live such an ordinary life.
Mathilde always yearned for being able to get a moment in life and become the focus of the attention. Finally, when her husband got an invitation to a high-end party, she knew that the opportunity to show her was coming.
In order to appear at the dinner in a noble manner, Mathilde spent many years of savings to buy a dress, and even borrowed a necklace from his friend.
In my opinion, plainness is the main color of marriage life. It is unwise for Mathilde to waste so extravagantly just to attend a dinner.
2. In order to satisfy vanity, it will cost a lot.
Mathilde felt that it was precisely because of the blessing of the dress and necklace that she became the focus of attention at the dinner.
Komathilde didn't know that the reason why she gained favor with others was also probably because she had a beautiful appearance.
pursues material satisfaction and hopes to use material to highlight one's own excellence. This is actually a very superficial behavior and a manifestation of too strong vanity.
It was not until Mathilde lost that necklace that she knew she would pay off the huge debt that she regretted her actions.
For the next 10 years, Mathilde lived a life of slackness just to be able to return the necklace to her friends.
It is not worth it to pay 10 years for the satisfaction of one night of vanity.
3. Only by letting go of vanity can you achieve a happy marriage life.
When Mathilde paid off her debt, she was no longer the elegant and taste-conscious woman. One day, she met the friend who once lent her necklace on the street corner.
She walked up and told the other party about her experience. Unexpectedly, the other party actually told her that the necklace she lent to her was fake.
Mathilde was very painful when she learned of this result. She fantasized that if it weren't for the necklace borrowing, her life might not have been so bad now.
In my opinion, if Mathilde could get rid of her vanity, she would have a dull and happy marriage life, and it was her vanity that made her life in a dilemma.
The novel "Necklace" brings us the inspiration: if a person's vanity is too strong, he will not be able to obtain a happy marriage life.
When Mathilde learned that the necklace she borrowed from her friend was fake, she would have regretted it very much. If she had been able to live her ordinary life with peace of mind, her life would have been happy and would not have been as embarrassed as she is now.
The essence of marriage life is dullness. Only those who can accept dullness can feel sweetness and happiness in a dull life. Occasional romance and luxury may be the seasoning in a happy married life, but if you just want to satisfy your vanity, you will pay a great price.
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