A rough count is that a beautiful girl, from 18 to 25 years old, will be released every year at school, at work, on the road, in consumption places, and online, stare at her, flirt with her, pick up conversations, add WeChat, ask her, and give her gifts.
When a person has too many choices, it will disturb his mind. This is called the violence of choice in psychology. Just like when everyone chooses instant noodles in supermarkets, there are many difficulties in choosing. In fact, girls can only remember a few people in the end: the best person, the worst person, and the most unique person.
In daily life, the values of boys showing gentlemanly demeanor, responsible attitude, fashionable clothing, humorous conversation, good car, good reputation, high-ranking, good education, good voice, good nose, etc., may make women interested. However, if these values do not show uniqueness in front of girls, it will be difficult to have strong attraction.
Who is scarce is chased, this is the basic game rule of the gender relationship. So what is scarcity? It is that the value is unique and irreplaceable. Therefore, in the process of self-construction, men should build their own value based on their own advantages and make themselves scarce.
has unique value, which not only allows girls to remember, but also makes girls interested. But we need to remember two points:
1. Everyone’s positioning must be based on value, separated from the personal positioning of value, and has no meaning to girls.
2. Positioning is sacrifice! Don’t fantasize about putting all the characteristics of perfect men in the world on yourself, as this gives girls the feeling of being empty.
Everyone should combine their own advantages to create one or more value points that can be seen, and these value points are widely popular among the crowd. This will attract girls to the maximum extent.
has practical skills that can help others solve problems. When others need it, be more enthusiastic, maybe she will be waiting for you there.
For example, you can do it; you can repair computers, take photos, understand cars, have sports expertise (skiing, swimming, billiards, etc.), have extensive knowledge, have wide connections, and have superb cooking skills. You must also master some fixed programs that can bring happiness to others, bravely express yourself and spread happiness, maybe she will be there to watch you.
For example, you can do musical instruments, sing, interpret zodiac signs, make magic, tell jokes, make games, and wear exquisite clothes.
must also be able to show your attitude and value through unique descriptions of gender relations, values, attitudes to life, and experiences.
For example, a girl said, do you want your wife to go out to work? At this time, you say that this is not important, the key is that she does what she likes, has an independent personality, and lives happily and freely.
without comparison, there is no harm. Life is full of homosexual competition and a stage for value display everywhere. So how can men stand out? It means being good at using your own strengths, consciously highlighting your strengths, or being unique. Remember, this is a kind of consciousness.
In some environments, under some conditions, only by doing better can you have a comparative advantage.
For example, the girl you secretly love is a basketball fan, you have to practice hard to attract girls’ attention on the court.
At the same time, you must be good at discovering the shortcomings of your competitors and make full use of your strengths to show your unique value.
For example, if you have just joined an IT company, you find that the engineers in the company are dressed casually and meticulously. At this time, you go to work in exquisite and humorous clothes, and you will soon win the favor of several girls.
Also, when you get off work, your colleagues are busy walking out of the elevator. You only block the elevator door with one hand and press the elevator switch with the other. You will not let go of your hands until everyone walks out of the elevator.
If your colleagues in the company go for a picnic together on weekends, you can show your rich survival knowledge and strong hands-on ability. If other male colleagues compare with you, who do you think female colleagues prefer?
Same-sex competition is a very profound, complex and huge topic. Men should have the awareness of same-sex competition and stand out thinking. This is the fundamental goal of men to build their own charm, and it is also the goal and principle of the entire charm construction of Longyu Love.
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