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November 8th at 6 am, junior high school student Tang walked out of the school gate. Six days later, the body was fished out from the pond 500 meters away from the school gate. "There is bruises on the body, and the nose is on the ground. There was blood on his mouth. "
Pengpai News November 15th In response to the incident of "Tang, a junior high school student in Hengyang, Hunan Province, was caught in the pond at the school gate after six days of missing Tang, a middle school student in Hengyang, Qidong County, Hunan Province, disappeared", on November 15th, Qidong The county's authoritative source confirmed to The Paper that the body of a junior high school student Tang was found in the pond after his disappearance was true, and the local police have intervened in the investigation.
15 In the early morning of the 15th, Mr. Tang, the father of the student, introduced to The Paper that his son is a left-behind student, is 14 years old this year, and is studying in the third year of junior high school in Buyunqiao Town Middle School in Qidong County. He usually boards at school and lives with his grandfather during holidays. Together, "scores are average in the class, introverted, and have an average relationship with classmates in the class."
Mr. Tang said that on November 8, he received a message from his son's class teacher that the child was missing. On the day of his disappearance, the school was conducting a midterm exam . On November 9, I rushed back to my hometown from Dongguan to find my son. On November 10, the family members failed to find the case and reported it to the local police station. It was not until November 13 that the son's body was salvaged from a pond about 500 meters away from the school gate.
Mr. Tang revealed that the video surveillance at the school gate showed that his son walked out of the school gate at around 6 a.m. on November 8 and never returned to the campus again.
"When I saw the body, my son had bruises on his body, and blood was on his nose and mouth." Mr. Tang denied the rumors that his son was the class monitor and had been bullied by campus before his death.
He said that on November 15, the body of his son will be subjected to an autopsy, and he believes that the police will find out the real cause of his son's death.
htmlOn 15, an authoritative source of Qidong County revealed to The Paper that the death of middle school student Tang after disappearance is true. The local police have intervened and are investigating the cause of the student's death.
Source: Pengpai News
I believe the police will find out the cause of death and give parents an explanation, but what we are more worthy of is the mental health problems of left-behind children.
In today's social environment, some parents choose to go out to work for their livelihood issues. Since they have no way to take care of their children in the city where they work, they choose to leave their children in the countryside or leave them to their relatives for care.
The survival status of left-behind children has attracted more and more attention in recent years. Due to the lack of parents' care, they are not only often injured by accidents, but their own psychological conditions are also worrying.
They are another form of "orphans", and psychological problems need to be solved urgently.
Suicide examples of left-behind children are not an isolated case. In recent years, suicides of left-behind children have occurred frequently:
2014, 9-year-old left-behind children hang themselves in Wangjiang County, Anhui Province tragedy occurred in , 9-year-old left-behind children hang themselves;
2013, two left-behind children in Xuyi County, Jiangsu Province, two left-behind children in Xuyi County, Jiangsu Province, in 2013, two left-behind children were left-behind children. Children commit suicide by taking medicine due to lack of parental care;
In 2012, a 6-year-old left-behind girl in Yuhuan County, Zhejiang Province, was caught in the movie and committed suicide by jumping into the sea;
In 2011, a 10-year-old left-behind child in Lantian County, Xi'an committed suicide by drinking pesticides;
In 2010, five left-behind children in Fufeng County, Shaanxi made a meeting to commit suicide even more shocking the people. ;
In 2009, left-behind female high school student committed suicide by burning charcoal with her;
In 2008, a teenager in Anhui committed suicide by missing her parents.
These are just a few cases that have been seen in the media. In reality, it is difficult to estimate how many left-behind children have thoughts and behaviors of suicide.
hope that these tragedies will truly arouse the attention of society and the government to the left-behind children. also hopes that more parents will realize the seriousness of the problem, and will not artificially create "left-behind" children, and will not let them give up on "love".
Behind the suicide of left-behind children, it is exposed that this group has prominent mental health problems. Such psychological diseases are at the least only loneliness, self-blame, allergies, etc., and at the worst, they show tendencies such as self-harm, suicide and even violence.
National second-level psychological counselor Wen Li, Taiyuan Anding Hospital, said: Left-behind children have been together with their parents all year round, and intergenerational education also has a certain impact on their children's growth ideas. As parents, we must face up to the psychological problems of left-behind children
Psychological problems of left-behind children
1. Rebellious and irritable: Left-behind children will mistakenly think that their parents ignore him and give up their education. will cause no psychological consequences anyway. Rebellious psychology of human control .
Among the students who violate discipline in rural schools, "left-behind students" account for the vast majority. Lower grades and preschool children generally show truant school and lateness; fail to complete homework; petty theft; dishonest and often lie; senior grade "left-behind children" He began to develop a rebellious mentality, had a strong sense of attack, contradicted the teacher, disobeyed the discipline, and even had blind impulsiveness and fighting.
2. Inferiority: Compared with classmates who have been with their parents since childhood, left-behind children in will invisibly form an inferiority complex, mistakenly thinking that they are no one caring for and no parents can support them.
The instability of the family environment makes them lack a sense of security and belonging, thus bringing a strong sense of loneliness. Due to their lack of emotional support and introverted personality, they will appear weak and helpless when encountering some troubles, and over time they become unwilling to communicate with others. Long-term taciturn, silence, anxiety and tension can easily lead these children to a loneliness, inferiority and closed mind.
3. Three views judgment: The educational problem of intergenerational education may lead to biased understanding of today's society, because parents lack education since childhood.
Left-behind children rely on their weak understanding ability, and it is difficult for to form a correct outlook on life, values, and worldview, and may even give up on themselves. quit school and dropped out of school and entered society very early.
National second-level psychological counselor Wen Li, Taiyuan Anding Hospital, said: Left-behind children are in families where their parents are missing. Because of the lack of fatherly love and motherly love, they have become a group of "spiritual orphans". No matter how well the grandparents take care of themselves, they cannot replace their parents. The psychological problems caused by the lack of companionship and care for children and the lack of family affection will cause serious harm to children. (Call the health hotline: 0351-6629999 for consultation)
For children, the place where they have parents is home. If your child has no choice but to "stay behind", I hope you can do it:
1. Try to meet the children more, hug them more, and kiss them.
2. If you really can’t meet, call more, or chat online, ask them about happy or unhappy things, so that they can feel the love of their parents and the warmth of home.
3. Can’t go home during festivals and festivals, can you bring your children to a small gathering?
Taiyuan Anding Hospital national second-level psychological counselor Wen Li suggested: When left-behind children gradually grow up, some behavioral problems are discovered. Parents need to attach great importance to them in their thinking, but they need to be handled with caution. Reduce the practice of immediately preaching, persuading or suppressing children, and do not easily label children as "bad children", spend more time with children, listen to their psychological thoughts, and look at their advantages. For serious problems with , it is necessary to seek professional psychological counseling support.
The tragedy of left-behind children makes us understand: the most urgent task at the moment is actually to conduct a special mental health census for left-behind children in various places. Taiyuan Anding Psychological Assistance Volunteer Service Center, a public welfare institution dedicated to serving the mental health of the public. can help left-behind children in need to do a free mental health census. For left-behind children who are diagnosed with psychological crises and diseases, we will Develop a special psychological assistance program to provide psychological intervention and treatment for them. (Call the health hotline: 0351-6629999 for consultation)
Taiyuan Anding Psychological Assistance Volunteer Service Center is a private non-enterprise public welfare institution approved and under the supervision of the Taiyuan Civil Affairs Bureau.The center is mainly composed of psychological and mental health experts at Taiyuan Anding Hospital, as well as relevant experts in the field of mental health inside and outside the province, psychological counselors, psychological workers, social workers, psychology volunteers, etc., and mainly carries out various forms of psychological assistance volunteer services. , undertake psychological assistance volunteer services organized or commissioned by the government and relevant departments, publicize and popularize mental health knowledge and mental health knowledge, and use the concept of mental health to provide psychological assistance volunteer services to all types of people.
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