At that time, Lu Buwei asked his sister to persuade Mrs. Huayang to establish a prince, and said a very famous saying: "I heard that those who use sex to do things to others will fall in love with love."
This can be said to be a female As the famous saying goes, serve others with your beauty. When your beauty fades, your favor will never come back. Especially the women who lived deep in the harem in ancient times. The emperor's family has always been unkind, so how can they expect to exchange their beauty for lifelong favor?
Unfortunately, Vietnam 's last queen Ruan Huu Lan did not understand this truth. She married the last emperor of Vietnam, Bao Dai, as "the most beautiful woman in French Indochina". Naturally, the ending waiting for her can only be described as sad.
Ruan Youlan was born into a wealthy family, her father was a well-known businessman, and he doted on his only daughter in every possible way. So, when she was 12 years old, was sent to study in France.
At this time, Bao Dai Nguyen Phuc Ho had already ascended the throne as emperor in 1926. However, Baoda is not an ignorant person. He studied in France when he was a child, and he is quite able to appreciate the beauty of the new civilization and fashion.
Under such circumstances, traditional women from domestic aristocratic families simply could not catch Baoda's attention. For this reason, his mother had a headache. Because she had always wanted to marry her niece to Baoda, so that the wealth would not go to outsiders.
In 1934, Ruan Youlan returned from studying abroad. At the age of 18, she was as graceful as an orchid. What young man would not be moved by a woman like ?
Therefore, the French governor took a "monthly exam" and personally connected Bao Da with Ruan Youlan. When Baoda saw Ruan Youlan, he was not only moved but also filled with joy.
As the emperor, since Baoda is moved, he must get what he wants. He immediately applied to his mother: I want to marry the queen, Ruan Youlan, who is from a well-born family.
Bao Da’s mother was very unhappy about this. A woman who had studied abroad was not suitable to be the Queen of Vietnam at all. What’s more, Ruan Youlan was still a Catholic. How could this be the way a mother should behave in the world?
But Bao Dai insisted not to marry anyone other than Ruan Youlan, and the French ambassador pushed for it, so the Queen Mother had no choice but to nod. However, when facing Ruan Youlan, the Queen Mother still couldn't like this daughter-in-law, and often treated her with a cold face.
Young Ruan Youlan didn't take it seriously. She accepted new ideas and believed that love is the first priority and marriage is a matter between two people. So what if her mother-in-law doesn't like it: "As long as my husband loves me, that's fine."
Poor girl, marriage has never been a matter of two people, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is far more important than you think. Although she was young at the time, Ruan Youlan still decided to get married.
Bao Dai almost gave Ruan Youlan the greatest favor. Before getting married, he promised: Abolish the "seven concubines" system of the Vietnamese royal family, marry her only to one person in his life, and live a monogamous life.
Not only that, Nguyen You Lan was canonized as the queen when she got married, with the emblem "Nam Fong ", becoming the first and last person in Vietnamese history to wear a yellow robe and enter the marriage.
The beautiful Queen Nanfang, at that time, the love in her heart was enough to overflow, right? But she didn't know how strong this love was and how cold it would become in the future.
This is the ultimate interpretation of the so-called "If life is only like the first meeting" , men and women, love and favor, are just like the first meeting. There are very few marriages that can truly withstand the test of time.
In 1939, Ruan Youlan wore a white embroidered dress and visited Europe with her husband Bao Dai. This was not unfamiliar to her, but Europe was amazed by her beauty.
"She wore trousers and an embroidered coat. The lapels and sleeves made the side profile look like a pagoda." This was how a European reporter described Ruan Youlan at the time, which shows how amazing her style is.
Soon, Ruan Youlan gave birth to his first child, but Baoda still loved him to death. So the young couple really lived a loving life for a long time.
Even though the mother-in-law still doesn't want to see this stylish and beautiful daughter-in-law, she can't do anything about her son. Ruan Youlan was almost sure of victory and began to have children one after another.
In fact, the frequency of having children at that time was almost the degree of love between a woman and her husband. After all, the concept of childbirth at that time was still based on letting nature take its own course.
Although Ruan Youlan received a Western education, because she was immersed in love, giving birth to a child for her beloved man became her most accomplished thing.
As everyone knows, when women give birth, their body shape, energy and appearance are all changing. When Ruan Youlan gave birth to her fifth child, she was no longer as slim as before. The small waist that used to be too small to hold in one's hand has become round and plump.
For Bao Da, the Queen Nam Fong in his mind should always stay in the stunning state when he first met her. After many years, the plump, round, homely and traditional Ruan Youlan is no longer the one who can impress him. But the real yellow face is .
When love fades, Baoda inevitably falls in love with someone else. His once promise of "monogamy" has long since turned into a fiasco. Queen Nanfang was taking care of the children who were waiting to be fed in the harem, while he was pursuing a newcomer who was 29 years younger than him in the previous court.
At this time, the Queen Mother became a key figure again. She once opposed her son's marriage to the foreigner Ruan Youlan, but she had no objection at all to her son's new appointment, a French woman. On the contrary, she strongly supported her son's remarriage.
Old lady, is this a double standard? Although Ruan Youlan has studied abroad and has French citizenship, she still looks Vietnamese. You can't accept this, so why would you be okay with it if it were a real French woman?
If Ruan Youlan had time to take this into consideration, she would probably think of the importance of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If the mother-in-law can support herself, with her five children behind her, how dare her husband do so blatantly?
In the end, Baoda accepted the concubine, and Queen Nanfang became an old member of the harem. Only new people laugh, who hears old people crying? When Bao Da was kissing the newlyweds, he had already forgotten about Ruan Youlan.
However, not long after, Vietnam was captured by Japan. As the last emperor, Baoda didn't care about the reality of the country's precarious situation, and still lived a life of shuttle between beautiful flowers.
Perhaps having seen through Vietnam’s fate, Ruan Youlan became increasingly indifferent to her husband, and they almost no longer communicated with each other. The future of the country and the status of the queen are no longer what she cares about, because her heart is too cold to hold anything about Vietnam.
In 1947, the frustrated Ruan Youlan took her five children and left for France. Baoda ignored this. Apart from his ambition to restore the royal family, he only had to find new people to enrich his life.
How much weight does Ruan Youlan still have in Baoda's heart at this time? It’s really hard to say, because he soon went into exile in France, but he did not live with Ruan Youlan and almost never saw him.
Ruan Youlan lives with her children in a small village in the Corrèze department of France. It is said that it was an estate purchased by her mother-in-law. At the critical moment, Ruan Youlan still owns his own house. This is considered a blessing in misfortune, right?
In this small village, Ruan Youlan spent the last 16 years of his life and died of heart disease in 1963. Baoda was in France at this time, but he didn't even have time to go and see his wife for the last time.
If life is just like the first time we met, why is the autumn wind sad to draw a fan? It is easy to change the heart of an old friend, but it is said that the heart of an old friend is easy to change. The true nature of love is that it is hot when you love it and withers when there is no love. Ruan Youlan spent the rest of her life because of her husband's neglect and change of heart, but she never understood the true meaning of love.
A true love is never about physical attraction. Interesting souls are definitely one in a million. If given the chance to choose again, Ruan Youlan should understand this truth, right?
