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Wang Baoqiang’s divorce incident is new every day Progress, who is right and who is wrong, seems to have little to do with us melon-eaters. Although we also love gossip, let’s go back to the issue of children’s education. There is a famous saying: How big a problem your family has is just looking at your children.

Looking back at Wang Baoqiang taking his daughter Nana to participate in "Where Are We Going, Dad?", the daughter's disrespect and lack of intimacy with her father are reflected. Wang Baoqiang has a responsibility as a father, but it also shows that there are problems with her mother's education.

We don’t compare children, and we hate the abuse and speculation directed at children. Every child is born innocent and cute, and Nana is the same. She told Kangkang that she would fight the bad guys with him. He told Dajun that you can't step on plants or snails because they will hurt if you step on their hair. Many details show that she is a very sweet and warm little girl.

Nana has a somewhat shy personality and is not willing to complete tasks or play with other babies. This is related to the temporary joining of classes and the failure of parents to prepare their children mentally in advance. But Nana also constantly challenges herself. For example, during the military training period, Nana performed very well.

The biggest problem is the way Nana and Wang Baoqiang get along.

Wang Baoqiang asked: "Nana, would you like to go to a show with dad?"

Nana: "No, I'm not familiar with you."

Wang Baoqiang: "That show is really fun, the beautiful scenery and lovely places Little animals, beautiful big sisters..."

Nana: "Really, not bad..."

Nana bosses Wang Baoqiang around, and you can see Wang Baoqiang's shadow at home. Nana often said to her father, "Give me what you want." Until Ma Rong said to Wang Baoqiang on TV, "Give me..." You will understand who Nana learned these words from.

In the show, Wang Baoqiang said that he was often slapped. If there was a scene where he knelt down and begged for mercy, had Nana seen it?

If they have seen it, does dad still have an image in their minds? Netizens broke the news that Ma Rong has not let Wang Baoqiang go home for the New Year for seven years. I speculate that the children are not familiar with their father's family.

On the contrary, the families of Liu Ye and Deng Chao have always been role models in the entertainment industry. Let’s take a look at their interactions with their children.

Deng Chao said on Weibo that children should look up to their father at home; Liu Ye does not let his children speak French at home, etc. Although there are many elements of jokes, it also shows that the father has absolute authority at home.

In comparison, Wang Baoqiang’s education method has big problems, such as low self-esteem, unconditional doting, unconditional praise, too little time to accompany his children, etc.

Let’s compare the differences between mothers, the children’s main caregivers – Ma Rong vs Anna, Ma Rong vs Huang Jiaqian. The gap is visible when it comes to treating children and respecting their father.

A family where parents respect each other is a peaceful family.

If you intentionally or unintentionally undermine the other half’s authority and deny the other half’s judgment in front of the children, it will not only cause a rift in the relationship between husband and wife, but also cause the collapse of the balanced relationship between parents and children, making the children rely too much on one party and alienate the other. On the one hand, the child's psychology will also be gloomy when he or she becomes an adult.

In the following set of test questions, ask yourself whether you have done this inadvertently. If you have done more than 8 things, you really need to reflect on whether you are destroying the image of your partner in the child's mind.

1. Do you often deny your partner’s opinions in front of your children, or insist on arguing over some minor issues?

2. When your partner says no, tell your child it’s okay.

3. Say bad things about your significant other to your children, or say things that make fun of your significant other.

4. Sleep with your children, not with your partner.

5. Ignore the other half’s education methods and often overturn the rules set by him or her.Tell your child, "Don't listen to your mother/your father! What does he know!"

6. When your partner is away, you and your child do not follow the rules set by him/her. When he comes back, you pretend to do it again.

7. The other half is often used to threaten children (for example, if you don’t obey again, wait until your father/your mother comes back to deal with you!) "If your mother/your father finds out, you will be in trouble."

8. Tell your children: This matter Don't tell your mother/father.

9. When your partner is punishing your child and you run out to rescue him, even if his punishment is correct, you just feel bad and insist on helping your child reduce the punishment.

10. Unite with your children to fight against the authority of your other half.

11. Argue in front of the children about the right and wrong ways to educate them.

12. No matter what happens to the child, he is too lazy to tell his partner.

13. Don’t allow your significant other to do things for your children because you don’t trust them.

14. Tell your children (or tell your partner in front of your children) that you want a divorce.

15. When your child makes a mistake, you cover for him or take the blame on yourself.

16. Complain to your friends about your husband/wife or mother-in-law, while your children are still present.

The significance of Wang Baoqiang’s divorce to us melon-eating people also lies in making us reflect on how to deal with the two "musts" and the three "don'ts" if the marriage cannot continue -

Parents should take care of their children's emotions after divorce

Many Couples will denigrate each other as they compete for children.

There are many divorce incidents in the entertainment industry. The one that impressed me the most was that of Huang Yi and her ex-husband. At that time, the incident of kidnapping of children between the two parties made a big fuss. Children are innocent, but if there is a divorce, they will definitely need the care of the elders. The words and deeds of either party will affect the children.

I have a friend who divorced his ex-wife. Under the influence of his grandma, his children would often call their mother "cheating" and "unconscionable." If we really get to the stage of divorce, no matter how big the hatred is, we should learn to resolve it, because our life choices have nothing to do with our children. Even if our parents cannot live together, we are still the ones who love him most. If you really get divorced, you should also inform the people close to the child, such as grandparents, grandparents, and teachers at school, and ask them to help observe the child's emotions and take care of the changes in the child's feelings.

Divorced parents also need to ensure the healthy growth of their children.

Of course, when a couple is indifferent, tense, and has no communication for a long time, it is better to choose divorce for relief.

Divorce is not a terrible thing, and not all children will support and understand their parents' decision to divorce. Parents must work together, consider their children's feelings more, and pass on open-mindedness, sincerity, and wisdom to their children instead of complaining, being indifferent, or slandering. It is best for both parties to inform the child about the divorce together. Don't say too many negative things to the child. Tell him calmly: "Even if mom and dad live separately and no longer live together, we will still be your parents, just like before." Love you. “Try to minimize the harm of divorce to your children and ensure that they can grow up healthily. You should also remind your children that divorce is a matter for adults and has nothing to do with the children.

Don’t let your children feel insecure after parents are divorced

Some parents insist on pretending to be a harmonious couple in order to prevent their children from being affected. In fact, the child is sensitive, he is not a fool. Now that the marriage has broken down, try to divorce as peacefully as possible.

Children are independent individuals and are not the private property of their parents. We cannot continue to do things that hurt our children because of our own selfishness and fear of losing them. Everything happens for a reason. When a marriage comes to an end, it is inevitable that there will be some extreme emotions that are difficult to calm down. No one could accept that someone who was once so candid and unfair would now be so unfaithful. But when couples are fighting each other, please don’t forget to ignore the needs of your children. For the couple this is an unhappy marriage, but for the children it represents the disintegration of a family. He is also afraid of choosing and losing either side.The key is whether the parents handle it appropriately, understand the child's needs well, care for the child's growth, and give him enough security.

Don’t make children feel stressed when parents are divorced.

Parents’ emotions will affect their children, and divorce will also create a sense of psychological pressure on their children. When some children learn that their parents are divorcing, they become taciturn, restrain themselves, and do not like to communicate with the outside world.

Many families believe that the best love for their children is a complete marriage. In fact, children need more than just the form of marriage. If it is just to protect the child from getting hurt, imprisoning the child in a loveless, cold and ruthless environment will be detrimental to his growth.

We must not think that children don’t understand anything when they are young. Children’s ability to understand life is beyond our imagination. Although Xiao Wenxin is only three years old, she finds that she becomes very sensitive whenever my father and I are angry. When we go out to play, I hold one hand with my father and the other. For a child, a family includes his parents and himself. They especially long for a harmonious and complete family. Once their parents divorce, it means the split of the original family, which means that the understanding of "home" will be redefined.

When parents are divorced, don’t put hatred on their children.

If the couple decides to divorce, don’t care too much about material things. You can't make a fuss about money and hurt your feelings. Faced with the separation of flesh and blood, children will definitely experience anxiety and discomfort. Maintain as much of a routine with the children as possible, and do not take away visitation rights from the other parent. Provide more companionship and communication, encourage children to express their thoughts, and provide appropriate guidance so that children can feel that their parents' love for them still exists. Don't be rude or scold the other person in front of your children. Some parents will force their children to stand in their own position, asking whether they want to be with their father or their mother. Never ask your children such questions, let alone put your hatred towards your ex on your children.

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